Page 10 | What's the worst thing a DH/DP has ever said to you?

Norky1975 · 2017-03-23T13:32:37+00:00

Mine include "Are you doing any ironing this week?"

TheLastNameLeft · 25/03/2017 12:24

I suffer from stress alopecia, although I haven't had it for a while now fingers crossed

I was going through a horrid stressy period at work a few years ago and, following a shower one day, my conversation with STBXH went thus;

"I think I am losing my hair again"

His reply;

"How careless of you"

C**t

coldcanary · 25/03/2017 12:29

You're not a real woman because...
You don't like anal
You say no to sex with me
My friends think you're a tomboy and hate you (which is why I'm still friends with most of them after 22 years)
You wear jeans
You don't clean the kitchen (his kitchen, we didn't live together)
The most bizarre one was - you drink bitter!
And the classic 'I hit you because I love you so much'
I got very lucky though, the last I heard of him he was 2 years into a prison sentence for killing his wife.
Murdering scummy prick.

HeavenlyEyes · 25/03/2017 12:44

MsGame - just reminded me my ex did the same. Took DC who was crying and locked himself with them in the bedroom and wouldn't let me in. I was begging at the door for him to let me in so I could breastfeed starving newborn and he would not let me in. Why I didn't call the police I did not know. What is wrong with these monsters to do this to someone. I now live in fear for his other dc with new woman/en. But what can I do - nothing.

Dowser · 25/03/2017 12:57

I'm glad my ex mil didn't live long enough to see what a nasty twat her son turned into.

Mine was Jekyll and hyde. Only turned up the heat when we were divorcing and it didn't go as planned for him
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I wasn't meant to find anyone else. So he was quie shocked and told our dil if he ever hurts her ill go round to sort him out
Our dil said she's in a safe pair of hands there.
He died two years and to be honest, I gave a sigh of relief.

redstep · 25/03/2017 13:05

@charlotteswigwam It's the combination of intelligent + abusive that's often the most sinister - like your ex. When I read back my post I thought nowhere near as abusive in content as others but just the hypocrisy of things he did, the manipulation and passive calm ways to indicate there is something off with you and not with him. Your guy sounds a bit similar.

MsGameandWatch · 25/03/2017 13:39

I think how you react sometimes depends what stage you're at in the abuse, how long it's been going on. Also my kids were non negotiable and I think instinct just took over. He pushed me out of the house once while my four and one year old were inside and said he'd never let me back in. I went absolutely crazy, screaming for my kids and using things in the garden to try to smash through the door, he opened it pretty quickly and he looked scared, that was one of two times I ever saw him look scared of me. He stopped using the kids after that but I think I was pretty close to the mental breakdown I eventually had I think even these monsters sense when people have nothing left to lose.

littlemissangrypants · 25/03/2017 14:01

My ex smoked pot and pretended he had stopped. Made me think I was going mad and told me to get commited. I booked a doctors appointment and he finally told me the truth and laughed at me for believing I was mad.
When I was giving birth to my youngest he took the gas and air as he needed it more. I was just pretending to be in pain adn needed to shut the fuck up or else. Also forcing me to have sex 2 weeks after giving birth was normal. He also spent both labours eating and sleeping as I was taking too long. (pretty standard 12 hours first labour and 6 hour second labour). I also failed to give birth properly.
He also told me I was an immature bitch and he would have the kids taken off me if i ever left him. He met me when I was just days after my 16th birthday. He was 8 years older.
He also told me he started doing drugs years before he met me as he knew he was going to meet a bitch like me so needed something to cope with.
Ex also told me we only had £15 a week for food and nappies for me and the two babies while spending £100 a week on drugs and more for food for himself.
Ex called me a beached whale while I was heavily pregnant.
The day my mother died he told me to stop being so fucking miserable. I had nothing to be upset about and to get the kids to school. He had to have the day off that day as he was so sad and needed to get stoned.
I have a serious heart condition and was blue lighted to hospital several times. He beat and screamed abuse at me as I couldn't do housework. When I finally left he said to me: " I didn't know you were ill".
He told me I was raped and abused by my grandfather as I was a filthy slut. He told me I deserved to be raped by others too as I was such a whore. He filmed us having sex and showed his friends and told me I couldn't say anything as everyone knew I was a whore.
He told me I was never to have cheese in the house as he didn't like the smell. I stayed with that bastard for 13 years. The day he met his new woman he started eating cheese. Told me: " He has always loved cheese and I was a nutter".
He made me pay him babysitting money and told everyone else that I was refusing contact if i refused to pay. He told the kids he had no money for food due to me being a robbing thieving fat bitch. My kids were made to pass the message on.
His mother was a lovely woman and he still screamed abuse at her as one year when he was 8 he got a smaller cristmas present than his sister. His mother paid his bills and deposit for house and a load of other things. When she got ill and ended up in a hospice before her death he couldn't be bothered to visit her as football matches were too important. He also still held it against her about the christmas present. She has died and the presents are still an issue. He has had more out of her than his sister ever did.
All these were done and said by same ex. I survived 13 years and have little contact now. Every now and then he kicks off and tells me I'm mental but I'm used to it now. The kids have virtually no relationship with him but he tells others that I turned them against him. He doesnt pay maintenance when he goes on holiday or stag does as those are important things and the kids don't need much anyway.
He is now a middle aged loser with not much relationship with his kids and still moans how hard done by he has been. He will never change and the kids joke about putting him in a crappy care home when he's old.

PollytheDolly · 25/03/2017 14:22

Christ littlemiss.

That's abhorrent. I'm glad you're out of that and hope you're happy x

Lemondrop14 · 25/03/2017 16:35

Mrs C I could leave (him and his Mother who was as much of a bully as him) I do think about it but to be honest I'm away so much with my job and this is my daughter's home to come back to. It's a bit like a light switch - you turn it on and off enough and it will fuse. I just am not invested any more and so it doesn't hurt. I think a lot of women must feel this as they hit their fifties. When I think back though - if I'd have known how my life would have been - I would have run a mile. I look back and get upset and angry with myself for being such a doormat for both of them. Not any longer though - it's just me and my lovely daughter in my mind. Like littlemiss my daughter doesn't have any love for him either and he can't understand that you need to put some love in to get some out.

He doesn't realise that if you're in the pub every night after work and all weekend - your kid grows up and starts to see that you always put that before her. Especially when you came home boozed up and cruel.

I would love someone to come along and sweep me off my feet - but if and until then I'm ok. I read some of the above awful things and realise it wasn't as bad for me - just a waste of most of my life. I'm glad to see too that they are 'exes' - I was just too downtrodden to get out and now it doesn't really matter any more.

LalaDipsey · 25/03/2017 16:48

That it was no wonder I couldn't get pregnant as no baby would want to live inside such a hideous womb

HelgaHufflepuff76 · 25/03/2017 16:56

While I was heavily pregnant and feeling pretty shitty, he told my I looked "frumpy".
This was made worse by the fact that he was friends at the time with a group of people who were a few years younger than us and included several skinny and trendy young girls, who I knew he was comparing me to.

I cried.

Lilyloo456 · 25/03/2017 17:40

"You make me do this" ( he'd trashed the house in a drunken rage )
" it's your fault " ( after punching through a glass door and slashing his arm open
" you can't do anything right can you" ( after finding out our unborn son had a disability )
" no one will want you- you're fat and ugly " pretty much every day and if I dared try to end my marriage
"You're a lazy Bitch- why haven't you cleaned the skirting boards" ( ds was newborn and I was daring to try to sleep )
"All my friends hate you and even your friends have told me they're sick and tired of you" (tho one friend actually punched him after he bitched about me to her - tho he made my life hell when he came home that night)

IAmHumanAndINeedToBeLoved · 25/03/2017 18:53