Dating Thread 115 - come join us!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

pringle, he does have few good points:

• opens doors, pulls out chairs, basic good manors
• he has no baggage
• had a good job
• has a sense of humour

But that's about it. Maybe he was just nervous on the first date, just felt like he had no passion for anything, no hobbies and no get up and go.

I have just re joined POF, so far I haven't found anyone that ticks my boxes that are remotely attractive , I have had one message from someone who had no profile photo, telling me I look sexy. Looking through profiles of people half dressed, people sticking their fingers up, people requesting ' no larger than a size 10 ' and people holding a pint.

Lovemusic33 By all means have that second date, but if you can't come back here and describe why he excites you, I think that's it. You've just described some basic qualities for being a general human being, rather than a potential partner.

I find POF is sometimes horrible frustrating and sometimes very good. If you're having a crap time of it, take a break, hide your profile and then go back to it in a few weeks.

I feel better. Heard from Beardy. (He caved first!) I told him what I wanted to say and left it at that. Now I know whatever he decides, at least it will be an informed decision.

I am at peace. Not in an RIP way, that sounds terrible, but I am OK. Head reset.

My date from last Wednesday Mr Gym, has been texting me on and off all day. It's been fun and I wish I could see him again but he's away for the weekend.
However he has said he definitely wants to see me next weekend and one evening in the week if possible.
I've never got to date 2 before. I'm trying not to OI. Keep telling myself that nothing is true until it actually happens.

RunnnyMummy I hope you find a day and time that works. It's OK to hope a little, but don't OI. Even if he's lovely and date 2 involves a lot of lovely things, you still don't know him and he could be putting on an act. (I really should follow my own advice.) Have fun, but don't pin your life's hopes and dreams on him. It's too soon.

Pringle it sounds like the two of you are meant to be, if you've both caved after 2 days.
Runny good luck with your second date when it happens!

I had my first proper date with Mr Accent after our quick coffee on thurs. He met me with a big bouquet of flowers for Mother's Day and insisted on paying for lunch. My heart loved the attention and being treated so nicely but my head was screaming that I should be paying. He's really sweet and the language barrier wasn't too awful. We even had a proper kiss (my first kiss in 2 years).
I think what makes him good is that I know he's not long term relationship material. Also he's from Turkey so my parents would assume he's a terrorist/illegal immigrant. But he's fun and sweet and attractive

Loving the lists! I'd say: aged 29-40 and has a heartbeat.

So glad he got in touch first Pringlecat. How have you left it?

pringlecat Both are good news!
Lovemusic33 Same thoughts as pringlecat see what happens tomorrow.
I'm not sure if I'm too fussy or the opposite. What is the point of considering ppl you wouldn't usually go for if you then have no enthusiasm to meet them?

RunnnyMummy I echo pringlecat again very early days so exercise some caution.

MrsPussinBoots

How many dates before it's not dating anymore?

Yay pringlecat I'm glad you've heard from him!

MrsPussinBoots Nothing beats a good snog, eh? They're underrated.

MagnumPieEye Don't ask me, I've never got beyond 3 dates!

Re Beardy, we're both taking time out to think about what we want. But we've decided if we don't date, we'll stay friends at least. There's just something there - we can't go back to complete strangers. Like I said previously, I felt like we'd lived 5 years in 3 dates. They were all very intense.

I am content now, rather than clawing-at-the-walls anxious.

LM33, I only play gaming because I don't have anyone to cuddle up to instead!!

I messaged Miss Tinder today, she replied but just once and didn't reply to me. Guessing she's not interested! I'm surprised because our phone call was really nice but hey ho :)

I'm visiting my family today and they are right next to a big City. Getting loads of Tinder matches and messages. Damn not living near a City!!

He met me with a big bouquet of flowers for Mother's Day

Quick - double up on the contraception

Still not had a response about Weds from (I'll call him Mr Golf) how long would you expect to wait? As my message was just that it was OK, so no time/place set.

Mr Xbox may have gone to sleep! Gave him my gamertag (username) on Xbox haven't heard anything since. But he said he was very tired at 9 so wouldn't be surprised; it takes me ages to get to sleep even when I'm really tired though.
Ah wine and boredom don't mix well!

Ryan 6ft7 Glasgow looking for chat and adult friends!! Sick of you tube interrupted chat with d

Ok well one of my deal breakers listed on here earlier was kids. I didn't want to date someone who has then, based on past bad times...

Well introducing Mr Web, new tinder and now WhatsApp flame, who has 3! 10-14 years.

I outlined up front all my reservations and he's blasted them all away (as much as one can on text lol) and so we are meeting on Thursday and chatting in the meantime.

He understands mental health (has been there) and difficulties blending families (has been there too) and seems to be all good so far. And very beautiful! And same age as me. Plus he works from home flexible hours with his own company etc so much more practical than Mr Planes with his night shifts.

After being ghosted by Mr Planes who I was meant to be out with tonight, I'm glad to have a new interest.

Urgh, wish me luck!!

Pringle great news, hope you both can roll with it and enjoy being together

Date with MrTalkative went well. Definitely a spark (yay!) which he also admitted. He's asked me out on Monday eve for a drink. Not getting too excited as it's super super early days but I hope it all goes well.

Speaking of deal-breakers, I'm currently camped out in my own spare bedroom whilst MrCJ snores loudly away in my bed! First time staying over and I think we might have hit a problem... My ex-h was a snorer and it made my life miserable for 15 yrs rarely getting a proper night's sleep. Sounds silly but it is really an issue...

Also, sorry to be behind the thread as usual!

Gave up with POF last night and went to bed. Woke up to several messages, been chatting to someone this morning who likes to keep fit, he has asked me to go for a run along the beach with him, I haven't run for a while so I doubt I would keep up with him. So let's call him Mr 5k (as he told me he's trying to beat his PB for 5k). Also had a message on tinder from someone who looks quite cute, I'm guessing he's not very tall, has a bit of a beard/stubble and a nice smile, I'm struggling to make convocation with him though, he's basically said 'hi', I asked him if he was having a good weekend? And he just said 'yes, you?' , looks like it maybe a non starter.

I haven't heard from Mr Nice yet, I didn't message him last night to let him know if I was meeting iphim today, I think he wants to go to the cinema but the suns out and tbh I would rather be doing something outside even if it envolves me being on my own with my camera.

OnceMoreIntoTheBleach Back to giving him his space, so who knows? But I feel OK now. And slightly hopeful. I mean, he caved over no-contact after two days.

Good luck with Mr Web. It's funny how certain people can make us reassess our deal breakers! I hope you have fun when you meet him and that he's worth it.

Allthembuckets Anything from Mr Golf yet?

MyUsername200 Good luck for Monday. I'm so pleased there was a mutual spark, that sounds promising.

HalfInLoveWithElizabeth Overweight and/or been drinking? Worth figuring out if he snores all the time or just in certain circumstances. How long have you been seeing Mr CJ?

This thread moves quickly!

Lovemusic33 I hate it when it's so hard to get a conversation going. You know, I've been asked out running before too and been horrified - I can run, but I run like an injured hippo trying to make it to the end of the 5K without dying. It's not exactly my sexiest look.

As time marches on, you seem less and less sold on meeting Mr Nice. You don't have to if you really don't want to, you know...

Hi, I hope its okay to join in. I'm just dipping my toe back in the water with OLD after a year's absence. Not sure I should as I'm pretty fat right now!

My list:

• solvent and successful (not put off by my career)
• likes travel
• got kids - though preferably teens or older (so gets my obligations)
• intelligent
• warm
• kind
• funny
• interested and interesting
• no cats (i'm allergic)
• likes galleries and films,
• long walks, going to the pub with the papers, weekends away
• drives
• not clingy or obsessive or lots of issues
• late 40s - late 50s
• not pipe and slippers
• likes ballsy, funny women

I'd prefer to meet him through real life.... But it doesnt need to be right away.

Happy Mother's Day to all my fellow single OLD Mumsnetters

I joined POF 3 weeks ago, and am getting scunnered (my favourite Scots word) with it now. The men who contact me are either too old, too young, too unattractive, not enough to say for themselves .... you get the picture.

I hate to sound to negative, but ...