Dating Thread 115 - come join us!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

I'd message that guy without my number just to get the flavour and then move to numbers. That's just my slow way of making a move though.

Thanks for the well wishes. Hopefully meeting Lois tomorrow. A little scared. The worst part of OLD is meeting someone for the first time. Never gets any easier, especially when you're hoping it's going to be a good result.

Yip...I am marking my place again.
Dating by proxy still.There is lots happening here which I am slowly catching up with. Action and dates good luck to all!

Absolutely no word from boyfriend of 23 years ago who I sent a message to via his Brother-in-Law.
Not especially surprised but a wee bit disappointed.

Have a brand new iron.
Who appears more than nice.
Pur schedules will not the in until after Easter half-term. He appears dynamic & funny. Alas he is short. I do not mind at this stage. I will not award him a pseudonym now.

That was meant to say...
Our schedules will not tie-in until after the Easter half-term holiday.

Lettuce I like 'pur schedules'

Pur schedules!

Anyone else just fucking bored with the whole thing? Like I really want to meet someone, but can't be arsed with all this in-between stuff?
I know it's a necessary part of the process, but can be suuuch a drag.
I'm bored now, I think.
In touch with a few irons, but no-one who's really doing it for me.

I've got one man who is being gentle and respectful (whilst being clearly a bit shy and nervous in my presence yesterday during our coffee together) and one, who I haven't met yet, with whom there's this THING happening. We've spoken on the phone and since then... my goodness. But in my mind I'm pretty certain that the former has true potential whilst the other hugely overworked and intelligent one may not.

Curious to see how this will pan out.

Dieu Yep, cannot be ARSED.
So tired, and probably not in the right mood for it atm. I feel like roaring!

Yep .. also kind of cba at the moment

I've got a date tomorrow and.. I'm getting sick. Sore throat, cough, sneezing.

Shit, it has to happen now, doesn't it

We all need a boost don't we!! Hope you feel fine for yours tomorrow Bant.

Lois Lane had said she was going out. I was tempted to send her a message saying that I hope she's having a nice night, unless she's on a date and then I hope she has a terrible time. Obvs with winky faces and stuff.

Funny or lame?

Info too much IMHO be cool. !

Dieu Feel pretty well the same but only one iron now. Also cant be arsed with unending messages from young guys with nothing in common. Cant be bothered to contact any new guys and only unsuitable contacting me.

Going on a few interesting nights out in next week and hope someone good falls out of the sky then

Yes you're right, thank you!

I know that burnt-out feeling well. But then I keep hearing a voice in my head saying 'you have to be in it to win it'! I think when you're feeling like that, it's time to be really ruthless and picky.

Info I definitely wouldn't message about her maybe being on a date, but I also wouldn't leave it open if the last message in the convo was her saying she was going out. She might take your silence as an issue with her having a life. I would probably just reply someone like 'ok, have fun, speak soon'

Info I hate it when guys tell me that. Sorry! And usually it's followed by a 9am message to ask how the date went. Not that I'm becoming jaded by the predictability of it all!
You're lovely though, so it won't have come across like that from you I'm sure.

I definitely won't do it. I've got the date, would be terrible to say anything that could ruin that by coming across totally wrong!!

The fact you've said you hate it when people say that shows it's wholly unoriginal and crap anyway :)

Dieu, I feel the same, getting fed up with the whole process. It's all getting very predictable now and I struggle to get excited about first dates.
Me and Mr Beard have set a date but it's not until after Easter as I am away and he has his step daughter for a few days ( plus work commitments ), I'm trying not to OI, he messages me on and off all day, I haven't really initiated anything, he's doing all the running which makes a change, it all seems a little too easy and stress free. He is obviously OI though and this puts the pressure on for when we meet , after having so many first dates I know the chance of 'clicking' is slim.
I always date older men and of course they are always very keen to get into a relationship with someone ten years younger, it's usually me that has to break the news that 'there's nothing there'. Anyway, will try not to overthink and just see how things go.

Yeah I'm the same dieu just can't be assed with any of it..so mind numbing.

Then u get the ones who try their upmost to get you to engage in sexting...rather watch paint dry than sext a stranger

Maybe I'm weird one...

Just got a message on POF, it reads ' Hello lovemusic, having just read your profile I have taken a shine to you, it would be nice to have a chat and giggle sometime ' so I read his profile which reads ' I am unemployed and have recently been made single', that's as far as I got, as for his photos, not appealing at all and TBH I am way out of his league ( don't mean to blow my own trumpet ), and to think I got excited to see I had 2 new messages, both were disappointing, the other was obese, nothing in common and just not my type.

I feel your pain Lovemusic even if I like their pics more often than not I'm not keen when we meet.

Beardy keeps messaging me and asking to meet up. As friends, despite not seeing me in a friendly way.

I've just gone on Bumble and instantly matched with three guys, including a hot Frenchman. They're unlikely to reply; connections on Bumble time out all the time. But I feel much better for it...

Can't Be Arsed seems to be a common theme here @ the moment.

I am away for four days this week at a sports thing.

I have not been before but have heard from others that it is good fun, as sociable as you want to make it and that there is usually good old craic in the evenings.
I know that I am not going to be the only singleton.

I am rarely out socially apart from with mates or the children or the odd date so I am.really looking forward to it.
In my "dreams" I meet someone in real life.

This on-line shite is doing my head in.

L soup.

Hmm, glad in a way that I'm not the only one. There is just such a 'same old' element to the whole thing. Funny thing is though, I was feeling really positive this time last week. Gah. Think it's also PMT lowering my tolerance and positivity.

I cba with online dating, except that I have this date tomorrow with a woman from POF.

I really, really hope that there's chemistry.

I know i shouldn't overinvest, and I'm not, not really, because I know that these things fade. But after a week of messaging she's already my best mate. Pretty much, anyway. A bit of flirting but nothing much, as we haven't seen each other yet. Lots of pisstaking. Parenting advice and experiences. So many terrible jokes.

I like this one. A lot. So far.

She's not stunning, but there's something about her.. I've dated women who were shockingly attractive but quite dull. This one, she's attractive. I could see myself fancying her.

Anyway, we'll see

Ooh Bant
She sounds great.