Dating Thread 115 - come join us!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

oncemore - I was reading your post and going 'awwww' :)

Cinema isn't good for canoodling, they have cup holders in the way. How about a walk in the park? Or a music or comedy venue where you're not facing across the table, but next to each other.

Oooh bant comedy night, good call! That's what I need, a cosy booth or bench seat and a bit of darkness There's one near me, I will investigate!

Oh, this is lovely. Lois got back to Info and Bleach got lush kisses!

I had a very nice but definitely 'friendly' phone conversation with Mr Older. I think he is keen, but a bit nervous maybe? We'll see.

Meanwhile I'm thinking of signing up for another site. Maybe give Bumble another go?

Bant your date sounds promising! Maybe in time you can bring the dcs weeks into sync?

Half 'friendly' is tricky. I consider it good at the start, much nicer than too full on or too intimate too fast, but then you have to transition it, and it can be difficult if it's friendly for too long. That's why I'm looking for lush kiss opportunities for date 3

Info Louis sounds very cool. I think not messaging allllll the time is no bad thing, as it can get too dependent and then it's a lot of pressure to maintain. Keep it going though, she sounds like a good one

Plenty and runny I dtd on date one with my ex and it was good because we had talked on the phone daily for 2 weeks so I'd already decided that as long as he didn't have 2 heads I'd be moving on quite quickly as soon as we met! we were together for 2.5 years after that. I wouldn't worry about the numbers, just go with the flow/what you feel comfortable with.

Blue your 'friend' sounds ideal, whatever you call it! And if you miss him this weekend, maybe that tells you you're ready for more than friendship?

Jelly I hated OKC too. I didn't fancy tinder as thought it Wall all youngsters hooking up for ONS but that's where I met posh and mature and lovely Mr Web so it's not all bad!

More action to catch up on.
Gonna ring yer man Mr Car in a wee while to say byee! I have had enough of annoying him, him annoying me and generally telling me what to do.
I had a Daddy once & listened to his advice & respected him. I really do not need a boyfriend like that.

Just had text talk from him all smoky & happy...not looking forward to bring a bitch & an old cow. BUT he needs to know.
Diplomacy and subtlety ain't my thing.
I need to chase my oldest to bed b4 I call.
Obviously over-thinking this. Should have a drink in hand rather than f lemon tea.
...

Smoky and happy
Was meant to say
Smiley and happy!!!

I had a non-date tonight, a guy I used to work with and had a fling with, was the wrong time then...... I emailed him a week ago to catch up and we went out for a drink which turned into a curry tonight. Flirty kissy texts from him after so......dunno. Will meet up again in a week or so I think.

Meanwhile MrCar is on for date tomorrow though he's working in the day, and we've not discussed venue, mainly cos I've been offline, so I'll try and find somewhere.

Looking at two new houses tomorrow.

Moved on to WhatsApp with MrCar, I've only used it about once before. Noticed ex has new head shot on there, taken recently as a selfie in our bathroom, and he was online 7pm. So, reckon he's dating then!

OutToGetYou
Gosh you have been busy.
It all sounds good.

Lettuce did you make the call? Sounds like the right thing to do, I can't stand a man who wants to tell me what to do all the time! Although I do like a man who will step up when I'm obviously floundering and need a bit of help. It's a fine balance

Outto busy time for you! Choosing between men and houses lol!

Bleach, I like the sound of Mr Web, hope it goes well on the next date :)

Last night was brilliant with Lois Lane. We messaged back and forth until midnight, all evening. She's funny and witty and intelligent. She seems to get me, she loves that I have a Geordie accent too.

I think I have her attention now which is great, will see if we can continue that later :)

Bant your new iron sounds promising. One of my concerns too is always the free weekend sync.

OnceMoreIntoTheBleach
DTD & rang him.
Idle chit chat & then I said it was not working for me.
He told me it has always been about me - bizzare that he never mentioned this before.

Re-activated OASIS.com
Tis different on my phone then b4.
Most guys have no photo & many have less profile information than me.
I uploaded a very recent photo and had two nice chats with potential men.

Such relief I feel.

Sadly no word from ex-boyfriend of 23 years ago. I asked him out via a family member.

Have a good weekend everyone.

info that's great news about Lois Lane.
Outto busy time for you but sounds positive.

Date 3 with Mr Gym tonight has taken an interesting turn. Discussing where we should meet and I mentioned I was getting a taxi as I didn't fancy multi-storey car parks at night and I fancied having a drink.
Now he's picking me up from my house so I don't have the expense of a taxi. No mention of how I'm getting home
I've been having a mad tidy up all morning.

That's good about Mr Gym picking you up. :)

On that subject of DTD and date 3, surely that's a load of balls innit? It happens when both people are comfortable and ready. I'd never approach a date thinking tonight is the night because it's date 3 or date 5 or whatever. I'm more comfortable getting to know someone first though before I'm ready, I appreciate it very people work a bit faster!

Appreciate some people *

Personally I didn't want to get OI in mine and find out he was selfish or rubbish in bed so I made it happen on date 3

info I agree. I was surprised to hear there was that assumption about date 3.
I'm just going to see how the evening goes. Right now I'm more concerned with him seeing my messy house!

Interesting take on it Dory.

Can a first time be a good indicator of someone being good in bed or not? Wouldn't it be all awkward and stuff, is that when people should be bringing out all their best tricks?

Yeah I think first time is always a bit weird. It takes time to work out what the other person likes/dislikes. I think there is perhaps more pressure on men to perform, but for me I don't want to swinging from lampshades!

From my experience, yes, the first time is fairly indicative. It's more about enthusiasm than tricks. Someone who lies there and seems to be thinking of England, rather than someone who's excited.

The first time is usually going to be slightly awkward compared to the second time, because you're both vulnerable. The second and third times are when you get a better idea of whether someone's actually good or not, but the first time you can usually tell whether someone is actually bad.

Ah ok thanks Bant, I'm with you. It's the enthusiasm and interest rather than whether they are good at 'tricks'. Understood :)

Hello, how is everyone doing? I was planning to have date from dating as I am starting to feel I spend my evenings swiping left and right when I could be doing something else. Nothing exciting just watching tv and cleaning.

However, I have arranged a date tomorrow. We haven't chatted much But He is physically my type and he only lives 8 miles away I normally have an hours journey involving a train and a tube to meet dates so I thought do it.

A break from dating not a date from dating!

Hey. Is that someone you've been talking to for a while or a brand new person quickly into a date?

We've not been messaging long just over a week I think

h ok thanks Bant, I'm with you. It's the enthusiasm and interest rather than whether they are good at 'tricks'. Understood

Yeah should have been clearer sorry! I was looking to see if he was caring and attentive and interested in what I wanted or if he was all out for himself. I stuck around because he's definitely the former not because the sex was mindblowing on the first go. If he hadn't been I'd have ditched him straight away!