Dating Thread 115 - come join us!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

LM33, sometimes time spent alone is the greatest luxury there is! Mr Anarchist's parents are visiting this weekend, and I have turned down all suggestions to meet them - I've only been seeing him a couple of months! - and all evening meet ups w/ friends have fallen through. So I hit the charity shops yesterday morning, then took the train up the line to collect my new car and drive it back home. Then today, I spent on my allotment. It's been fab .

Good grief, your old iron sounds like a total bounder!!

Lovemusic33 how horrible I'm never surprised now by what people do or do not think.

I might look at POF, Mr Xbox seems quite nice but works a lot... he did send me a message via WhatsApp saying he wasn't very chatty as he was at work.

Just shows what kind of people are out there. I'm quite pleased that my radar was right, kind of knew he must be married, he wasn't a great liar. I am ignoring his messages.

Just been talking to someone else who looks interesting

Both the other people I was talking too this morning have vanished already, just the way it goes.

Sorry Doc1308 - are you going to contribute to the discussion or just make random weird comments?

If you're going to be so aggressive Doc you may find other boards a tad more to your liking.

There is no need to talk to Bant like that he was simply asking a question.

How was my post a random or weird comment? Since when has being honest and apologising been a bad thing?? I took his comment as being aggressive..rude..unnecessary and I responded..

doc - you appear to have popped up out of nowhere and said something about all men not trying to get your hole, and then saying that you're a man, after someone apparently pointed out your profile said you're a woman, after you'd been PMing them. And then you said you'd leave the toilet seat up.

To me, those are weird comments.

Men and women alike are both welcome on here, there are several male posters who make positive contributions, hopefully myself included.

There are also men who come on here and pretend to be women, for some reason, and then start PMing women and asking for personal information.

Are you dating? Do you have any helpful contributions or questions? Or are you just throwing in random comments about toilets and holes?

After I lowered the tone of the thread said an ideal for me would be someone who enjoys oral sex I got a message from doc. A couple of messages back and forth as I assumed he was a woman given the comments he had made (see "our holes") he then said he was a man. I said he should be open as we all like the opinion of both sexes. But is all very odd...

I didn't even know I had a profile on here that showed my gender - do I?

I have two irons currently. Another poor chap has messaged me three times, all kind and polite, not sure why I'm not responding as he seems OK.

Maybe I am just a bit into the one I've been chatting to for a while and like the look of the new guy more than Mr3.

Well, you should be able to post what you like Plenty without fear of some guy contacting you via pm.

Maybe, just maybe he thinks the title Dating thread is an invite as opposed to the thread being a discussion about dating online, I don't know his decorum thus far has won anyone over.

Feeling rubbish this morning. Been NC with Mr MOD, for 3 days, I can see he's online and I really want to send him a shitty message but I'm trying to stop myself, I know I shouldn't waste my time on him and I don't want to chase, would just be nice if he messaged to explain or even to tell me he's no longer interested. He has a habit of vanishing when he's stressed, he told me that from the start but I don't think I can put up with that.

No dates lined up for this week, busy week with work so I think I will just bury my head in the sand and ignore any old irons that message me.

I can't be bothered sending any messages on OD. I'm too busy with real life to spend hours sending messages to women whose profiles are possibly dormant anyway.

Maybe I'll check out a new site at some point.

Sometimes even if you ask someone if you can message them about something specific, people still think you're up to no good. Isn't that right Ciao.

Hope everyone has a good Monday, the sun is out!!

no sun here today, although had lovely weather this weekend.

Bant - I went through a phase where I couldn't be bothered to send messages - just waited for people to initiate messages to me - and then made a point of only logging on once a day.

info send some sun this way please, thanks.

lovemusic old irons are probably 'old' for a reason... maybe you just need a week or two break from it..?

outtogetyou - when we sign up to this forum we have a 'profile' but we can choose to make it all quite private and anon but I think it does 'set' on gender when you sign up.

OLD wise - I have (currently) two dates / meets next weekend... thats if they or I don't cancel them before hand, lets see. More excited about one than the other but who knows, until you 'meet'.

My list is :

Over 5'10
My good looking (can have strange taste)
Doesn't smoke
Drives
Is working
Likes/has young children
Dresses well
Likes a bit of banter
Doesn't feel the need to talk about sex constantly 🙄
Good in bed
Makes me feel special
Age between 38 to 48

What u make of this: a guy was talking to disappeared. He reappeared last night to say his profile had been deleted and 'at last he found me again' so I replied but was late. Checked this morning n his profile deleted again

Told me recent separated - I suspect not !

Just caught up with many days worth of comments. Some very odd tbh....But I love the lists!

fortunacookie I have been in a similar situation but the guy was hiding his profile constantly then unhiding it. It seemed a bit, odd, at the time. In the end I found out he was already in a long term relationship and the 'hiding' of the profile was because he was worried his girlfriend would find out! I would definitely be suspicious!

Today is date 2 with MrTalkative, we're off out for a drink tonight and some food. Hoping the spark is still there.

Hope everyone else is enjoying the sunshine if it's out where you are! :)

Here's my list, for what it's worth:

• Intelligent
• Enjoys good, long conversations
• A good job
• Ambitious
• Has some sort of get up and go, is initiative
• Enjoys visiting new places, enjoys travelling overseas
• Keeps themselves clean, basic hygiene please

That's it really

Lets I have had a break from POF, thought I was ready to go back on but seems not. I am talking to one man who seems pretty normal so far, other than that I seem to attract crazy people. Maybe I'm just not cut out for OLD at all, ideally I would rather meet someone off line but due to work and kids it's pretty impossible .

Hi all
POF is mad busy at the moment ... I am being bombarded. Hope it's not some freaky Freudian thing on the back of Mother's Day
So, I am exchanging messages with a guy who is attractive, intelligent, funny, attractive, articulate etc. BUT he is considerably younger than me.
He is cough 30 and I am ahem 42.
I have never been out with a younger guy, and this age gap is too big, isn't it?
He will no doubt suggest meeting up at some point, as we really do seem to have clicked, and not sure what I'll say. I think I would feel like a twat hanging out with someone so much younger. Plus, I'm vain as fuck, so not sure I could handle it.

Dieu. I'm 55, my chap is 42. And? Known each other for years from work. Go for it. One life. Esp if you've clicked. But the night cream is slapped on pretty thick these days(nights).....And my university daughters like him very much.

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Go, Mumswallet! I love you for that

Were you ever the objects of pisstaking on either side? I can imagine my loved ones having a field day over this! Must admit though, the thought that he's younger than my wee brother is a bit

Obs several raised eyebrows from many quarters, (their problem) but as I'm a bit "direct", strong character, good job etc...nobody has dared say! Plus really don't look pearls and twinsets! As for OLD, it's grim, full of ghosting, breadcrumbing and am genuinely pleased if people get really good relationships from it.

Go for it Dieu. You never know til you try. He wouldn't be interested if you didn't have lots of qualities!