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Slept with someone last night and regret it

254 replies

Emma98 · 18/03/2017 06:56

I'm single and 13 weeks pregnant I work in a pub and have been chatting to one of the regulars for a few weeks. Anyway to cut a long story short after work last night he came back to mine and we ended up sleeping together. When I've woken up this morning he has gone. I text him and haven't had a reply yet. So I'm guessing he was just after one thing and now he has had it he's not interested.

Now I just think I'm stupid for thinking it was anything more serious and totally regret it

OP posts:
samanthajayne17 · 19/03/2017 19:00

Sookiesocks and also there are long term STIs also which can be passed to baby and affect their whole life. Naive to think that they can be cleared with antibiotics

samanthajayne17 · 19/03/2017 19:01

Yes sookiesocks but It's not just her at risk it's her unborn baby. Sleeping with a stranger is putting both at risk

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:01

Name them.

samanthajayne17 · 19/03/2017 19:02

Erm HIV got a start you can't just look at someone and know if they have or not how naive

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:04

Oh you are thick.

Medicine has moved on. HIV is not the death sentence it once was.
Many HIV mothers have had children who have not contracted it. They were just encouraged not to bf.

Try agian.

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:05

What a joke sookie! How she met him is irrelevant if she barely know him which she has said herself. She has taken a stupid risk and that is a fact, I hope she never makes such a mistake again which was the reason for my first post. To say give her antibiotics and the jobs done is bloody ridiculous. She needs to stop being so irresponsible as she will be a parent soon.

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:07

Unprotected sex is just that. Does not matter if you have known them 5 minutes or 5 months. They could have a STI and not know or tell you.

At no point has the OP said it was unprotected sex so whats your issue?

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:07

Well that's okay then. Don't know why people get upset if they contract HIV

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:09

How us she irresponsible?

She had sex.
Would you say the same if she was not pregnant?
What difference does her being pregnant make?
You are basically saying no women should have sex ever with anyone.

samanthajayne17 · 19/03/2017 19:09

Sookiesocks your very rude calling me thick. Was there any need? And so what medications have moved on who wants to live with HIV? Having to tell new partners they have it, not able to have anymore children naturally. And there is always a risk the baby will contract it..and just because there is medications doesn't mean it won't develop aids whilst they are still young. How stupid can you be if you are so blase about catching HIV

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:10

Knowing someone for 5 months would at least suggest a relationship of sorts. If he regularly sleeps around he may not evenknow he has an sti let alone tell her. Why would a soon to be parent take that risk?

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:10

what anyone who has unprotected sex runs that risk. Pregnant or not.

The OP has not said it was unprotected so what is your actual beef?

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:12

If she wasn't pregnant she wouldn't have a child to consider. I wouldn't care what she does with herself and whether she takes risks or of what nature. Of course pregnancy changes things.

samanthajayne17 · 19/03/2017 19:12

Sookiesocks if she wants to put her life at risk that's fine no one cares of you choose to put yourself at risk but to put her Unborn baby at risk another ones life at risk is wrong

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:12

Knowing someone for 5 months would at least suggest a relationship of sorts

Yes it us much better to get a STI when you are in a relationship yes that makes sense Hmm

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:15

My issue is that while pregnant and when she does have the baby, op needs to focus on herself and put the welfare of her child first. Sleeping with men and then dealing with the fallout when they ignore you is unfair on op and especially her child.

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:16

FFS why do you care? You are not judge and jury.

The OP as far as we know had protected sex.
But to you judgemental pair she should not have sex during pregnacy ir gave as she has a child to consider and sex as far as you two are concerned is just too risky Hmm

Did you bf get sti tests before you slept with them?

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:17

What in the world sookie. If she was in a relationship for 5 months there is trust and even the opportunity to get tested disease. Don't get the same chance if you sleep with men you hardly know.I assumed that was obvious.

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:19

I care because a child is involved

samanthajayne17 · 19/03/2017 19:20

The fact is sookiesocks of a man is prepared to go home with a woman for sex without even going on a date or anything just shows he's done this before and sleeps with woman and fucks of.. how many other woman has he gone back home too? Has he used protection in the past with other woman? These type of men have a reputation

samanthajayne17 · 19/03/2017 19:22

Also a relationship for 5 Months you get a chance to find out about them but a one might stand you know Nothing about he person

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:23

As long as the OP used protection what does it matter what hes done in the past?

I am sure you both got your baby daddies tested before you had sex with them.......

Tested every man yoo ever slept with have you??
If not then you both need to stfu as you are sitting on your high horses and you have no right to judge the OP.

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:24

Did you bf get sti tests before you slept with them? You ask this question like you're shocked people would do this when its perfectly sensible given the rate of sti's.

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:24

Did you?

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:25

Because sookie she took a foolish risk while pregnant. Which I hope she doesn't again.