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Original poster

Slept with someone last night and regret it

254 replies

Emma98 · 18/03/2017 06:56

I'm single and 13 weeks pregnant I work in a pub and have been chatting to one of the regulars for a few weeks. Anyway to cut a long story short after work last night he came back to mine and we ended up sleeping together. When I've woken up this morning he has gone. I text him and haven't had a reply yet. So I'm guessing he was just after one thing and now he has had it he's not interested.

Now I just think I'm stupid for thinking it was anything more serious and totally regret it

OP posts:
SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:26

Answer my question what did you sti check every man you slept with?

DevelopingDetritus · 19/03/2017 19:31

Best wishes OP. Onward and upward and all that. Flowers

Original poster
Emma98 · 19/03/2017 19:32

Thanks Dev x

OP posts:
Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:33

Why in the world would I answer such a personal question that is absolutely none of your business? I have never put my kids at risk and that's all you need to know.

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:36

Emma please please take care of yourself, prepare for your child, don't rush into a relationship, really take your time and focus on your child and yourself. Good luck.

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:39

Why in the world would I answer such a personal question that is absolutely none of your business?

Oh but its totally ok for you to judge the OP and think she should STI check everyman she sleeps with??

Ha you have embaressed yourself. Shame on you for judging and demanding others do something you dont do yourself.

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:41

I am ashamed. Hope you are happier now.

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:42

Its the OP you should apologise to.

She was feeling shit enough already.

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:44

I didn't apologise. I don't regret a word I said. You have continuously assumed and misconstrued my posts. I have nothing else to say to you.

samanthajayne17 · 19/03/2017 19:48

the thing is tho socks woman who get pregnant are normally with the child's father so they would be having sex with the child's father only. On the occasion where the father isn't around I think best option is up stay away from men until Baby is born and you have your life sorted

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:48

So you demand the OP sti check every partner and you judge her for it but you dont do it yourself?
You made and already upset and vulnerable poster feel shittier than she already said she did.
And you dont have the backbone to apologise!!

Pathetic.

OP
please ignore posters who judge and demand you behave in a way they dont do themselves. They are not worth it. Flowers

SuperBeagle · 19/03/2017 19:51

So you demand the OP sti check every partner and you judge her for it but you dont do it yourself?

When you're pregnant and sleeping with someone you barely know, yes...You're putting your baby at risk otherwise. It's a whole different ballgame when you're single with no baby to think about.

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:52

For fuck sake when did I demand she gets partners to have sti checks?! Seriously show me the post! I said it was sensible when you kept saying its irrelevant how long you have known a man for. Again stop making stuff up

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:52

Yeah ok cos thats how rl works.

SuperBeagle · 19/03/2017 19:54

Yeah ok cos thats how rl works.

It's not difficult not to sleep with someone if you're not sure you can trust them, or when you barely know them. People should exercise that caution regardless of pregnancy, but it's even more important when you have a baby who could be put at risk.

Whattodo23 · 19/03/2017 19:54

And I can't make the op feel a certain way. Unlike you I didn't tell her everything's okay don't worry.I reminded her she is due to be a parent and needs to behave like one.

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 19:56

You stay on that horse what. Lets hope you dont fall from it.

Its late and i have tomorrows work to sort.
Hope you sleep well knowing you have judged and upset a vulnerable pregnant women who does not luvd hy your standards not that you do either Hmm

MooPointCowsOpinion · 19/03/2017 20:04

that's the slut shaming alarm.

Everyone slut shaming now needs to google it and read a sensible article on why slut shaming is wrong.

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 20:12

Moo they are to busy googling STIs to google slut shaming.

MooPointCowsOpinion · 19/03/2017 20:18

Now there's an internet search history that would be hard to explain if you ever went missing...

SandyY2K · 19/03/2017 21:22

Just chalk it down to experience and move on. Focus on your pregnancy and baby.

You've got your whole life ahead of you and in time, you'll forget about this.

Take care of yourself.

Original poster
Emma98 · 19/03/2017 21:48

Thanks Sandy I know. Another experience to forget about!

OP posts:
samanthajayne17 · 19/03/2017 22:29

You've also got to be careful because some of the men you see in pubs are married and you wouldn't know they are married as they can just lie

SookiesSocks · 19/03/2017 22:32

Yes because married men are your responsibility also Emma
Its up to you to ensure they are not lying. Not them obviously they are just men tis not their fault they lie Hmm

samanthajayne17 · 19/03/2017 22:45

If woman don't get to know a man first before taking him back up get place then she will never know if he's married or not allowing men to take advantage