Slept with someone last night and regret it

[Emma98]

I'm single and 13 weeks pregnant I work in a pub and have been chatting to one of the regulars for a few weeks. Anyway to cut a long story short after work last night he came back to mine and we ended up sleeping together. When I've woken up this morning he has gone. I text him and haven't had a reply yet. So I'm guessing he was just after one thing and now he has had it he's not interested.

Now I just think I'm stupid for thinking it was anything more serious and totally regret it

she had a one night stand. The bloke is being called a bastard on here and yet it's ok that she wanted more but didn't tell him she was pregnant and is being encouraged to wind him up to make him sweat and think it's his?

That's not right. No way. Not fair.

He hasn't done anything wrong. He didn't answer a text at before 7am. That's all.

Sookies to be blunt if he had known she was pregnant he might not have wanted to sleep with her.
And for herself, if she wants more than a ONS, being pregnant and having a baby is kind of a big thing.

People don't write notes these days do they? He could have sent you a quick text explaining he had left but he probably went home to sleep and it's still only 9am so he might still do that.

But it's okay for you to call the OP a bastard for being pregnant and not telling him on her own thread annesmyth when she's vulnerable and looking for help? That's right and fair is it?

For the record. I've never had a one night stand. I went back with someone after a dinner date and we slept together. I left early doors and went home without waking them and slept at my own house. We then dated for a few months.

But it might well have been a ons we might never have seen each other again. And according to this thread I should have been writing notes and staying for breakfast?

I think the op was totally wrong, given that she wanted more, not to tell the man she was pregnant. I used the word bastard to the PP who had used it first man - I was echoing their language and I am sorry if that has offended or upset the op.

Well qualified!

Hopefully he will get in touch. However I think it's unrealistic to expect anything to lead to a relationship when you are pregnant. In an ideal world you'll meet a guy who will embrace it with open arms but realistically that might be very difficult. Concentrate on looking after yourself X

*who had used it first about the man

Phone mangled that

Agree Anne

So have a go at the posters who have said those things Anne not the OP.

I did and I was! That is why I was exactly echoing that language. Their language.

What he did was horrible - he should have stayed this morning but come on op - you are 3 months pregnant. What you did in not telling him isn't on either

All that said - forget about him. Meet your mum today, look after yourself and build a life for you and your baby xxxx

Kitten... I know Anne is more than capable of answering you, but there is nowhere on the thread where she called OP a bastard.

Not sure why you are detailing the thread by gunning for Anne?

OP has been given some good points of view from all on this thread.

*derailing

I was being lazy and typing on my phone right after people and not highlighting their names because it's hard to look back on the screen and see names. I used exactly their language right back at them and thought that was making it clear I was having a go at them and not the op and for that I apologise.

I still think she did the wrong thing not telling him she was pregnant, given she wants more. I can't understand what the man did wrong and why he had to stay and write notes or eat breakfast if he didn't want to and I don't think winding him up and making him think the baby is his is fair at all.

And I most definitely did not call the op a bastard for being pregnant.

OP probably best to hide the thread. You will not get much support now.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing so dont veat yourself up for making a mistake.

Good luck with everything

Thanks for all the helpful comments and advice and sorry to anyone else. I don't think there is much else new to say so I'll leave it now and get on with my day as suggested. I might post an update if there is anything to update otherwise thanks again :-)

I thought that the whole point of a ons was sex, snooze & then one goes home.

It's unfortunate if he thought that it was a ons & that wasn't Op's intention, but sadly it's a misunderstanding.

So if he had stayed, op, what then? You and him forge a relationship while your bump gets bigger? Although I don't like Anne's style, she has a valid point. I just don't get it [confuse]

Perhaps him going is the best outcome. If you here from him again, great, you can tell him your news. If you don't hear from him again, no harm done.

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I think you are writing him off too early. I´d give it until mid-afternoon before getting upset about him not contacting you.

I don´t see any reason why you should have told him in advance that you were pregnant. Presumably one thing led to another and you ended up having a one night stand, rather than you two sat down, discussed life goals and prospects and then shagged. If he does disappear now, then why should you have told him intimate details of what is going on in your life?? But if he does reply and wants to start a relationship with you, then I do think you should tell him.

Hope you're ok OP

It's shit, and being pregnant must make it hurt more.

I cannot believe the low bar some posters have. I have been 'caught out' (had sex with somebody I believed wanted more than just sex) but i have never been dehumanised to the point where i didnt feel i deserved a good bye. Clearly it's morr than some mem can manage but if you have had sex with somebody then it is ludicrous to sneak off without saying goodbye. Im sure it happens all the time but that doesnt make it any less crappy

If he comes in the pub turn it back on him.

Eg
"Oh hello, i thought you'd feel tòo awkward to come back in here".

"Did you come in to say goodbye?'