He's just disappeared. What the fuck?

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Divorced but was due to remarry this year. Madly in love with fiance, bought a house together in London and were planning our future together. Kids are staying with their dad this week (thank God!), I come home from Zurich after a shitty business trip and his stuff is gone. Every single thing he possessed. Tried to call him but goes straight to answerphone, tried to whatsapp him but my messages aren't being delivered. Frantically tried to contact him on all social media outlets but he's unfriended me?

The relationship was fantastic, we are financially secure, great sex life and lots of laughs, we'd only recentl returned from a winter vacation in Bali and had the best time. Only thing the fucker didn't take me off is snap chat and There was a snap on his story and in the background it looked like a woman's shoes.

No idea where he is, my kids are going to be devastated. He works away a lot so I don't even know where he is right now.

Lost and not sure what to do next

Probably won't help but it sounds like you've had a really lucky escape. 'Phone a friend - have a cry - pick up the pieces. Sorry.

Can you afford the house on your own? Or are you going to have to move?

God, that's awful, so sorry

I hope you find out what's happened, there must be a friend or family member you could contact, just so you know?

Just seen you bought a house together. . Shit. .

Fuck. What a shock. So sorry

His friends, family?

This is so awful, I'm sorry OP. Can you pay the bills on your own? Is the mortgage in both your names?

You must be in so much shock and feel knocked sideways. One thing I would do is check you bank account/savings are safe.

Have you tried calling his family? at least to check he is ok. Does seem strange OP. I would be confused too.

Wow - that must be horrible.
Sorry but it's probably OW.
So you give yourself time.
You look after yourself.
Cry when you need to away from DC.
Try to put your broken heart back together and move on.
But time right now is what you need.
Time to process everything.
It's nothing YOU have done - nothing at all.
This is all down to him being a feckin' coward and running away.
Dick-head!
Get as much love and support around you as you can.
Keep busy.
Sorry this has happened to you.

Sounds like he's been living a double life; amazed someone can be so callous, sorry you're going through this.

Jesus Christ, you poor thing.

What a horribly shitty cowardly fucked up thing to do.

As a PP said, cry, be supported by friends and family, secure your money/accounts, do what you need to do to be kind to yourself and children, and in time move on, seeing this as your lucky escape.

Happened to a friend of mine many years ago. She finally tracked him down at work and he said he didn't want to know anymore. Turned out he'd met another woman and just decided that was it, the coward.
It got better later as, years on, he asked for another chance and she told him where to go and is now happily married to someone else. But this is the worst bit. Speak to your solicitors and get advice on what to do about the house. And don't be afraid to tell people what he's done - you will need support and they'll rightly regard him as a shit.

what a coward!

This sounds quite pre-planned. How are things financially ?

So sorry OP

Sorry I know finances are not the most important thing, but wondering if he's done some kind of number on you...apart from being a wankbadger

WTAF?! Who does that what a twat!

What am absolute twat!

So sorry OP

How dreadful. You must be in a state. Can you get a friend around to help you with practicalities now? Presumably you know where your fiancé works. Can you check if he is there?

please deal with your finances straight away to protect yourself as much as possible. Sorry you may not be emotionally able to deal with it but the very last thing you need is someone coming back months later and disrupting things further.

How awful OP, what a shock

What a SHITTY thing to do.

Have you checked all your finances and made sure he hasn't taken any money from you? Make sure everything is secure and not accessible by him. It's bonkers of him to go uncontactable when you own a house together - that has to be sorted out.

What a total and utter prick. On so many levels. You poor thing. Have my first ever unumsnetty Hug. (And I've been on here 10 years).