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[dementedma]

We are a bus load of Babes all battling alcohol and trying to resist, reduce and get our lives back under control. Whatever you have to say, we will have heard it before and no-one will judge you. This is a warm, friendly,supportive place with tough love when needed ( slap round the face with a wet squid called Barrie). Join us here.

Oh dear lord - just been invited to a party next weekend. Its family and i sort of really have to go - bad timing but i guess there really isnt ever a good time eh?

I think i will drive - that way i can be madter of my own night show my face and then simply disappear back home after an hour. Woukd tgat work?

That could work perfectly Better it's all in the planning.

Dubh wonderful posts, I could read you all day long

Himself is drinking again to look on the bright side, the more he begins to slur and pull smurfy faces the less tempted I am to join in.

Ok Babes, one more load of washing before I sort dinner (cheese sarnies are fine for supper yes?)

Cheese sarnies are fine for supper lux, With chunky piccalili for mine please

better definitely drive, 2 pluses, you are taking control and you can zim off home when you're ready. Turn up looking fabulous and leave them wanting more. Perfect!

Went to the park, her recall button is amazing considering all the time she was crated for. And that was with rugby, other dogs, kids with footballs etc going on.

I dare say if she came across a picnic I would be sued but you can't have perfect, eh? Last year's easter egg hunt still haunts me a bit.

Hey babes!!

We're in and I've got wine in the house but I'm not really tempted, has to be a first. Also not really smoked today. I've had a few magners but I definitely feel in control and able to stop which is such a weird feeling.

Will get a good read of all the posts from the weekend tomorrow with any luck.

Aw brilliant flowery, you sound a bit more chipper, hopefully everything went fine for you with the flit, sounds like you are doing great! xx

well done flowery. That must be a big relief.

Good morning
So happy to report a totally AF day yesterday - great to wake up with a fog free head although my mouth feels like its hung over which i suspect is because i didnt drink enough water yesterday?
Its a good start - busy day ahead and i am aware my challenge hoyr eill be around 7.30 tonight.
Morning everyone - stay focussed and have a fabulous day. Small steps.

Morning and Hello to all the new brave babes.
Just checking in to say I'm still alive.
Things have been shite and so what did I do Friday? Polished off a bottle of wine. So yesterday I powered through the garden to shake off the disappointment in myself and the terrible hangover. I also told himself that I see no point in us any longer. Let's see what today brings. I can tell you what it didn't bring though, chocolate.
CuileanDubh I can sympathize as I can see myself sinking back into depression too.
made How are you doing?
Flowerydems How did the move go?

Hey all
I had my night out last night, broke my 40 days with about 8 units. Honestly not sure it was worth it... I didn't drink enough to be particularly drunk, think it could have been just as fun without it. This morning I don't have a hangover but generally feel quite rubbish. Tired. Haven't missed that.... back to being AF for me

Well done better.
Good to see you again mint.
I feel utterly shite. Not hungover, just utterly utterly miserable and can't shake it. Got 7 to feed for lunch so going to have to get my positive pants on and pretend.
Here is a picture of the General in the kitchen to wish you all a Happy Easter.

Afternoon all, cold and intermittent showers here.

better whoop!! Well done quine! Did you have a think re your evening trigger?

mint sounds like you are setting your house in order a bit. Friday is in the past, good effort though yesterday sorting out your garden. Blow away some cobwebs, have a good look at the new shoots and growth and look forward to life being colourful, sunny and full come summer. You turned a negative into a stonker of a positive. No chocolate is a positive too. lies to self and you a bit boil an egg and make a nice salad. Healthy and you have the symbolic egg. Win win xx

kiki 40 days isn't to be sniffed at my dear! Sorry you feel so rubbish today, you'll feel better tomorrow. Slob out, nap if you need to, eat lovely things and spoil yourself a bit. It would be really cool if we could bottle that rubbishy feeling and have a good sniff of it every time we're tempted. But life isn't like that, is it? I'm on day 7, and desperate for a sniff of that bottled misery. Xx

ma fire on with your cooking, it'll keep you occupied if nowt else. I'm sorry you are so flat today, bloody hell I wish I had a magic wand to wave. So many of us are in pain, in turmoil, or have huge life decisions to be made or thought hard about.

Look at those lovely daffodils beside your handsome General. They scream Spring, new beginnings, a herald of the warmth, colour and hope to come. Wishing you a pile of happy today ma catch ye later, xx

I didn't do my pyjama pile last night, the Terrorist and I cuddled up on the sofa on her pile of sheepskins and watched Steel Magnolias. Followed by Jaws. Two of my favourite go to films, the first for a cry and the second because it is my favourite film ever.

We fell asleep there, I woke up to her an inch away, looking into my face with love. Probably just wanted her breakfast but she looked all puppyish again.

Happy Easter everyone,

Hi Everyone. Well today is a particularly bad day I'm hungover, full of regret and anxiety. I'm so so sick of this but why can I just not drink?! I now have to get ready for Easter with family. I look like shite, has anyone any tips to reduce my puffy swollen ugly face? I'm really feeling sorry for myself as you can tell

Lots of water Pedro and wash your face in icy water too. Do you think you can skip the booze today?

Hope everyone has a good day today, remember strugglers, nobody ever regrets not drinking.

I love the pictures, animals are so healing, I miss my lost pets

I can't help feeling there's something in the air, this feels like a year of huge change at every level for so many people, like everyone is rethinking their lives, be it within their job or relationship, at a bigger scale too, politically, internationally. So many people I know are moving home for the first time in years, starting new things, quitting old things. It's unsettling and fascinating all at once.

Not sure where that came from! Ignore my ramblings and have a splendid Easter if you can

Thanks lux I'll give the water for both body and face a try
I definitely won't be drinking today I don't drink when I have my dc with me they're 8 and 5. Tonight will be the struggle once they're asleep but I won't be buying any alcohol and I have none in the house. Happy Easter

I feel the same lux, there's change in the air. I feel sick with dread but there's an element of excitement, no that's too strong a word for it, but there is something diluting the dread.

Determination maybe? A stubbornness? A need to conquer and bypass this pile of shite in the middle of my road? Don't know. Something anyway. Nae articulating myself very well.

pedro cold chamomile or even just ordinary used teabags on your eyes. Failing that chill a couple of teaspoons and pop them on.

Bright lipstick/gloss. Curl your eyelashes. Bright scarf/fabulous earrings/best bib and tucker. Distract and deflect.

You can do it. Xx

Broken how are you? Well done on doing 3 days AF btw! And fab on noticing the small changes, really well done
Lonnika How are things going? Well done on day 2!
Today how is everything?
Ma hope things are going well for you ooh that dress looks lush
Haggis A belated hello and welcome! The evenings are a bugger, unless I’m occupied I find it tempting to reach for wine or chocolate, quite often both.
Hi Ellebelly how are you doing?
Elba good luck for your run today!
Flowery so sorry to read that you felt so low the other day, glad you are more positive now though
Pedro hello Welcome. Sorry you’re not too great today. Coolish shower might help? Then put on a face of make up – I find if I do great eye make up my face doesn’t seem so bad, so that might help?
Hi Abetter welcome, how are things going?
User hiya, lately I’ve been keeping very busy in the evenings and that’s been helping me. For example, next week I’m going to the gym after work and to aqua aerobics after work so I know by the time I get in, eat something, have a bath and I’ll be shattered and ready for bed! It also helps that I’ve been working quite a lot although that’s not really practical for everyone. I would say keep busy. Take the dog for a walk, go for a jog, have an ‘early night’ with DH, bake some cakes, organise your DVDs, read a magazine, go on the laptop, organise your fridge/airing cupboard, do some ironing, do some dusting, dance around the room to loud music.
Bibbity 45 out of 46, that’s amazing!
Better that sounds like a great idea
Dubh she sounds so sweet, is she a little madam like mine? (A sweet, gorgeous, perfect madam of course )
I’m great thanks mint no chocolate! Aww no! My mum was one of those women yesterday, you know the ones who go shopping the Saturday before Easter buying Easter stuff they definitely don’t need. Whilst I am commandeering the lindt collection (the little bunnies are only 3syns each), I am happy to give out the big mini bag pouches
Sorry I’ve been a bit absent this week, work has busy and not had chance to have much time to myself really. On the plus side have lost 3.5 pounds this week! Have taken more cocodamols than I’d planned but down to the increased working, my back has hurt more so they have been purely for pain. Took 2 before bed the other night (back in bits after aqua aerobics night before and then sat on devil chair for 10 hours – on my supposed day off too sucker emoticon) and felt rough next morning so tolerance coming down. Eaten very healthily and set up an Instagram too so probably annoying the hell out of people with my food pics but keeps me on track bought an hydratem8 bottle that’ll be coming in the post so keep track of my water intake and got into the volvic sugar free waters. Are lovely.
Am enjoying a lovely lazy day today before business resumes tomorrow. Have done some sit ups/step ups/leg raises made fun (ahem) with Lils trying to get involved. Doing nothing now. May watch some Line of Duty. Am waking mam up at 5, she has work tonight, I saw her for a rare hour this morning (not seen her in days as shifts have clashed) and dad is ill bless him (he is never ill) so has been sent to bed with a bottle of v. weak squash. Do have to wash my hair tonight (bahh!) Being bad today and throwing caution to the wind and eating what I fancy. Being v. good the rest of the week to make up for it, and will do some kind of exercise each day.
Gym after work (finish at 6.30) tomorrow. Tuesday not finishing til 8 so will prob do some lunges at home (as will have to tea after I get home). Wednesday finish at 6 and will go to synrgy for 6.30-7.15 (this is the only day I will be firm about not staying later at work as I really want to try synrgy). Thursday have aqua aerobics at 8-9 (this is supposed to be my day off from work, but we’ll see … if can’t do aqua aerobics will do a few sit ups and go on Sunday instead) and Friday will go to the gym. Feel exhausted just writing that down! Determined to get fit though, and aqua aerobics and the exercises at home are quite light.

A photo of the dog with her easter toy

Lux how are you, hope your back is ok?

Lunch done, everyone fed and slightly pissed.
The advantage of grown up dcs is that you don't have to entertain or supervise them. They helped with lunch,did all the clearing up afterwards, played a board game between themselves and then DDS bf gave us a lift home. It was nice and took my mind off things.

Where's there's blossom, there's hope!

mint I love that.
I planted an almond tree in the garden when we moved in here( mostly because I love the poem of that name by Jon Stallworthy) and this is the first year it is properly covered in blossom. I must take a photo.

dementedma
I have just ordered 5 x elderberry plants( to make cordial), 1 x mixed dwarf buddliea bush and 2 x devils ivy. I'm on a gardening frenzy! My next purchase hopefully will be a flowering patio cherry tree.

Hi just checking in and doing a bit of back reading on this thread. You all are so realistic, down to earth and inspirational .... my kind of people .

Today is my day 2 AF - had a really long day yesterday having not slept the night b4 and getting to bed at midnight caught up with me this afternoon and i slinked off for a granny nap - to be woken by hungry DH asking what time dinner needs starting. Hes a really good cook and weve slipped into the routine of him doing much of the cooking i suspect to be involved in childcare bed time routines along the way. Tonight was fish pie which is my speciality so i took the reigns in the kitchen and beavered away - wine never occured to me and actually until this moment i hadnt even been aware if DH cracking ooen a bottle of red for himself.

So i think one of my triggers is boredom whilst banned from the kitchen. I am resolving to seize back cooking duties ....... and get DS involved in some of the prep also.

Just going to drink more water tonight to avoid the "mouth hangover" i had yesterday thru lack of hydration.

Hoping for a better nights sleep.

Sending good vibes to everyone.

AbetterME2017
Welcome!
And you go girl! (Fancy cooking for me?)

Thanks Mint - yeah sure .... what do you fancy? I'm thinking maybe i will try my hand at lamb tagine tomorrow