Dating thread 114 - come and join us!

[WavingNotDrowning]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Those of you on Tinder, how do you get a rapport going with guys on there? There's such little info about pp, I find it really difficult!

Thisis I am the same with the anxiety thing, I find it quite hard work and I drive myself crazy with questioning every little thing.

What is it with men thinking they are 'gods gift'? Several old irons, none of them very good looking, overweight and nothing that good going for them but they think they are gods gift, the perfect catch and they assume I am sexually attracted to them, they are shocked when I brush them off, 'but why wouldn't you want to be with me?' Because they assume they are the perfect man. Now I'm sure all men are not like this but I seem to attract these types.

Thank you Lovemusic33!

It's the same the other way, us guys have all the anxieties too and worry if you want to meet again, did you like us, shall we message you, do you want us to message you. It's hard work grinding through the anxiety of OLD!

It's how we're raised, generally.

Boys. Be brave. Be confident. People will like you/respect you/love you if you're confident. Take charge. Don't admit weakness or doubt. Never, ever, cry.

And women have the reverse. Be polite, smile, apologise. Worry.

This means that men who really shouldn't, think they're great, and women who really shouldn't, think they're terrible.

Not all men, not all women. But it's often true.

And online dating brings out the crazy in all of us

I fit the woman profile there ha ha :)

Haha Bant, very true. It's definitely bringing out the crazy in me.

Destiny, I really struggle with tinder for that reason. You're supposed to send this amazing witty first message but all they've got is a few (albeit good looking) selfies. Nightmare. Then we you think you've come up with an ok message they never reply.

New one for me: just got a msg asking if I'll role play as an escort for money. That'll be a no.

You can get very reasonable costumes these days

Role play as an escort for money? Blimey.

Hahaha love the costume!!
"would u consider playing a little role play, escort punter? Obviously you'd get paid for the role, before you ask, yes I could just seek a escort out, but I'm after the thrill of a normal girl that wouldn't normally consider being paid to meet?" he didn't even have a picture to tempt me.

Can I ask for more some advice?
So, I got a date on POF - after a couple of weeks of nothing on GSM - but I am not sure about him.
Whereas my dates with GSM, albeit going nowhere, were with men I 'already knew well - could have grown up with' IYSWIM, this guy I don't get - his messages are a bit 'off'. He seems to be much posher than me - I don't know if he is being arrogant or just reserved.
The date isn't until the end of next week, so I suppose I will get more of a feel for him.
To women - what has worried you in messages - not sure I can tell

You're supposed to send this amazing witty first message but all they've got is a few (albeit good looking) selfies. Nightmare. Then we you think you've come up with an ok message they never reply.

This is my life, on OD

I know I shouldn't let it get to me but I've just discovered I've been blocked by someone I thought I was getting on well with.
Why? I think because I didn't respond to any of his messages this evening. That's because I've been working all evening and only got home 30 mins ago.
I think the problem is that POF shows you as being on-line for sometime even if you're not actually there.
Just want to send him a message telling him what an idiot is he is.

Don't worry runny I think I got blocked after a very quiet drink - for no reason that I can think of.
Why block unless someone is pestering you, for goodness sake?

Yeah, it's annoying when people block. Remember rule 6 though

I have an iron. I'll call him MrTalkative as he sends essay like messages. He seems nice but wasn't too sure about him at first. He did admit he got asked out on a date by another girl the other day and he is going to meet her for a drink (why he told me this I don't know) so not getting my hopes up but we've been messaging frequently. I'd like to meet him. One worry is that he's got me on the back burner if this other date doesn't work out so definitely not overally investing in anything.

Well I have just asked my iron - I have an iron whom I shall call Mr ? about Brexit - this had to be got out of the way before I spend good money on a train ticket.

Oops - he just gave the wrong answer :(

Evening all. Pringle hope your date with Beardy is going well.

I've stayed away from OLD tonight. MrUneducated (on GSM) is hassling me. I'm feeling overwhelmed by him. I've had replies (GSM again) from 2 more people I really liked the look of too. I'm overwhelmed by the effort required to send interesting messages to these people! So I'm avoiding. Hopefully tomorrow I'll be more interesting.

MrsPussinBOots how can you resist that offer?

destinysdaughter I've quite liked Tinder in my past forays onto it. Not finding it so good this time though. Lots of people do message but then disappear.

thisis easy for me to say, but don't worry! All the signs are positive so far...

Haha love it education, a brexit Russian roulette! Although we discussed politics a bit, I daren't ask mine as fear it may not be the answer I want and I do like him!

Waving are you gorgeous?
If so, that is not fair on the rest of us

Plenty he is prevaricating - but I have asked right out.
Gulps

Right answer :)
I have an iron - still Mr ?
But am excited to join in even if I can't compete with waving
Date Thursday next week

I don't know whether to ask mine. We only started talking today but she's funny. Moved over to whatsapp and her photo is much less impressive than her tinder ones.

However, mine possibly is too.

I don't know whether to do the Brexit question. Online dating is very artificial, if you met someone at a wedding or something, you'd have no clue how their grammar was - or at least you wouldn't know if they used text speak - you'd just go on looks and chemistry and conversation and consideration. Which is really what you want to end up with, if it turned into a relationship, isn't it?

We all get things backward with OD