Dating thread 114 - come and join us!

[WavingNotDrowning]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Aw, thank you Dieu. I hate upsetting or offending people and was worried I'd inadvertently done just that.

Not at all!

My Iron got in touch too late and too hungover. I tried to channel all those guru's and my text back just said
"Haha, no worries. Enjoy your hangover"

I will not text him again. I will sit on my hands and see if he gets back to me.

I'm not a beard fan either. And even the profiles that say "the beard can go" I'd never ask them to do that.

But if they put that up there would they be offended if you did ask for it to go?

Who knows, it's all too confusing and hard today.

Springtime I'd be inclined to bin him off. You're worth a fuck of a lot more than his hangover.

What kind of grown up is still too hungover for a 4:30pm date?

I'd bin him off too.

Forget that one spring. If he's like that now, imagine how he'd be if you got comfortable with each other.

I dated someone like that for a while and he never changed.

I am happy for men to be with or without beards

Spring agree - forget that one - it just screams can't be arsed

I'm happy with or without beards too, and I'd never ask someone to shave one off!

Also don't think it's unreasonable to just not like beards and not want to date someone who has one.

How do people feel about bald men? I actually don't yet know how I feel about it, but MrDrums is bald. I'm still trying to work out if I find him attractive or not.

I think one thing that's bothering me is he reminds me a bit of my sister's ex from years ago, who I really didn't like. Urgh I need to shake it off. I'm trying hard to stay objective and let it work itself out over time but it's not easy!

I have a beard fethish, and love facial hair in general on a man.
That's my contribution for the day

probably can't think of anything more legible to say as I've not had any sleep due to date 7? lasting 24 hours

Ah well, beard problem resolved.

Turns out she's quite dull, and a seemingly devout Christian. So I'll move on. Boring, barbophobic godbotherers are really not my thing

(I haven't pointed out that Jesus had a beard..)

As my saying goes, you dodged a bullet there Bant.

Good point about Jesus having a beard

And how very un-christian to judge you on appearance anyway!

I've archived his chat on WApp and spent all day swiping.

I love beards....but mr overseas is clean shaven and while I did point out I like a bit of facial hair, it is his choice whether to grow it or not.

but...my ex husband has a beard and the more I see it on him, the more ridiculous it looks. Even though I loved it when we were together.

I think we have reach peak beard in terms of fashion anyway. I think that all those hipsters will be moving on to a new look very soon.

Mr Overseas told me he loves me....during one of our epic 2 hour phone calls. We are starting to try and sort out a long term solution to this distance thing.

I think the physical attractiveness thing is tricky when just judging on photos. I'm another one who doesn't usually find men with beards attractive. Regarding bald men, well all things being equal I prefer hair. The thing is that if looking for a relationship then selecting people just on looks is so limiting. There is a guy that I like in real life who started losing his hair relatively young, he probably wouldn't stand out on Tinder, but would I go out with him, yes! So I am trying to be open minded and not too picky about looks. Having said that I have realised through my Tinder swiping that I really don't want to be in a relationship with someone who is overweight.

I am still battling with Tinder. I'm still finding it hard to understand the large number of men that match but don't want to message.

SpringtmeSun perhaps part of the problem was that this date was only "penciled in". Maybe next time make a firm arrangement including time and place and if either party can't commit to that pick another time.

Well...IF there is to be a next time he will have to do a good bit if chasing!!

I'm divided on the beard thing. My ex grew a beard and he looked much better for it, so I advised him he should keep it. I understand he still has a beard even though we're not together anymore, and I suspect he has more success because of it. Some men genuinely suit beards/clean-shaven better and some (much fewer!) are chameleons who can suit both.

In turn, my ex told me I looked better with contacts. At first I did feel a little outrage bubble up, but actually, he had a point. It opens up my eyes and I do have lovely eyes. Sometimes a little honesty from the opposite sex can be useful. I suppose there are degrees of honesty though - I know I'd look better if I lost a few pounds, but if a bloke told me that, I would be thoroughly upset.

There's a limit as to how much constructive criticism I can handle...!

I have my first date scene before Christmas tomorrow. No idea what to wear... Not feeling massively excited/nervous either, which I don't think is a good sign.

I'm sill a little wary about why he deleted his profile (it's been deleted, not hidden) after setting up a date and sending me his number. He did have quite a detailed profile, so perhaps he takes it down periodically to avoid being spotted? Would that be normal, perhaps?

I just want to date a normal person. A nice, normal person. Currently unsure what this one is!

** since before. Damn autocorrect!

Good luck tomorrow, Pringle
Shouldn't be that difficult to find normal - every second profile I have looked at said today emphasized that they were 'normal'
One said he wasn't 'your normal 50-yr-old' he liked ... walking on the beach; staying in by the fire with red wine ...
What is normal anyway - nice would be good, though - and not married!!
Had lots of conversations today - but they all seem to have fizzled out :(
going to practice banter ...

Bant don't let anyone tell you to remove your beard. I'm a big fan of beards, I have had a few irons that have had photos of themselves with and without a beard, when asked I always say 'I prefer the beard' hipster I would never make a man remove or grow one.

once I am trying to be very careful, some of the messages he sent me last night were pretty full on (talking about our future etc..) but im not taking much notice because he changes his mind a lot, keeps saying he wants to spend more time with me and then I don't see him for a month. I'm just going to enjoy some MB and hopefully spend tomorrow together, I will stop myself from OI as I don't know when I will see him again. 100% sure he's single, we are friends on Facebook and I have done lots of stalking investigation work .

I'm still talking to other irons and will continue to do so unless I see evidence of things moving forward with Mr MOD.

pringle I have taken down my profile several times but continued talking to irons, one time I took it down because I got fed up with people messaging me and I couldn't manage talking to more than 2 people at once, the other time I took it down because my ex had spotted me and was sending me abuse. There's loads of reasons he might of taken it down.

I postponed the date with the ex. I will probably still go and meet for a chat, but not tonight.

Had another message on Match and tonnes more views and winks but nothing I can do anything about. I did try to say I wasn't a member in my headline and then in my profile but it kept being rejected!!! Don't miss a trick that lot do they.