DH and sex

[Busybeesmum]

I'm very lucky. After 4 kids we still have a good sex life. I read a thread on here the other day about a woman who'd been dumped as she wet herself during sex. When DH (tmi) goes hard at it and I've not had a wee before sex I often wet myself. DH finds it a turn on and goes out of his way to get me to wet myself. Is this a common fantasy?

My urethra is screaming

Ugh. My vulva has inverted itself into my abdomen reading this!

He finds it a turn on when he is clearly doing damage to you?
Sounds crap all round.

Each to their own. It's not a thing I go for. I usually make sure I pop to the loo first, if my bladder feels full.

Whatever a couple do and are happy with is fine.

I hope you have a rubber sheet on your bed.

FWIW some guys are into piss, each to their own, don't see the appeal.

Strangely enough, I've been with three men who liked being pissed on.

I was happy t oblige in all cases.

How unlike the home life of our own dear queen

So, just in case you're not a massive troll, it's quite common, it's a power-play combined with viscera.

It's a bit filthy essentially.

Not for everyone but not beyond the bounds of what might be considered 'normal'.

Shout

OP one word: cystitis

< not envy.

What on earth is wrong with a nice bit of missionary these days?

I hope you are OK, OP.

Hmm, I'd be working on my pelvic floor otherwise the lack of control won't just be in the bedroom. Please say you use a washable mattress protector? Sorry, sex with a full bladder would suck the joy right out of it for me.

You really do need to work on your pelvic floor muscles.

For me...the whole idea is a complete turn off, but each to their own.

Quelle surprise, OP hasn't been back. Too busy working on those pelvic floor muscles?

Thats a bit bitchy Maria. I just wanted to know if anyone elses DH like this.

I can't say I have encountered this myself OP.

Isn't it a bit of a nuisance to clear up afterward?

There is a big difference between people who enjoy water sports as part of their sex life and a man who enjoys making his partner wet herself during sex.

It's fine for people who choose to piss on each other because they find it a turn on. It's not my thing but each to their own.

But that's not what the OP describes. What he is doing is causing harm and will be damaging her pelvic floor muscles. That's not ok.
Just piss on him if that's what he likes, but I bet he won't want that, because he thinks it's a sign of how amazing he is in bed.
He thinks he's making you squirt, but that's clearly not what is happening. You are sacrificing your continence to massage his ego and turn him on.

Voice

I agree. It's actually potentially abusive

I suppose the question is...WHO are you keeping a full bladder for? Your bladder is being forced to empty, you are NOT making a choice to empty it.

Does he insist you don't visit the toilet first. Does he make you feel pressured?

He obviously enjoys it. Do you?

I've never heard of such a thing.... it's not a golden shower is it ? I've heard of that....

I've never pissed myself during sex so I have no frame of reference but do have a sturdy pelvic floor

Same thing happens to me when I cough, haven't noticed DH getting excited about it though.

Misery DH has never insisted on or forced me to do anything

I'm pleased to hear that Busy