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My Dh died this morning and I don't know how to go on

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JuanPotatoTwo · 27/02/2017 19:18

But I will because I have to, because I have 4 incredible dc he loved.

I'm so so sad, didn't see it coming this time. Been lots of occasions in the past when we thought we'd lose him but he fought back and pulled through. Too much for him this time. One month today we would have been married 24 years.

Being self indulgent posting but I'm trying to put on brave front for dc even though 3 of them are adult and trying to be brave for me. We all loved him so much.

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JuanPotatoTwo · 27/02/2017 20:56

Oh god, you're all so lovely. Kindness of strangers (and some familiar names/faces) and all that.

He used to wind me up deliberately whenever I was on here by asking "what are the mumsnet talking about now?" It was the "the" that used to get me! I wish I could link you all to the incredible FB post my dd put up earlier because she, and the responses, show exactly what kind of man he was. I won't obviously but it wasn't just us who loved him who were inspired by him :(

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BIWI · 27/02/2017 20:56

I'm so, so sorry to hear this news Sad

Sending you and your DC much love xxx

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 27/02/2017 20:57

I'm so sorry to hear this, Juan. Your husband sounds like a wonderful man. You will all miss him terribly but you have good memories to look back on. That might help eventually.

For now, look after yourselves. Thanks

VintagePerfumista · 27/02/2017 20:57

So sorry. x

WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 27/02/2017 20:58

I'm so sorry too, Juan. I'm another young widow, I lost my husband last year, suddenly, from a brain haemorrhage. You are not alone. Flowers

olderthanyouthink · 27/02/2017 21:00

Sorry for your loss Flowers

HumphreyCobblers · 27/02/2017 21:00

I am so very sorry to hear this.

TheFurryMenace · 27/02/2017 21:00

He sounds like a wonderful husband and dad, so sorry for your loss Flowers

90schild · 27/02/2017 21:03

So so sorry op Flowers

HemanOrSheRa · 27/02/2017 21:04

He sounds just lovely Juan. Hold that love that he had for you all in your hearts Flowers.

EnormousTiger · 27/02/2017 21:06

If there is anything we can do to help let us all know as many of us have all kinds of different skills.. I'm a lawyer as are many others so know about the legal side (which is unlikely to be your first priority now but later might be important).

FeralBeryl · 27/02/2017 21:06

It's a great comfort to know his magnificence was recognised by many others at a time like this. You take your comfort in whatever possible.
MrPotatoTwo was obviously a star Star

MadisonAvenue · 27/02/2017 21:06

Oh Juan, I'm so sorry Flowers
He sounds like a really wonderful man.

Take care of each other, you and your children Flowers

2017SoFarSoGood · 27/02/2017 21:08

That small moment when he was able to say how proud he was of your DC was one of the moments you will be able to look back on as a gift, during this terrible, terrible time. Perhaps knowing The MumsNet is with you will make him smile - and we are. May not be able to physically lift you up, but it seems like so many of our souls are sending you strength to carry some of the weight for you during this next hard bit.

TheFairyCaravan · 27/02/2017 21:09

I'm so sorry Juan

Love to you and your DC Flowers

Greenfingeredfun · 27/02/2017 21:10

Im so sorry Juan. He sounds like an absolute legend FlowersBrewFlowers

ArriettyClock1 · 27/02/2017 21:10

So sorry Juan.

He sounds like a wonderful man. Wishing you strength.

Hissy · 27/02/2017 21:10

I'm so, so sorry Juan

Wish I knew something to say to help.

We're all here, whenever you need us. Xx

Spookle · 27/02/2017 21:11

I am so sorry Flowers

WhoKn0wsWhereTheTimeG0es · 27/02/2017 21:12

So sorry to read this, I don't "know" you but your MN name is familiar. Your DH sounds as though he was an amazing husband and father, RIP.

CatWithARabbit · 27/02/2017 21:12

So very sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace, and may you all find comfort in each other

Idefix · 27/02/2017 21:13

Juan so sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking of you and your dc Flowers

GallicosCats · 27/02/2017 21:13

Juan Flowers and hugs - it's a weird, dark, difficult time. I lost my DF a few weeks ago and I found the best way was to accept how it all felt and let the emotions wash over me. You can't demand too much of yourself at the moment and it's not a weakness to lean on others and accept help. There's been a lot of tears this last month but lots of talking and family togetherness as well. I hope your family can pull together around you and support each other at this sad time.

Goondoit · 27/02/2017 21:14

Oh Juan X thinking of you and your beautiful children Flowers

ToastDemon · 27/02/2017 21:14

I am so very sorry. Your love shines through your posts.

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