The Dating Thread, episode 113. Real life and online dating advice.

[Bant]

Open to all going through the horror that is dating as a parent. Jump in with questions and advice.

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

I'd give it a chance Blobby but I would tell him it's too much right now and ask to keep things a bit lighter. How he responds will be telling.

First date with Mr Build tonight. And I've woken up with a cold. I'm not going to let it put me off.
He told me last night this is his first date since his divorce a few years ago. And we've been chatting for nearly four weeks.

And tomorrow I have coffee date with Mr chef. I think he will be fun to meet judging by his texts.

Good luck tonight Runny, hope the cold is held at bay

Blobby it is guitar.

It is Monday night though, not tomorrow. Confused in my excitement earlier. I have been scouring the shops for a top. Sadly the to I wore on my first date would have been perfect but I can't stick it on again. I have got a sort of nice jumper top today so might wear that and skinny jeans and stiletto ankle boots and a biker jacket. I think it will be ok I don't want to wear a dressier top since it is a pub on a Monday night, but equally don't want to look under dressed either.

God, I'm good at over thinking...

jumper

I think it looks better on, and is slightly see through at the holey bit, nad hangs nicely over the boobs

Any thoughts? too little?

I think that sounds fine. Better to be under-dressed than over. Go for effortlessly casual lol

My lunch date was nice but that's all.
Definitely no spark sadly. Even with a nice wee walk he didn't make a move for a kiss and this time I wasn't really bothered either. Just to do the no chemistry text later.

Didn't help that my Mr Buff iron sent a sneaky wee changing room selfie via Snapchat during the date (I only looked when date went to the toilet) and I just wanted to rip off the rest of his clothes. Might be seeing him tonight. Fingers crossed. No shortage of chemistry there.

SpringtimeSun Mr Buff next then. Have you may him before?

Oops. Have you met him before?

Yes we have had one date.....there were fireworks!!
It's never going to go anywhere except bed but right now that's what I want

And I'm back to swiping.....no more dates with short guys tho....unless it's Declan Donnelly I know I'm never going to fancy them!!!

Go SpringtimeSun

Enjoy

Loo update essential!

Short is good I reckon.
In my opinion

Spring have fun tonight

Good luck to everyone on dates tonight. Behave yourselves ;)

Unfortunately meeting up with Buff tonight is a long way from certain. Fingers crossed tho.

I had a pleasant date this week. Not my usual type at all. But thought me and my usual type haven't worked out so try something new. I'd been feeling down after my ONS and realised they're just not for me (although I already knew that) they just knock my confidence and make me sad.

I didn't feel a big spark but thought he was nice. Maybe this is it I'll stop being the one date wonder!

I'm ready for my date with mr brawn meeting him really soon. I hate the pre date nervous but they go after 5 mins.

Spring I hope you get to meet him tonight. I think the same with this one and it will be a nice change.

Good luck everyone else on dates

Looks like no date for me. Gahhhh.

I do like saying by proxy.

Meant to be cooking dinner.
Hiding in kitchen from the kitchen mums-netting. Not strictly true as this is the only real thread I read!!

Urgh...

Dating by proxy even!

Would any of you go to a singles night given the opportunity? You'd probably not know anyone except the organisers. Would you go if your confidence was on the floor but have no probs mixing with people in a work scenario?.

Sorry to hear that Springtime Sun

Guys I need help.

Guy who I was chatting with, met 3 times (day times, no MB but plenty of kissing, lots of chemistry) I'll call him MrPuppy if that doesn't sound too inuendo-ish. He stopped contact with me for no apparent reason and I was gutted. This was 2 weeks ago. Last night, called me to apologise and said it was because we both have anxiety and past issues with alcohol and he had gone on a booze bender and got worried that we would not be good together. Anyway, he's all over it now saying he will do whatever needed to make it right with me... I really liked him. Possibly OI but definitely saw a future there. I'm glad he's been honest. He could have just said he was ill or whatever but he's been honest.

So that's that one.

Meanwhile, I've been playing the numbers game and got 2 more irons.

One, MrOil (rigs, not big bucks!) is away a month at a time, but very local while home (home a month in between). He's lovely, funny, into me, but he has 3 kids with ex and I had decided I didn't want a man with kids after it didn't work out with my last relationship. Found this one on Bumble and his blurb didn't say anything about kids. But he's really cute and funny...

Finally, #3 MrShop is a bit boring in text, but very cute and has a good, flexible job and seems nice and normal.

I'm supposed to be meeting up with MrShop on Friday and MrOil tomorrow or next weekend.

I was excited about both until MrPuppy showed up again. But am I mad?

I'm going for girly night out instead....maybe find some RL iron lol

Hey everyone, thought I'd join in since I'm in one of my infrequent "Gotta be worth giving it a go" phases :) Been lurking forever on here, but thought I'd get involved !

First of, I saw the joke about Mascarpone on someone's tinder profile the other day, so someone either knows that joke or reads this thread !

Second, bumble etiquette... I've had three matches now who have all let it time out. Is there some expectation I'll do something ? I can only extend it can't I ? I can't message first so it's pretty much up to the lady... I'm sure they all know that don't they ? .

I do often wonder if I've ever been one of the irons in this thread, but since I don't recall seeing "Mr booze addled emotional fuckwit" listed I guess not Since I'm really starting to go for it now, I've spread my wings a bit to try and date in London ( work ) as well as my native Northampton...

I have to say, reading some of the comments on here has really made me up my communication game. Sent someone a message before unmatching them on tinder a couple of times rather than just doing it. Had good feedback back when I have so maybe it's a complete shock to people !

RLD