The Dating Thread, episode 113. Real life and online dating advice.

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Open to all going through the horror that is dating as a parent. Jump in with questions and advice.

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Possibly, pavonia, but also, they have a mirror right in front of them, they see they look ok, they take a picture.

Women do it too.

info - she replied, which is positive at least. Maybe come back with a humorous, self deprecating reason why you're pouting next time.

Also, stop pouting :)

Lovemusic - what did Mr 50 Shades say?? I personally would be intrigued enough to ask a few questions. Possibly for a bit of a laugh - but also because kinks kind of fascinate me. Not in a "I would love a guy like that" way - but in a "why?" way.

Mmmmm.....maybe she was trying to be all pert 'n' insouciant and just got her tone a bit wrong info? I'd have sent her a gently ribbing message back...

So I met Mr Anarchist for lunch today, and it was all......lovely. And squishy, and nice . So I like him again now. Which is lucky, because as you may notice, I have no other irons....

.I've also hidden my profile....OK, it may be temporary, who knows? (the Machiavellian part of me thinks "Ah well, if it all goes wrong, if I then unhide my profile loads of blokes will be fooled into thinking I'm new and I'll surf a whole new wave of interest back into the game").

So I'm kind of living vicariously through you lot at the moment, new irons-wise.

Remember , all he wrote was 'hi' ( slightly disappointing), I wrote back and told him his profile looks interesting, I am waiting for a response, maybe he's just too tied up right now
The other guy on tinder sent a few messages but I don't really get his sense of humour.

My iron from Tinder hits just the right note for me with frequency of messaging. Usually message around this time and he's just said he's working late so won't be able to 'talk' until 10pm, I like that. Still not sure if the spark is there, messaging on Tinder and nothing sexual at all, which I'm not used to. There's been a few times I could've come back with a risqué comment but don't want to be the first to start that. Showed a friend a photo earlier and she said 'oh him, he's been on POF for ages.' For some reason that's put me off a little - that's irrational, isn't it?

love

Pout girl messages message first and I wish I'd thought to go back with a different kind of message. Never mind, I wouldn't have gone for her anyway.

I am waiting for a response, maybe he's just too tied up right now

It was worth it just to be able to get that joke in, wasn't it?

popcorn - there are several reasons why people can be on pof for ages. One is that they never get dates, for whatever reason. Another is that they had relationships which didn't work, and now they're back, and they never deleted their profile. And also, they may just be picky, or choosy, or however you see it.

Good people get approached quickly when they join, but don't necessarily find a relationship quickly.

I've been on for a while, 4 months now. And before that, I was on there and had a few dates and a couple of short relationships. I'm still a great catch though, if I can find someone who's right.

However, I think many are just relationship averse. What's your friends reason for being on there for ages?

bant good point, well made! She's been on 18 months and is very picky. She's gorgeous so not short of offers. You've made me feel a lot better

bant your right, there's many reasons why someone has been on there a long time, I have been on and off for a while ( one relationship in between ), I get quite a lot of messages when on POF but it's hard to find someone I actually want a relationship with.

I've been on since Nov 2015 and honestly don't know why.

I think I may look and sound too much like too many others.

Add a profile picture of yourself tied up then info

Messaging someone on tinder and he's literate polite interesting and interested so hopefully will have my first date soon.
I've also messaged someone first asking him what animal he would be what are you supposed to say to people to start a conversation all the profiles are quite short or non existent. I went off one of his pics so not completely mad and random.

So Mr mod has invited himself over tonight, says he misses me and wants to see me, I think there will be a lot of serious talking about what he aurally wants because at the moment it seems he just wants me to be here when he wants me (which is about once a month). So tonight could be make or break.

You must really like him. Hope it goes well :)

Hi everyone,
I've been lurking here for the last month's and using Tinder for about the same amount of time.
Quick question tho.....are "mushrooms" an OLD euphemism for something kinky?...
Opening Tinder question this morning "Hi. Do you like Mushrooms?" any ideas anyone?...

Is that like that question, how do you like your eggs in the morning?

Ermmmm.... isn't 'mushroom' a euphemism for a small todger? 🤔

Is it like a micro penis?!?

Mushrooms! Never come across that one.

My date 2 with MrPhd seems to be cancelled. Had a text on Sunday and all seemed well. So I booked a babysitter and since then I've heard nothing. So I sent him a text saying I guess you don't want to meet anymore. And that it would've been nice to be told as now I need to cancel the babysitter. Why can't people just be honest and say they've changed their mind.

I've joined bumble and had a couple of matches. One has started chatting. One ignored me. I've just messaged another and I have one in holding. I'm finding sending the first message hard when there's little on their profile.

Well MrMushroom is a teacher so I'm hoping he replies after school is finished just so I can find out what it means

My other irons are Mr Buff who is way too young and too smooth and does Butler in the Buff as a 2nd job but who i just want to have Mooseburgers after a very hot 1st date. Might be seeing him Saturday night.
And Mr 1st Date who I'm having lunch with on Saturday but I think I'm his 1st ever OLD date and he's very keen lol. I'm a bit worried as he's said he's only 1" taller than me and if so I really won't fancy him....he looks taller tho and the way he said it could have been a joke so fingers crossed.

I'm hoping its not the oldest joke in the book. Do you like mushrooms, yes, oh that's good because I'm a funghi to be with.

info
I'd go for that cause it would make me smile lol