What kind of men use prostitutes?

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Dh has an outside job which involves spending time on various roads within towns and villages.
A couple of weeks ago he was working on a street in our local town. An everyday street with semi detached homes.
After a day or so Dh and his work colleagues noticed one particular house had a lot of 'visitors'. All the visitors were well dressed men arriving in nice cars. It averaged around 4 men per hour!
At lunchtime a car pulled up (the driver had pizzas) and the door was opened,there was an older woman in the hallway and several younger looking women loitering in the hallway also.

Dh and workmates are convinced it was a brothel. Over the weeks that they were working there they would glare at the men going in and said some of them looked very embarrassed once they realised they had been noticed, one even parked in a nearby supermarket and tried to get in the back way.
I know these things go on but what got me was the thought that surely, several, if not most of these men must have (oblivious?!) partners etc.

Henry you need to stop because first it was your mum and now it's daughter.

I would report your posts and get them deleted. And it's obviously painful for you to talk about as you come across as confused.

I would say your mother is responsible for her failure to protect you.

I don't think the right conclusion to come to is that all men are bad though.

Elemdon what makes you think I'm lying.

Congrats folks, you broke Henry.

Henry I would advise you to do what many of us have already done and step away from this thread before it really gets to you. Many people here are not prepared to listen to experiences and opinions that don't fall in line with their own.
Just walk away from it and put it out your head.

Congrats brazen you came back to the thread just to use someone else being upset to make a point....

Besides I think most people did listen to you, just what you had to say didn't change anyone's mind about the sex industry.

She doesnt think you are lying henry

elendon i think you may be confusing the two, her dad was being disparaging about his daughter when he referred to her mums virginity

Your points have all been 'I'm happy' 'I feel empowered' 'I am in control' 'I'm getting married'... Obviously one person (or even three people) who has happy experience at the higher end of the industry is not particularly compelling evidence that everything is fine... Obviously it isn't and I think everyone agrees that they are glad for you and the others who are happy and get a lot out of it and that they are not here to judge the women that sell sex, rather to object to the industry and the culture which tells men purchasing sex is OK.

which was actually the point of the thread, loosely anyway

Oh Brazen, if a may say, what a load of shite.

If you honestly believe that the people on the this thread haven't listened to you, then there's no hope.

Are you on some kind of crusade to change people's mind about the kind of work you do? Because I can assure you... Ain't gonna happen.

Henry has clearly been affected by the discussion on a personal level. It's no body's fault though Brazen. We all get over invested now and again.

Offred I agree. Because one Prostitute loves what she does and even has a husband to be that doesn't mind her having intercourse with other men in exchange for money, we should all concede and actually just keep our fecking noses out.

I think not.

Congrats brazen you came back to the thread just to use someone else being upset to make a point....

No, I came back because you were all pushing some woman you've never met to the point where she was cracking.

Well, interesting that you didn't jump in to defend me from queen then isn't it?

Brazen I think you will find the posters that were 'pushing' Horrid are no longer on the thread. You're mistaking disagreement for being nasty when that's just not the case.

You jumped in as we were all making a decent attempt to understand Horrid's POV. Interesting that.

Trying not to derail the thread but just because one prostitute loves her job does not mean that the experiences of the majority who are forced or coerced into it by circumstance should be dismissed.
For instance I actually chatted to someone on FB who actually said she LIKED jobseeking - does that mean I should like jobseeking and not see it for the soul-destroying, tedious process it actually is?

Brazen if you're so secure and happy with your lifestyle, why do you keep coming back to this thread acting professionally offended?

Meh, I'm pretty sure she is secure and happy with her life but equally I understand that people arguing for the end of prostitution are essentially arguing for the end of her source of financial security so it is likely to make her feel insecure and defensive...

Understandably

Quite possibly Offred. It was just the 'walk away before it upsets you' part of her post. If you're so secure you wouldn't be offended by what we're saying eh!

Well if she insists on making money in a profession that demoralises and exploits women, she's going to come across people that aren't too happy about it.

Henry I apologise. I don't think you are lying at all! Quite the contrary.

Take care.

Given that the men using prostitutes are probably more Ken Barlow than Tom Cruise, how can anyone really enjoy that as a profession?

And, if my DH was happy to expose me to such vile treatment, so that I could make him a quick buck, I'd say he was more "Pimp" / less "husband"

Many people here are not prepared to listen to experiences and opinions that don't fall in line with their own.

The only person I've seen do that is you.

Seriously? Did someone just infer that my DP is my pimp?

Yeah, I'm out.

Brazen I don't think that was aimed at you specifically. There's no need to be so defensive.

Not aimed at you specifically Brazen. But surely any "D"H being ok with exposing his wife to hundreds of men, is a bit of a humungous worry!

I don't know as lacking experience in this area but I would say it is probably the men who felt a sense of ownership over their partner or a sense of shock re 'virtue' that I would be more concerned about. The fact that sex workers usually struggle to find a relationship with a man is usually down to those two things. At a guess the fact he is supportive of her right to determine her own life and what she does with her body etc may well speak very highly of him rather than implying he is her pimp.