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What kind of men use prostitutes?

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Snugglepalace · 08/02/2017 09:51

Dh has an outside job which involves spending time on various roads within towns and villages.
A couple of weeks ago he was working on a street in our local town. An everyday street with semi detached homes.
After a day or so Dh and his work colleagues noticed one particular house had a lot of 'visitors'. All the visitors were well dressed men arriving in nice cars. It averaged around 4 men per hour!
At lunchtime a car pulled up (the driver had pizzas) and the door was opened,there was an older woman in the hallway and several younger looking women loitering in the hallway also.

Dh and workmates are convinced it was a brothel. Over the weeks that they were working there they would glare at the men going in and said some of them looked very embarrassed once they realised they had been noticed, one even parked in a nearby supermarket and tried to get in the back way.
I know these things go on but what got me was the thought that surely, several, if not most of these men must have (oblivious?!) partners etc.

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AssassinatedBeauty · 09/02/2017 21:50

I can access the Mirror link which quotes the figures you gave, thank you. I'll take your word it's correct as the actual site for the research is not working for me.

IneedmoreLemonPledge · 09/02/2017 21:58

An interesting article on sex tourism too, I had no idea about Jamaica being a destination for women.

https://www.google.ch/amp/www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/women-who-travel-for-sex-sun-sea-and-gigolos-5329678.html%3Famp

CaraAspen · 09/02/2017 21:59

This thread is not worth contributing to. The OP asked about men who use the...erm...services of women who sell sex for money. Very few people are discussing that at all. Most of the prostitutes - those who have identified themselves as such - are shrill and defensive, as are their hangers on. Same old.

HorridHenryrule · 09/02/2017 22:02

Lemon where have you been the male gigolo showing older women a good time. I remember watching something about it on the tele.

HorridHenryrule · 09/02/2017 22:08

Cara
"What kind of men uses prostitutes?"

I believe they did answer that. People's emotions run very high on a topic like this for obvious reasons. They see nothing wrong with what they do and why should they. They are not going to say that they feel disgusted with themselves that would make them very confused individuals.

ShoutOutToMyEx · 09/02/2017 22:10

Well that's handy Cara because, as ever, you've contributed nothing at all.

I hope for your sake your life is a bit more full than your posting on MN suggests.

IneedmoreLemonPledge · 09/02/2017 22:12

I think that's something we all agree on Shout 😂😂😂

Offred · 09/02/2017 22:40

I think, as I said, that it is a little facetious to make the point re women purchasing sex from men.

I think everyone is aware that some women do purchase sex and that some men advertise services as straight male escorts.

The original point was actually that you don't see young men being kidnapped and sold into the sex trade to serve 'women's needs' or male sex workers offering services to women or women using services ^ in the way you see the reverse...

I think you know that was the point too lemon...

I don't think you really could possibly believe that anyone actually thought that there were no women buying sex or straight male escorts offering services to women.

It's just a recycled version of #notallmen and 'but my BIL was abused by his wife'

When people are discussing the gendered nature of the oppression and abuse of women.

Offred · 09/02/2017 22:42

and to it I say the whole of society is negatively affected by the persistence of the sex industry

lovelength · 09/02/2017 23:01

Not facetious at all Off i didn't post out of glibness. And i didn't post to sway an argument, which has been completely swayed anyway, because the thread wasn't titled "How many sex workers are happy, and how many are trafficked"

It was what kind of men etc etc. Then someone said you never hear of women...well, you do, smaller in numbers but growing.

Personal beliefs I respect, I don't respect sweeping statements and hysteria with no factual evidence.

It's taken an interesting reading diversion for me into the sex tourism trade, following on from some article links I posted. I'd never given much thought to the female sex tourist. Always painted as the Romance tourist, perhaps the approach is different, but really looking at first read as no different in goals to the male equivalent in Thailand or the Philippines.

RufusTheSpartacusReindeer · 09/02/2017 23:05

This thread is not worth contributing to

So why contribute Confused

Ineedmorelemonpledge · 09/02/2017 23:11

Sorry epic name change fail. Grin

venusinscorpio · 09/02/2017 23:12

Such bullshit. Have you been to the Philippines? I have. The sex industry there is awful with lots of BOGOF offers and the like. There is also a tacit understanding that if you like a particular waitress even in a coffee shop or whatever you can pay a "bar fine" to take her home. The girls are frequently underage and the men who go there are horrible.

ShoutOutToMyEx · 09/02/2017 23:20

Offred I've put that programme on. The interviewer is still desperately searching for a man, any man, whose been paid by a woman for sex. He's calling men on the male escort site and most of them haven't had any takers at all Grin

HorridHenryrule · 09/02/2017 23:23

Jodie Marsh did a programme on this male escorting.

charlestrenet · 09/02/2017 23:25

I watched that programme at the time and remember that too. Plus it pointed out that most male escorts who advertise themselves as such end up offering their professional services for free in the end. And even then most of them don't have any takers.

venusinscorpio · 09/02/2017 23:27

Sadface Sad poor unwanted male escorts.

ShoutOutToMyEx · 09/02/2017 23:27

They're interviewing one now - he's a 'romantic at heart' and wanted to get into escorting as he thought it'd be like James Bond. He wouldn't like to walk into a room, 'perform' and walk out 15 minutes later, as that would be tacky.

Righty ho!

HorridHenryrule · 09/02/2017 23:28

I think most of those male escorts wouldn't sell their arse for money. If they were bi then that's different.

ShoutOutToMyEx · 09/02/2017 23:32

Oh no. He's been turned down by the agency.

Sad faces all round.

charlestrenet · 09/02/2017 23:34

The funniest thing about that programme was that so many of them really believed the whole line that working as a prostitute was just about getting paid to go out to dinner and being nice to people and that it would be a pleasant empowering experience that either sex could enjoy. They honestly never thought that it was about making women sexually available to men.

ShoutOutToMyEx · 09/02/2017 23:36

They've finally found a woman who has paid for sex. Turns out she's actually a sex worker herself and she did it as an experiment to see what it would feel like to be on the other side for once...

ShoutOutToMyEx · 09/02/2017 23:38

Oh Christ this programme keeps getting better and better. One of the unwanted male escorts from the start has finally been hired - to do housework while wearing a tux for some woman at an hour a time

charlestrenet · 09/02/2017 23:46
Grin
charlestrenet · 09/02/2017 23:47

Yeah, none of them ended up living the lives of international playboys, oddly enough.