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It's not really fair to judge men by female standards. Most men wouldn't bat (much of) an eyelid of their wives had visited a sex worker (of either gender). Men and women just have very different ideas about relationships. To take an obvious example, many more men than women would consider that splitting up a family because the quantity or quality of sex wasn't to one party's liking would be highly immoral, selfish, and unnecessary. But this very course of action is strongly, often urgently, advocated on this forum on a daily basis. Most men just don't think that sex has anything at all to do with 'love' or whatever other nonsense often gets argued on here.
It is not about judging men by 'female standards'. It is about expecting to hold all people to standards of behaviour that uphold equality and condemn abuse. Yes, you are right that unfortunately men culturally believe that they are the gatekeepers of access to women's bodies and that as gatekeepers there is nothing wrong with them having 'access rights'. This tired old trope that men are rational and women are emotional and they just see things differently is just so much crap. In heterosexual sex women simply are more vulnerable - to pregnancy, greater consequences of disease, physical and mental damage, it is therefore entirely rational for women to be concerned about trust, respect and care in a sexual relationship with a man. It simply isn't good enough for a man to use his greater power over a woman who is more vulnerable without responsibility and then say 'oh these emotional women they just don't understand how men think'. We understand, we think you have a responsibility to act responsibly, like a normal competent adult and a good human being. If those standards are too high for you you have no business having sex with a woman TBH.
don't get me wrong, I don't especially 'like' the idea, I wouldn't do it myself and would tend to advise a friend or whatever from going down that route, but would it appall me enough to really pass judgement on it from my high horse, certainly not.
Why wouldn't it appall you? It is because of your belief in the above, archaic sexist tropes about men and women.
that's a slightly unfair question. The answer to it is tied up with society's views of that line of work and so on, and also the circumstances in which some sex workers end up doing it (addiction, other financial imperatives, other options, etc). I'd hope that I'd always be able to help her out moneywise, within reason. Like most fathers I'd be faintly protective of her 'virtue', e.g. I'd hate the idea of her being promiscuous at University, especially if emotional insecurity or loneliness was part of the reason for it. But if I wasn't able to help her for whatever reason, she was doing it for a vaguely defined period of time driven by defensible financial needs or wants, safely in terms of her physical and mental health then, yes, I'd accept it certainly, i can think of plenty of worse things.
And this post clearly expresses your internalised sexist beliefs again, your daughter's 'virtue'?! And the 'worse things' as others have suggested are exactly the occupational hazards of sex work, yes even if you are a 'high class escort'...
Apart from anything else if you really believe those sexist tropes about men being unemotional about sex (I.e. Not giving a shit about the other person) and women being emotional (caring about their own wellbeing) why does that make the sex industry OK?! Surely you see that if your premise is true the sex industry causes damage to women?