What kind of men use prostitutes?

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Dh has an outside job which involves spending time on various roads within towns and villages.
A couple of weeks ago he was working on a street in our local town. An everyday street with semi detached homes.
After a day or so Dh and his work colleagues noticed one particular house had a lot of 'visitors'. All the visitors were well dressed men arriving in nice cars. It averaged around 4 men per hour!
At lunchtime a car pulled up (the driver had pizzas) and the door was opened,there was an older woman in the hallway and several younger looking women loitering in the hallway also.

Dh and workmates are convinced it was a brothel. Over the weeks that they were working there they would glare at the men going in and said some of them looked very embarrassed once they realised they had been noticed, one even parked in a nearby supermarket and tried to get in the back way.
I know these things go on but what got me was the thought that surely, several, if not most of these men must have (oblivious?!) partners etc.

offred you said it better than me. If someone's value and contribution to society is hiring their vagina and mouth out to men that clearly don't respect their own wives, that says an awful lot.

Oh come on, that line about clients fancying the knickers off me was clearly meant in a lighthearted (albeit slightly cheeky) way.

My self-worth is in no way attached to my work, my clients, or any man for that matter, paying customer or not.

Brazen I find that odd though, because my self esteem is massively connected to my work. And my service users, and making their lives better.

I think lots of people would say the same to be honest.

There are plenty of jobs where you don't have to have your vagina entered multiple times a day by disrespectful desperadoes.

Shout of course I take pride in my work, in making my clients happy and having them return to see me again regularly is a massive boost.
But it isn't what I base my worth as a person on.

Brazen would you recommend your daughter or other people's daughters become prostitutes?

Sex work is advertised in news papers they are called escort agencies etc. Some of you sound very judgmental about what another woman chooses to do yes women are exploited in this world. She said she enjoyed it and earned good money. Btw the tax man always wants his money regardless of how you earn it. Prostitution is legal in Amsterdam not sure where else and Leeds I think (set me straight if I'm wrong).

Assassinated, I wouldn't suggest it to anyone, no. It takes a serious amount of mental grit and a very non-judgemental attitude to do this kind of work. But if someone decided for themselves that they wanted to become a sex worker (and it wasn't out of desperation to feed an addiction) then I would advise them on safety precautions and then wish them luck.

I would actually commit suicide rather than be a pros, urgh

Why does it need mental grit?

You need to have a personality to do that work. I'm guessing only because they meet different people.

I think most of the women on this thread would turn to prostitution if they were struggling to get a job to feed their kids and keep a roof over their heads. Better than claiming benefits. At least sex workers pay tax (most of them).

Brazen, you say the married ones would rather see you than run the risk of 'a potential catastrophic and life-ruining affair!' well what the hell do you think will happen if/when the wives find out their husbands have been shagging a 'professional' as you put it? - and bloody devastated I imagine

I am very sad to see the 2 women here with actual first hand experience, are getting such a hard time about it. Yes of course there are bad sides of sex work, and a lot are not doing it because they want to. But to dig at those who like what they do, is just very low.

Assassinated Because having sex is inherently intimate and it can be difficult to remain detached at times with clients you see regularly.
It also takes immense mental strength to get past the preconceived societal notions we have around women, sex and our right to do what we want with our bodies against a tidal wave of judgement from the outside world. Many of us are very happy in our jobs, but have to do it in complete secrecy, lest we be slut-shamed by misinformed family and friends. (Note: That's not my personal circumstance, but it is for many escorts.)
So yes, it takes a great deal of mental grit to deal with all of that.

Sex work, forced upon you to feed your children or keep a roof over your head, is not "better than benefits". Preventing that exactly what benefits should be available for.

Men are stupid to pay £150+ an hour. I watched a programme about 2 prostitutes and they were charging £250 an hour in the middle of London. I had a look at their website and now they are charging £850 an hour. A stupid man will pay them that.

Horrid - I think prostitution is legal in this country but it's illegal for more than one woman in a house/dwelling(then it's classed as a brothel) and also its illegal to sell yourself on the street!?

I have often thought I absolutely could do it. I know though that the reason is I have been sexually abused and that it would be a maladaptive coping mechanism to deal with that - by taking control of my abuse.

I believe I would grow to hate men if I did.

By doing that kind of work you are associating with men that are the absolute pits. The dregs. How on earth could that possibly be fun or rewarding?!

Fwiw to the sex workers on this thread; I commend you. You're doing the wives and girlfriends of these women a favour by weeding out the scum.

"You're doing the wives and girlfriends of these women a favour by weeding out the scum."

How so? Many punters stay with their wives.

And prostitutes aren't a different class of women to wives and girlfriends.

Brazenhussy if you are content with your lot then I can only be happy for you. But your whole post indicated that, like Ford and the other person here who only knew "happy hookers", you are at the very privileged end of the spectrum. Which may be nice for you, but still doesn't reflect the reality for most women working in prostitution. I'm more interested in them.

Who do these people think they are convincing by propagandising for the sex trade? Bottom line is for most women the idea of having sex with a man for money rather than through attraction is disgusting. Anyone for whom the notion of being fancied is enough to outweigh that clearly has some pretty big self esteem issues.
Not an enviable position whichever way you look at it. Not for the first time I thank god for the choices I had.

Helen because when their seedy activities are eventually revealed to their poor partners, they can move on and find somebody that will respect them and not shag a prostitute instead of working on their relationship.

I never said they were a different class; but Why would anyone want to do a job that would contribute to the compromise of other people's relationships and wreck unsuspecting women's lives?!