MASSIVE SCREAMING CRUSH.

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I've got a huge crush on the builder who's currently sorting out the kitchen. He's around the same age as me and he's adorable. I'm married for nearly 3 years and ds is 20mo. How on earth do you get over this sort of thing? Obviously there's no chance I'd do anything about it! But I also can't avoid him at the moment for another week or so.

It's only a week just enjoy it. It'll go when he's finished up and gone.

I don't see any reason why you would need to avoid him. I'd be enjoying it and making good use of the excitement.

Is it fair enough to have a little flirt then? He's receptive enough.

Would your husband mind you flirting with him?
Personally you shouldn't flirt with someone who is working on your house, it could get very uncomfortable if he makes a move on you or gets the wrong idea. I would be friendly but draw the line. Also remember whether you would mind your husband doing the same or how it might make him feel.
I like flirting in some circumstances (the guy who is trying to fix my broadband from some call centre somewhere for instance) but you have to be aware of the other person's response when it is face to face.
So I don't advise it

I've had a recent crush on a roofer that did our roof. It was HUGE but has faded away now that I don't see him anymore. Just enjoy it, flirt a little, but don't do anything about it. No harm in that.

Flirting is a different story. Don't flirt. Be more subtle than that.

When I say enjoy it I mean enjoy the narrative inside your mind, not bringing it out into the open. That would be disrespectful to your husband, first of all, and also hurtful to him if he noticed. Let your mind go with it but no, don't make it obvious to the guy!

Noooo no flirting man! Have a laugh and be friendly but that's all. Keep it in your head, dodgy ground if you flirt and they're open to it.

Pretty sure the guy is attached too, I've enjoyed having a bit of a laugh with him. No proper flirting though!

I should say there are several other workmen milling about and we don't currently live in the property so there's no opportunity for anything further!!

so there's no opportunity for anything further

that sounds as though you wish there was.

Then this shouldn't be in Relationships but in Chat in Fun and Games.

Then we can talk about whether it's a big project so you can send us pictures of his extension or just small jobbing works like filling your cracks (arf arf).

sleepingtiger

Flirting with someone you know you're attracted to is dangerous imo.

Harmless I only said that because of the suggestion that flirting could lead to something more! Just pointing out the impracticality of it

sleeping arf arf indeed

Okay no flirting!

Quite a long time ago I met someone I had a crush on from afar which I had been denying/refusing to admit to, still makes me go a bit a lot swoony now. Did not help that he was infinitely more attractive and charismatic than I had imagined . Then I give myself a huge slap and mentally slam the door on it. So no help on the getting over it front I'm afraid.

Loup I think I'll be you in a few years then! sigh

In fairness my crush is someone I am never likely to meet again (famous), but DH detests him so it shall remain my secret . I was with ex DP. Ex was half and half . I don't think ex will rat me out...

Oh Loup....do spill! Who is your sleb?

You can't just withhold that sort of info...you tease!

Stumbly more world leader than sleb. And not Trump - even I'm not that bad thankfully! I would never live it down with DH and he knows my username so am keeping quiet, where I live liking this man is pretty much a lynching offence and DH would tell everyone so would have to put up with excessive ribbing .

I was just listening to YouTube and thinking the Bon Jovi song I could make a living outta loving you is quite apt for tasty builders

Oh my tummy went funny at the thought of him just now

Loup...your guy is Boris Johnson

I claim my £5