Brave Babes - reconvene here!!!

[dementedma]

Hi all
We seem to have finished the last thread but no-one has done a new one. Don't get lost! Gather here until we can sort it out.

Lala I'm so jealous of anyone that can ride, I only went on horses a few times when I was younger but always think people who are confident riding are amazing

Toomany my kids are a lot younger but I think they pick up on the fact mummy has her 'juice' to destress etc already, it's hard admitting it but there we go. It's been nice to have such a welcoming environment like this thread where everyone understands. Gives me hope I can sort out my ridiculous relationship with sauv blanc

I bit the bullet tonight and contacted personal trainers. This is my aim, with the 3 under 6 to look after I need to get my arse into gear and get fit. If I can find the strength to fall backwards out a taxi and not kill myself I can shift some flab.

Lux that's me brought cranberry and soda today, it really does hit that dry spot. Top tip thanks so much. How was your mojito?

I hope this makes sense toomany but when I was young in was very attractive and a party person, as I grew older I found it harder and harder to put the cork in. I've found mothering very difficult but I adore my child.
A few months ago we were watching Mama Mia, and you know the dancing queen bit, where the women throw of their aprons and abandon their work and men to dance and jump in the ocean? That bit made me feel teary, my daughter said 'those ladies are fun* I replied 'all women are like that given half a chance'
I think I've tried to find my freedom and wildness in the bottle. It didn't work I now realise. I'm nearly your age but I now see no reason I can't jump in the ocean.
I want to reclaim my life and have fun and adventures. I won't do that dribbling on the sofa after 2 bottles of wine.
I have to do this. I want to.

SmallFox I loved Edward Scissorhands too! I like the fact some are not 'ballet' ballets. The only one I felt a bit off about was Lord Of The Flies. It gave me the shivers. I love traditional ballet too, I wish I could drag my family along but they flat out refuse I am very much the odd one out.

Come on in toomany you've boarded the best bus in the world. You are with friends who get it. Xx

You bloody well will get to jump in that ocean again LW, xx

Lux that was exactly it. Reading that was exactly how I've felt since baby 1 so that's 5 years of trying to reclaim the fact I was social and fun and found attractive. This was why me and dh separated. I was going out more and trying to 'find' myself when I was basically just drowning again.

Morning babes,

Wow this bus moves fast. Some amazing thoughts about drinking/ quitting. lux I completely agree. I want to have some fun now not just spend my evenings pissed. The longer I stay away from the ww the more I've found to do and take an interest in and there is NO away that I'm going to give up amazing deep sleep for cheap plonk.had the opportunity to drink last night but didn't. I'm very tired and have a cold so I looked after myself and went to bed early with a good book. Lovely.

Welcome new babes : ) I'm very poor at NC because I struggle to get time to post but it's great to have such a full bus. Please keep posting.

toomany well done for getting to grips with it. We all think that we're the only ones who know about our drinking- actually it's pretty obvious when someone's had a glass or two. Isn't it odd how reluctant and shy we are about seeking help?

flowery sounds like you've had a hard time. Hope this lovely bus is helping you : )

Today I will not be drinking anything other than stupid quantities of tea.

Welcome *too many". That first post is the hardest so well done.
Lux great post which I can relate to. I remember one of the dcs saying to me a few years back, "you don't even know how to have fun" and it hit hard. Like many on here I did well during Dry January and have been pissed ever since so I need the discipline of something. Am joining BIWIs low carb bootcamp tomorrow, so that should help. And I seriously need to lose weight.

Morning EveryBabe,

yes ma I used to be slim and my weight has crept up hugely, I know how to tackle it and have been trying, low carb all the way.

We did great during January, we can do this.

Been pondering some more (no longer little old wine drinker me, little old deep thinker me) The almost £200 a month on booze is just ludicrous, how the hell could I justify £30/40 a week booze then moan I can't afford a £20 pair of trousers, imagine, a spare £150-200 a month, that could take my daughter to explore a new city and a stay in a nice hotel, or tickets to a show or concert.

I woke up this morning feeling mildly hungover and thought it was my 3 modest drinks, then realised the heating has been on all night so I was dried out, cup of tea put me right. Himself has a monster hangover so will be fit for nothing today. A few weeks ago that would have been the both of us.

I would like to quit the cigs too, but one thing at a time.

Hope everyone slept well and I want to thank you all again for welcoming me here, putting up with my epic rambles and really, really helping me see my life as I want it to be.

I am going to be a dancing queen again.

What a lovely welcome from you all, thank you.

I've thought about boarding this bus in its many incarnations several times over the years, hopefully I've chosen the right time. For years things have been wrong but stable iyswim but as I mentioned above, just recently seem to have escalated. No particularly obvious reason.

My oldest won't be at home that much longer and I badly want to knock this on the head once and for all. If I look back to when they were younger (or indeed pre-kids), no way would I have imagined myelf still on this same treadmill in 2017

I know Too 'by the time I'm 30, 40, 50 etc. '

Like you I had been following the threads for a while and thought 'nah, I'm fine, loads of people are just like me' well, yeah, that's true but it doesn't make it right or desirable.

I believe timing is everything, hopefully this will be your time.

Too is your oldest hoping to go to university this year? My ds will be going if he gets in. My oldest is already in her second year.

For me, it is a bit like getting that pre-children freedom back. It is a time to focus on me now, on my health and happiness. And yes to looking for new adventures. No sitting around drinking here. That's too boring now for this dancing queen

Year 12 currently Faire so next year. Still feels very close though!

I have started doing a couple of new adventures in the last 12 months - started some regular voluntary work, have being doing a fitness challenge, joined a gym. And am doing ok, even quite well, at these. But they all seem oddly disconnected with the 'real' me because the real me likes nothing better than being halfway through a bottle+ and however much I cram into the rest of my life, the drinking bit always manages to elbow them out of the way/discredit them in the end.

You might find that is just a habit too and, with time, that will change. Or you might find that you still enjoy having that drinking time but you can contain it to certain days/occasions. Or you might decide to completely kick the habit. Just keep trying different things and see what suits you.

I find having a target to work towards very motivating. It helps to keep me on track. When dd started university I thought, right, that's it, I've got three years until graduation and I am determined to lose weight and be one of those fabulous, proud mums at the ceremony, so that's what I'm working on now.

ma you are very brave low carbing with BIWI. Will you be having to exercise too Better get that knee checked out if it's still swollen tomorrow. Did you put ice on it?

Fuck was on-call (but essentially working all night) and got home and have drunk Friday nights leftovers. Two beers and half a bottle of wine. This is not a normal thing to do and I don't want to do it, but yet keep doing it. Stupid stupid idiot. Would keep going if I had anymore in and wasn't back later.

Waves a cheery Sunday morning welcome to toomanytolist

Elba you are far from stupid. Can you take a shower? Grab a snooze?
You are 'stuck' at the moment, just at the moment, you are going to run a bloody marathon! Giving up the drink is not a marathon though, it's a winding pot-holed filled road.

Bloody hell, we're going to get done for speeding at this rate!

Sorry for going AWOL, work got stupidly busy, and I fell into a bottle of wine a night for a week to cope (or rather, to forget I was't coping).

Small, Dubh I have Red Shoes tickets for next month, I can't wait!

Did I see Khalisi? Babe, come back, we luffs you!

Ma I hope an afternoon in front of the rugby took the pressure off your knee for a while. I thought England were bloody lucky to have got away with it - Scotland had the much more deserving win.

So, back to day 2 for me. I managed 2/3s of DJ, but need to do better to get through the semester.

Loved reading about all your facemarks etc - I did a footer last Friday, and it is the most disgusting one ever, sheets of skin hanging off the soles of my feet .

Dubh our dogs give us so much. My little horror is still on a training lead at 2years and 1 month - he has a highly developed doggy middle finger whenever I let him off and disappears in to the distance. But at home, he is my shadow, and those big brown spaniel eyes just melt my heart x.

Hi everyone,
I have been lurking here for the whole of DJ (not completely dry) - thought I'd pop my head up and say hi.
I think I might be the token southener......

Hey Grumpy I'm a southerner too. You did 'Try January'? well done.
Just join in a much or little as you're comfortable with, we're a very friendly bunch.

I am going out soon, I suspect I may have a drink, possibly two, but not my frenemy wine, no siree, not that false friend.

hope everyone has a good day, I will catch up tonight.

Hi Lux,
I have exactly the same problem with wine. Specifically wine.
I have already spotted that you're a friendly bunch (offers handshakes all round). Nice to meet you :)
Try Jan was a big improvement on pretty much the whole of 2016 for me, I have to say. I am massively in denial in RL, so it's quite a big deal for me to come here.....

I know all about denial believe me. So often it's wine, bloody, bloody wine. Delicious destructive bitch she is.
I'll be back with more ramblings later, going out for a while.

It is a big deal you know, massive. You've done the right thing

I need to low carb to keep me off the booze and I will need to exercise too, as soon as my knee is normal sized and not multi-coloured. Need to meal plan ruthlessly.

Oh, and welcome grumpy

Grumpy, sit yourself down and have an opal fruit, I'm in the South too (there are a few of us, but those Scots have all the best dialect words, so we go with it!).

I didn't manage the whole of DJ (Lux I really like 'Try' January), but here on the bus, it's ok to say it - and get all the encouragement to try again. It's also ok to say we do/have done stupid things because of booze, and that it's a struggle.

I'm currently struggling with the WW - fortunately, none in the house. I know it will pass, but I wish it would hurry up, I have eaten my own body weight in sweets and chocolate already today as a distraction.

Sweet don't mind if I do. I'll have a green one. But just the one as I'm also trying to lose a stone (the wobbly wine muffin top has to go) and I seem to have the metabolism of a sloth these days.

Hi ma, thanks. Hope your poor knee is getting better....