Brave Babes - reconvene here!!!

[dementedma]

Hi all
We seem to have finished the last thread but no-one has done a new one. Don't get lost! Gather here until we can sort it out.

Flora I definitely get put off by the extremes. I can be pretty self-defeatist, so when I look at all the big goals out there (and people who seem to be managing them easily) I get discouraged and give up. But yes, progress is important and a good thing too! Must remember that things can be built up to and don't happen overnight.

So, I'm drinking crap coffee atm instead of the usual beer. Uh, any good recommendations for good instant coffee? Or the ground stuff, I have a cafetiere gathering dust somewhere in the kitchen. I only have a Waitrose and Lidl nearby but any ideas would be welcome.

Anybody mind if I plonk my bum down to lurk and eavesdrop?

Thank you all. You are so kind.
I have moved out of the sidecar and into Barrie's tank so he can just slap me endlessly. Am just in a spiral of sekf-defeat and self-pity and can't shut up the voices which tell me I'm too fat (I am!) because I can't stick to a diet and drink too much because I can't stick to AF and short of money because I'm not good enough to get a better paid job etc etc etc. I'm fixating on a woman I know vaguely through work who seems the polar opposite. Her husband is rich and handsome, she lives in a huge house and wants for nothing,she is my age but looks 10 years younger, slim, groomed, immaculately turned out....And she has never worked a day in her life! Just married money. I'm turning into an envious, bitter, twisted old harpy and I dont like it!

joeysthebest welcome of course. May I call you jo or best? We have another joey aboard.

Will catch up properly later babes.

Jo would be lovely luxury. X

joey IS the best! Now there are two joeys, we're ready to take over the world!

ma oh love 😒 People like your neighbour just make me seethe with jealousy. But you know you are a far better person, because it's so damned easy for them, they don't have to go through any of that shit. And we do struggle on as best we can, and still manage to give everything to our families...

I'm rubbish at the pep talk stuff, so please just ignore anything that doesn't make perfect sense.

Had some Nescafe Azero at a friend's recently and it was pretty good, carte. And I'm a bit of a coffee snob. We have one of those wanky coffee mills By the way, my tablet wants to correct your username to 'farts', so apologies if ever forget to change it!

Hi ma. I bet your neighbour has some trouble in her life. No-one is perfect. It looks that way when you're in pain though, I know. Perhaps try inventing some imaginary problems for her? A poo fetish or something I bet she has a poo fetish. Which her husband isn't into.

Hi Joeys

Spanna, thanks for the shout out, big non-MNstyle hugs to you my friend.

Ma, squish up, I'm hopping in to join you and Barrie. I went out last night and predictably got shitfaced. After the restaurant I was the one pretty much forcing everyone to go for another drink and I ended up staggering home, stopping to have a wee in the street. Classy. I'm one of those people who you see on the front page of the Sun under the headline "Shame on Britain's streets". One of the other girls who wasn't drinking is much like the perfect woman Ma described and I could see that she was totally horrified by me. I'm horrified by myself.

So far in 2017 I've only drunk on 10 days but on at least 6 of those I have ended up in the state I describe above. One sip and I'm not stopping, I can't. I am a fucking embarrassment babes. As someone said previously, maybe no-one would think I've got much of a problem as I'm not drinking out of a paper bag at 9am, but I know that I've got a problem.

Hi to all new babes, you all sound wise and lovely.

Elba, you ok love?

Back in sidecar, 2 large glasses in..

God I embarrass myself... Gutted

Evening all, just calling by to say hello to everyone quickly.

Pickles ok you've had a couple - time for a coffee now and a bath?
Margie oh lovey, been there more times than I care to remember (or frankly can remember) We are 55 days into the year and 45 of those you haven't had a drink - that's very good no?
Ma I have it on good authority that Miss Perfect has nasty piles
Nice to see Joey again and to meet jo

Not meaning to leave anyone out of course, but as I said it's a flying visit tonight. Have a good evening lovelies, all the triers, driers, strugglers and lurkers to all.

you guys make me laugh.
miss perfect IS a tad flat chested....and scrawny rather than slim, I feel.

Thanks Lux, you are such a lovely person to have on the bus.

Pickle, if you can stop, please do. I would hate you to feel tomorrow how I feel today.

Ma, that woman has bad breath. Fact.

Oh ma, doubt she's a patch on you anyway, the perfect types always bore me anyway. Thankfully cause I'm massively flawed and overweight and don't like baking with my kids I feel I'm giving women like that a chance in life

Officially in the sidecar. A bottle in. We got the house then my anxiety started getting out of control and Im not going to be able to settle until everything's all signed off. We need this, I know it'll be the making of us but I'm in a panic. I should have upped my meds by now cause I've just slipped so far down. Anyway 6-8 weeks and if we're in the new place I can finally settle.

Oh god Margie it's usually me peeing in the streets. I've got no limit that's my problem, I'm the same as you talking folk into staying cause I want to stay out and drink more.

Hope everyone's having a good night. I'm away to cry into my glass and fall asleep

Had one glass and am in bed.
Bet Mrs perfect is out at some glamorous do with her handsome husband, all tinkly laughs and air kisses.

Hi all, just finished a long and stressful shift! Usually it would definitely be wine 'o clock for me, but I'm not going to - firstly because I'm on call tomorrow, and secondly because it's just not worth it! Plus dp is at home waiting for me, so I have decided to have a large glass of the not so nice af Chardonnay and then indulge in a different vice that is much better for my waist line - and be truly "present" for it for a change! 😉 (sorry if tmi! 😳) 😂

On and btw, mrs perfect sounds dull as fuck! Never worked a day in her life? I would DIE of boredom. Would rather have my slightly chaotic and busy life any day of the week!

Oh and day 6 af for me. Feeling soooo much better for it.

ma maybe she's perfect, but I can't imagine anything more dull than trying to make small talk with boring people at a party. Perhaps she's dreading it, and pours herself a gin and tonic before going.

Maybe she's just like one of us, hiding her cravings and pretending that she has a perfect life when actually she's desperately hoping nobody notices when she keeps refilling her glass.

Maybe she is bored stiff at home every day, but she lacks the confidence to get a job and anyway her husband wouldn't approve so she fills the void of loneliness and fear with the secret bottle of vodka she keeps hidden in the laundry basket.

Maybe I have a wild imagination...

You're all making me feel better!

Ma I agree with alias bet she has a few pre drinks getting ready to get her through her evenings.

We all know that person that seems put together and perfect. But thankfully I like to think of life like an agatha Christie novel and most likely she's having a gin soaked affair with colonel mustard in the study. I used to seem like that, always smiling, bending over backwards, transitioned well from a busy social life to 22 stones (im not anymore ) and a newborn, but I secretly threw ds at my husband as soon as he came home and drank to overcome the bad pnd and loss of my old life. Mrs perfect is one of those mirages looks blurry cause none of its real

Hi just checking in quickly. Had a hideous week for both work and personal reasons, and been drinking up to the max I can get away with plus a big binge tues night. Been reading and welcoming new people but can't find the right words to reply so been lurking quietly.

Meant to be running a half marathon on Sunday but training (and eating, and sleeping) has gone out the window. I will get around 13.1 miles on bananas and wine surely?

In the side car. Fuck! 😩

After being so fucking smug...

You are lovely but I'm sinking into wine.
I'm just not fitted with an off switch,
What do I do?