Brave Babes - reconvene here!!!

[dementedma]

Hi all
We seem to have finished the last thread but no-one has done a new one. Don't get lost! Gather here until we can sort it out.

Checking in.haven't read the thread.
In the sidecar

Everything! So far I've got stuff by Adele, Amy winehouse, Alicia Keyes, Elle Fitzgerald,

Roberta flack, blur, stevie wonder, Diana krall, crowded house, the carpenters, billie holiday, the Beatles

Can't go wrong with Ella ☺
Are you ok ma? Struggling?

Yeah

Ma
Want to chat? It's easy to hear you from the sidecar....

I'm sorry to hear it ma

Look after yourself lovely

Sorry ma, missed you - was posting from bath and wifi signal is shitty there. You ok?

Was planning to go to bed, can stick around if ma needs us.

Will take my phone and read a while.

Hope everyone else is OK.

Hey Ma - just popping in to leave you some opal fruits. Is it red ones you like? Can't quite remember, but love to you and take care.

Ma hope you're ok. The booze makes it worse but it's hard to see past what we think helps sometimes.

We've just put an offer in on a house so I'm in the sidecar. Bricking it but if we get it I'll manage 5 af days a week if it kills me. I really want this house, a 3 bed house from a 2 bed flat with 3 dcs will be amazing and I'll do almost anything to manage this

Morning babes,

Hope you are all well and happy. I'm just checking in, still in the sidecar through obviously not right now at 6.45 am!
Ds is struggling with his behaviour and I'm so tired that I'm reaching for a big glass of red every night again. I'm not very happy at the moment, because being a full time carer is hard, but that is just how it is.
Once baby is a bit bigger and if we can get some proper support for ds then I'll be able to do exciting things like go swimming again.

I'm not complaining, just the past few day s have been difficult. flipping kids!

Hope you get the house flowery

Hugs to you Guggenheim

Our eldest ds has been throwing tempers like nothing else. He has sen so needs the extra support which I can't give him constantly with his brother and the baby. Hope you have a better day and can get some support.

Hi guggs and ma, wishing you both a better day today. We've chatted before, a long while ago when I used to post here under a different name .

I didn't have a drink yesterday, but I did eat a lot of crap food. I always think that's permissible when you're hauling yourself out of a bad streak. Today will be healthier! I'm not drinking tonight. 15/23 AF this month, I like that way of counting.

carteblah and beachready, how you doing my fellow Page 29-ers?

Morning all,
Hi Guggs life sounds challenging at the moment

A new house Flowery how exciting, hope it all goes through - we can have a virtual AF house warming here

Hope everyone else is ok today, thread is filling fast, we must keep an eye on that.

Hope everyone has a good or at least better day.

Thank you- I feel bad about whinging now.

Ooh flora who were you? What is a age 29 er? (Hoping it's a good book)

flowery it can be very hard going! I really miss work and adult company and a pay packet (shallow). My kids are pretty damn awesome and if I don't donate them to the nearest charity shop, they will make fine adults.

lux what's your luxury of the day? I have some fab spring flowers in the house and they are brightening my day.

Ma how's it hanging?

Right, what can I do to get out of this sidecar? I admit that I'm a long term serial offender but I just cannot get up the motivation to go af. Life is hard but it's frigging hard for everyone. Think my get up and go, has got up and gone. Suspect that Barrie will be involved but what can I do?

Doing okay over here, Flora. Eating a lot of crap food too! When I saw that "eat ten bits of fruit and veg a day" news I wanted to laugh/cry. I haven't had a drink in a couple of days and my moods have been very up and down. I'm used to it but the black moments still frighten me terribly. I'm trying to keep busy so lots of cleaning is being done! Wish I could flick my emotions off though, like a Vulcan. I think I'd be more productive.

Guggs I have been planning todays luxury and like you it involves flowers, I need some daffs to cheer the place up. Clean bed and something nice to drink, not sure what yet but it's Friday so maybe some Rose lemonade, I haven't tried it yet but it sounds good and treaty.

Hmm, how do we haul you out of the sidecar? Bit of pampering this evening to distract? Good book? Mediation? You know, we all do that when feeling low and stressed that although it's so tempting to get stuck into the vino, it makes us feel so much worse afterwards, my new mantra - short term gain - long term pain.
Sometimes though, we need to ride the storm til we come through the other side, sounds so trite I'm sorry. If you can stay mindful of your feelings and goals it may help. Otherwise I could just bash you with Barrie don't beat yourself up anyway, you know how it goes.

Page 29-er: my made-up term for me n carte n beach-ready, because if you've got the thread in pages we all joined on Page 29

I'll PM you my old username guggs, though I don't expect you'll remember me! It was ages ago. As I recall you just had the one DC?

Apologies for not just posting it but I'm uber-paranoid about being recognised. Not that I'm a celeb or anything. I do not lead a glamorous lifestyle.

carte I feel like our society veers between extremes, and it doesn't help people to make positive changes. Eating more fruit and veg is a good thing. But hearing that it should be 10 pieces now can make it feel unattainable, which has a negative effect. Same with booze. On the one hand serious binge-drinking is culturally celebrated and treated as normal, and on the other, health advice says that if you drink more than 2-3 units at a time you're drinking dangerously. There's no recognition of context, and progress. Anyway bloody well done on the 2 days AF! I had withdrawal symptoms when I stopped a few weeks ago (headache, night sweats, mood swings) but they do fade out fast. After a week I was pretty much back to normal. And of course it was always better than a stinking hangover.

Happy Friday all Brave Babes Welcome all new babes, you're in the right place.

Just waiting for DD2 I've just phoned her and she said 'there's gonna be a fight but nothing's happened yet I wanna see what happens.....' 🙄 Honestly 😮

Memories for me - Fridays were a huge trigger for me for many years me and mum mates would pick all our DC up from school having already bought the wine. We would scoff the wine (at least a bottle each, usually 2 each) kids all played, pizzas were eaten by kids. And we were all pissed by 6 o'clock and I usually crawled to bed and passed out before 8. makes me shudder - then in the summer we upped our game and started on Thursday Dd here back later
Love to all x

Lux I just painted my nails for the first time in ages, a brown shade I went looking for the face masks in tescos, they'd sold out Your self grooming bug has caught me, I thank you for that

Off out to a 50th tonight - 7-11, living the High Life me

Fox I spotted you back there Ma's a green opal fruit babe, as am I

How you doing Ma? how's that knee? I love your glass ring, what a lovely find.

Dub how you doing lovely lady? I'm so sorry the hear that Terrorist has infection you are amazing Babe x

Baby how are you lovely?

Margie you ok?

How's everyone doing?

so dialogue with DD2 continued on the way home
me - 'how was the fight'
dd2 - 'bad'
me - 'why what happened'
dd2 - 'nothing'

Kids

Cravings twitched a bit at 4 but I'm ok.

I hate these dead hours between my daughter waking up from her nap & my husband getting home. She's been in a cranky mood all day and is just going round screeching about nothing, asking me to read the same old books for the 10,000000000th time and demanding TV. This is usually when I decide I 'deserve' a drink.

I'm off to Zumba tomorrow morning though. I've decided to look forward to that instead.