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Brave Babes - reconvene here!!!

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dementedma · 31/01/2017 21:12

Hi all
We seem to have finished the last thread but no-one has done a new one. Don't get lost! Gather here until we can sort it out.

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Bottlesoflove · 19/02/2017 21:43

Also, how's you leg ma? I would say that level of bruising definitely warrants an X-ray!

Bottlesoflove · 19/02/2017 21:45

Today I am sober(ish). I have never been a hair of the dog type of drinker (which somehow helped me convince myself I don't have a problem - I am always slightly judgey about friends of mine who get back "on-it" after a heavy session the night before! What a hypocrite! 😳)

Margie32 · 19/02/2017 21:48

Hi Bottle, welcome.

I can relate to absolutely everything you say. I blackout really fast now, even after a bottle of wine I can't really remember what I've done. It makes me feel disgusted with myself and genuinely concerned about the message I'm giving to my DCs. My long-term aim is give up drinking for good but in the meantime I'm trying to take small steps...sometimes I succeed & sometimes I really don't.

Margie32 · 19/02/2017 21:51

And I am well aware of the grief-drinking scenario - I lost my Mum to cancer 3 years ago and still drink to numb the pain...but it doesn't work. And it won't. U and I both need to talk about the pain rather than hide it in a bottle.

Bottlesoflove · 19/02/2017 21:55

The blackouts are getting worse for me too. I find my memory is shot to pieces in general. Over the last few years I remember very little detail. It is like I'm in some kind of fugue. So sorry about your mum. 💐 Losing my brother is hard enough but don't think I could cope if anything happened to my mum or dad. 😕

dementedma · 19/02/2017 22:13

Leg is ok bottle although I still can't kneel down or put pressure on it.
I have had a bottle of wine, started this afternoon.
Need to get back on to low carb and AF.

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Bottlesoflove · 19/02/2017 22:16

I've given up on low carbing - back on truth slimming world, but I have only lost about 6lbs since before Xmas. Mainly because of hangover binges tbh. 😳

Bottlesoflove · 19/02/2017 22:19

(Like today). Made a SW friendly curry for my friends last night, but had necked the best part of a bottle of wine by the time we even sat down to eat. And it all went downhill from there really...😕

dementedma · 19/02/2017 22:23

I lost 5lbs the first week! And then fucked it all up the second week so will have put it all back on again.

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Bottlesoflove · 19/02/2017 22:25

Yeah I think I lost 4.5lbs the first week of slimming world! But now keep losing and regaining the same 2lbs since Xmas! 😩

Bottlesoflove · 19/02/2017 22:31

Congrats on that loss though. You can do it! 👊

guggenheim · 20/02/2017 06:56

Declittering? Declittering?🙀🙀
Fuck me, I even spell checked before posting!

Fairenuff · 20/02/2017 07:58

Morning all and welcome to bottles. Just checking in before I leave for work. New week. New start. Have a good day babes Smile

dementedma · 20/02/2017 08:11

Morning. Fuzzy headed and dry mouthed. Today is another day ( which I would rather spend in bed than going to work) but on we go. Although as I should have left by now and teen Ds isn't out of bed yet, we are not off to a good start!!!!

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Bottlesoflove · 20/02/2017 08:11

Morning all. As predicted hangover is still going. Woke up a couple of times in the night drenched in sweat and have got an aching back. Slept pretty well though. Parents are back from holiday so seeing the tonight which I am excited about. They have been away for 3 weeks and in that time I have moved house and dp buggered off back to France for a few weeks. I probably lean on my parents almost too much since my bro died, so think I have been drinking to counter the loneliness.

Happy Monday everyone! Hope you feel fresher than I do! 😩

Flowerydems · 20/02/2017 09:55

Hey everyone. How's everyone's weeks been?

Had a rough week and don't think I had one af day. Ended yesterday with having like 3 bottles of wine and now I feel like crap and not able to do anything with the kids. Meant to be going to toddler group with the baby later but I have the shakes and don't think I can face it. Trying to stay sober til Saturday. If I can make it to Thursday I'll be delighted. Feeling low and stressing about my health. Been googling liver disease in a panic. Think I'll just tank water today and try to crack on.

Inarightpickleandchutney · 20/02/2017 11:37

Hi babes I'm really struggling with wine now, I am sat here first day of holiday and DD has a friend over they playing great and all I can think about is having a drink.

Anyone have any diversion tactics?

This is worse than the Coke and the fags, possibly because it's right there at the end of my road....

Bottlesoflove · 20/02/2017 13:13

Fags are at the end of the road too and you have managed to kick them...

If you think about it you say that fags are too expensive, but let's say you smoke 10 a day, that's a fiver a day. If you drink a bottle of wine a day you are spending as much on booze.

I have this ridiculous thing that I do my own hair as I think I can't afford to go to the hairdresser. But I spend at least £15/week on wine at home, and it could go into triple figures if I actually went on a night out. If I saved this money I could get my hair done easily every couple of months.

Inarightpickleandchutney · 20/02/2017 13:28

bottle YES! I do the same thing!!

I've not had manicure or new clothes or anything extra because I've always wanted to prioritise whatever it is that I'm obsessed about.

I get wine that's 2 for £12.

So while it is undeniably cheaper than the white stuff it's actually more than fags.

Ooh... Lightbulb moment bottle... Thanks!

leica · 20/02/2017 15:05

Hello everyone. I've got half a leg in the sidecar for now...

Inarightpickleandchutney · 20/02/2017 15:52

This bit is what I'm referring to in my head as the danger zone...
The accompanying song from top gun going round my head too!!

I went to the danger zone... Grin

LuxuryWoman2017 · 20/02/2017 21:28

Evening all, I'm just checking in quickly, not feeling too good, bad chest and sore throat so off to bed.

Hope you all had a good day, bottle did you manage to avoid the wine?
My few drinks over the weekend have done me no good at all.
I'm going to sleep now as I suspect I'm in for a restless coughy night.
Sleep well all.

Bottlesoflove · 20/02/2017 21:41

Yes thanks lux. Felt rough and anxious all day and had a horrible migraine, but folks came over and we had some dinner and all is well. They are going through a weird time with my brothers death too, think we are all entering the next stage of grief or something. Yes I have stayed off the wine but that is not unusual for me. I rarely drink in the week. I think that's why I need to be careful and keep reminding myself how awful I felt yesterday and today. I don't want to convince myself that I don't have a problem with alcohol and the way that I drink is normal. I did mention to them that I may knock my drinking on the head because I can't cope with the hangovers anymore and I don't have an off switch. I don't think anyone I know would guess I am a problematic drinker, although most would say that I do like a drink, and lots of people know I've had a tough time lately. Friends are organising a birthday weekend at a holiday cottage. I mentioned I may not drink and they just laughed at me!

Bottlesoflove · 20/02/2017 21:42

I'm in bed too lux, hope you get a good sleep and get well soon. X

Bottlesoflove · 20/02/2017 21:46

I predict lots of pregnancy rumours flying around if I do manage to keep this up! 😂