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Brave Babes - reconvene here!!!

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dementedma · 31/01/2017 21:12

Hi all
We seem to have finished the last thread but no-one has done a new one. Don't get lost! Gather here until we can sort it out.

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Fairenuff · 13/02/2017 08:16

Well done ma, fantastic start to bootcamp. Does it make the week seem worthwhile now Grin

Lovely ring btw.

theansweris42 · 13/02/2017 09:03

Well done ma I know that joy Smile (not at the moment though!)
Morning all.
dubh am very sorry about your lovely dog still having health issues.

Hope Monday is Ok for all.
I've had some booze over weekend. Shocking sleep every night. D'oh.
AF today SmileBrew

TwistedReach · 13/02/2017 09:04

Thank you for showing kindness (I've asked for my personal post to be deleted). I genuinely wanted people to know what's out there and do recommend looking at the links for those who are struggling. I trust the person in the initial link but that's because I've had contact. But I totally understand others reservations. But this is available on the NHS if you get help from the www.c3foundationeurope.org/
You may not want to and I understand that- but please understand I'm coming from a genuine place and think that knowing what's out there may help someone- even if not now- you may decide to look in the future. I am also about as cynical as they come and have not lost my cynicism about this method yet either, but am finding out more. And have spoken to professional friends who have told me about how opioid blockers can be used successfully for other (very different) medical conditions. I don't believe in miracle cures and am sure this is not one.
Personally I hate AA, I don't believe in a higher power, I don't believe people should succumb, I hate the idea of sending apologies to others for something that is an illness- but I get that it works for many and anything that helps people get through is a good - no life saving thing.
Like I said I have followed these threads from the start and wish you all well.

Fairenuff · 13/02/2017 09:07

Join us twisted. It might help you and it certainly can't hurt. Sometimes it's just nice to be around people who 'get it' Smile

LuxuryWoman2017 · 13/02/2017 09:32

Morning everybabe,
Half term is here, so I shall be busy this week with a houseful of hormonal lunatics wanting pizza and endless burgers. Mine seems to be the 'base camp' for DD's friends, oh the shrieking and giggling.

Hope everyone is OK, can't NC you all as have an order for bacon sarnies to fulfil but will try to catch up properly later.

Yes Twisted just join in if you'd like to, might help, might not but it's a friendly bunch here and always someone around to listen.

Have a good day everybody, good luck with the bed Elba

SweetLathyrus · 13/02/2017 10:04

Morning All.

Twisted, that makes more sense. There is no judging or moralising here, only support, hop on board if you're comfortable, if not, maybe some other time.

MA Bloody, brilliant, woman! Star Good motivation for this week.

Luxe, I feel for you, half term is next week here, I shall mostly be leaving DS in bed to sort himself out!

Dubh your poor girl. I don't know what to say. SweetDog is such a precious part of my life, I would be heart-broken. But Grin at the friction burned nipple!

Sober I forgot to say, what an absolute poppet your little hound is! I use a 10m training line for SweetDog. I had pretty good recall with him for a year - just the occasional back to basics week when he forgot himself; but since November, every time I have given him the benefit, he has disgraced himself. But, tomorrow, he is off to see a proper gundog trainer - it's taken me ages to find one I can get to who uses positive training methods - so we can hopefully harness his hunting drive.

I feel for you Elba, there are some jobs that, no matter how strong and determined you are - you need the height (I say that as another 5ft 0in Babe).

So, Day 10 for me, the sun is shining, and I'm feeling ok about it. I had a day without refined sugar yesterday, hopefully another one today , so that I can start getting in to a fit state for my Easter hols.

tismesober · 13/02/2017 10:51

😂😂😂😂 at the image of dubs being strapped to a toning table with a faulty speed switch. That is going to make me giggle all day.
It's funny I was never a dog person.....always cats..... until my DD persuaded nagged and nagged me to get a dog. I am now totally in love with her although like you sweet she almost broke me with her bad puppy behaviour.
I also sought help and what I remember was to never scold her when she eventually returned after running off. I had to make coming back to me a pleasant experience and she would never come back to me if she saw that I was angry and she was about to get a telling off or in reality shouted at 😰
We turned a corner when she was 2 and now she keeps close to me on a walk and will always come back but it was a long lonely road at
Hope you all have a good day and luxe so glad that I am passed the teenager stage......have lots ofCake and BrewBrew

Brave Babes - reconvene here!!!
Brave Babes - reconvene here!!!
SweetLathyrus · 13/02/2017 11:10

Is it a bad sign that it is only 11.10 am and I have already eaten my lunch?

grumpysquash3 · 13/02/2017 11:20

Sweet
I think it's technically brunch if you eat it before 12 :)
I haven't had breakfast yet (half term here too, didn't get to bed until 2am as was collecting DS1 from school trip at antisocial time) but about to assemble a party tea and make a cake for DS2's 11th birthday, before the hordes descend at 2pm.

grumpysquash3 · 13/02/2017 11:21

...not that any of that is relevant, or actually even interesting..

UnwiseOldElf · 13/02/2017 12:19

Hello, everyone. I'm still here. Am going into detox on Friday. I feel a whole mixture of things, but mainly relief. I don't have to carry this anymore! Life will be do much simpler. I'm not kidding myself: I know it will be difficult, but not having the sore heads, the blackouts, the binges, the constant spending on booze...

I was worried about how work would be with me going off for 10 days. I was just very matter-of-fact (though didn't give a reason) and it's totally fine.

No idea what to expect and still stressing a bit at the thought of no internet (!) but also so ready to do this.

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dementedma · 13/02/2017 12:23

best of luck Elf. We will all be rooting for you.

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LuxuryWoman2017 · 13/02/2017 14:26

Elf I'll be thinking of you and cheering you on. Is DH being supportive?
I'm excited for you, a whole new way of life, our wise Elf Flowers

grumpysquash3 · 13/02/2017 14:26

Elf hope it goes well for you. What will actually happen during the 10 days? You'll have to bite your nails or take up knitting if there's no internet.....

SweetLathyrus · 13/02/2017 15:50

Thing is Grumpy, it was everything I put in my bag to eat as lunch, and now I'm hungry again Grin.

Elf you will have to pack lots of good books, but I expect the days are quite structured? (Don't really know, just guessing). Wishing you lots of luck.

UnwiseOldElf · 13/02/2017 17:00

Yes, v structured. There are group and 1:1 counselling sessions, you get allocated chores, acupuncture and head massage (?!), arts & crafts, meals (obvs!), medical observations, and optional evening AA meetings. You're allowed to take a radio/mp3 player but no internet... so not my iPod then! Have just treated myself to a little player about the price of a bottle of gin Blush. I've also bought a nice jar to put my booze money in when I come out...

UnwiseOldElf · 13/02/2017 17:01

And thanks, everyone. I never thought I'd be at this point. I'm a 'high-functioning' alcoholic, so have been in layers and layers of denial. But me and alcohol need to break up!

UnwiseOldElf · 13/02/2017 17:02

DH is a bit flummoxed and still in denial, but trying to be supportive, yes.

SweetLathyrus · 13/02/2017 17:19

Really pleased you are doing nice, positive things for yourself, Elf, you deserve it.

Our nearest and dearest are often in denial, but we also get very good at hiding it.

Elba84 · 13/02/2017 17:56

Elf you sound so ready! Really pleased for you.

Sweet yes there are some jobs that are just not meant for people of our hight! That said, i actually quite like being short.

I have my bed! So comfortable. Turns out you can't take apart a deceptively solid wooden bed frame with a hammer and a screwdriver. I did try. A neighbour is a retired builder so I asked to borrow a drill...unsurprisingly he didn't trust me with it (probably wise) and came to my rescue and had it sorted within 5 minutes. Hardly know him so was a bit embarrassing.

I'm drinking though Blush. Sleeps been utterly shit the last few nights and feeling a bit overwhelmed and knackered. Plucked up the courage to make a long overdue appointment today too which is now freaking me out. All part of trying to sort myself out a bit but would quite like to put my head back in the sand for a bit of a break. Not that drinking will help with any of that.

LuxuryWoman2017 · 13/02/2017 19:27

Evening all,
I'm just popping by to check in really, it's been a long and very loud day and the house smells of frying - the joy of teens.

Hope everyone is well, I will try to catch up properly at some point.
This week will test my resolve, I've put all booze away in a high cupboard, out of sight, out of mind.

In luxury news I have bought some anti-aging creams and some bright pink nail varnish that might be youthful looking (please humour me!)

I am worn out by the giggling and could happily go to bed ,Elba I am very envious you have a new one, how wonderful.

Have a great evening everybody, I'll catch up again properly soon.

SweetLathyrus · 13/02/2017 20:14

Can you stop now and make yourself a soft drink, Elba. Put on PJs and enjoy the new bed?

Luxe, you have my sympathy. Lock yourself in the bathroom and get painting those nails.

Tiring Monday. Work ended on bum note - students complaining about marks. But I didn't reach for the wine. Day 10 nearly done, but WW is definitely not banished.

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dementedma · 13/02/2017 20:37

Well done sweet
I've had gin and tonic but no wine.

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LuxuryWoman2017 · 13/02/2017 20:40

Really well done sweet that's brilliant.

SweetLathyrus · 14/02/2017 07:55

Morning Babes.

I had a rotten night - worrying about student complaints I think - the consumer attitude can be really dispiriting "I paid for my 2:1", and rather than discussing it, they fling about potentially damaging and definitely hurtful emails, like Trump with a tweet. No wonder so many academics drink.

Ma, just the one? Don't sabotage last weeks brilliant weight loss.

SweetDog and I are off to training at lunchtime. I'm excited and a nervous,. It's not cheap, but being af for the last week and a half more than covers it, and once we have had a 1-2-1 I will feel more comfortable about going to their regular classes.

As for the booze, I've hit the doldrums a bit - I was also mulling over never drinking again at 4am this morning (I know, ODaaT). I kept telling myself that NOT drinking was the grown up thing to do.

Onwards and Upwards.