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Dating thread no 112, still searching for a valentine.....

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Lovemusic33 · 17/01/2017 08:10

Hope it's ok for me to start a new thread as the other is full, I have copied and pasted the rules.

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. *edited by MNHQ at OP's request*
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Lovemusic33 · 03/02/2017 19:50

Dieu, the roads are pretty bad here, I live in the middle of nowhere and yesterday I got stuck due to floods, it was me that told him he might want to leave it ,it just would have been nice if he messaged back to say 'OK, I will leave it' rather than ignoring me for 7 hours. He has tried to call me in the last half hour but I have ignored it. I will message him tomorrow.

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InfoSec21 · 03/02/2017 19:54

Been chatting to iron2 a lot today, that's going very well.

Decided to call WG out a bit because I don't care if that date goes ahead or not. After I'd messaged to ask if she still wanted to make a date, I messaged her to say I'd happily chat more with her but I didn't want to overload her.

She replied simply to say I could message her anytime. So I replied and said OK cool, same goes for you, just say hey anytime you like. She said she would and she started off a little chat around the fact she's off out tonight.

She's still an absolute mystery.

Bant · 03/02/2017 20:04

But aren't they the best (and worst) type, info

People have got to have an air of mystery about them, don't they?

Dieu · 03/02/2017 20:12

Good on you Lovemusic. And remember, you were out partying with friends last night Wink

InfoSec21 · 03/02/2017 20:17

Best and worst Bant, absolutely!!

It's the most annoying part of her which is the most intriguing. I'm interested to know what she's all about. Curiosity.

Welshmaenad · 03/02/2017 20:48

Info I feel like I'm over invested in your love life as I'm very pleased you have 2 irons!

InfoSec21 · 03/02/2017 21:13

Oh thank you, very kind of you to be interested!

I think somewhere in the back of my little mind, I seem to like women that are hard to understand. God knows why I do that to myself but the ones I've been the most into historically, tend to have been hard to read.

Welshmaenad · 03/02/2017 21:36

I have a soft spot for Linux geeks Grin

I have a history of going for 'bad boys' that are terrible for me but MrLD is neither bad, nor a boy, so maybe I'm learning...

InfoSec21 · 03/02/2017 21:52

Sudo apt-get install Welshmaenad

Hello!

rememberthetime · 03/02/2017 22:34

Info...that is super geeky! Unfortunately what i know of Linux came from my ex-husband and I would rather forget all that!

I had a drunken phone call from my Australian man this morning. Obviously it was friday night his time. I think he is going to regret some of what he said...he was a little belligerent which was unattractive - but also stupidly soppy. Just waiting to hear from him now as he will be just waking up.

There's nothing quite like the drunken phone call....

InfoSec21 · 03/02/2017 22:43

I'm a little bit of a geek like, I do have a t shirt with Sudo apt-get install Girlfriend on it which some people comment on if I ever wear it. Usually geeky types like it.

A guy in Australia, that's long distance!!!!!

Bant · 03/02/2017 22:55

Early morning belligerent phone call with an Australian man... Hmm...

remember - are you Donald trump?

lastnicknamefree · 03/02/2017 23:34

remember you have the prize for the longest distance dating ever! I know you said he was a plane ride away, but not the other side of the world!
I need to know what he says after the drunken phone call now! I actually love those, especially the soppy bits Wink

I have a new iron.. he's very shy, been unsure if he was actually interested or not as we've been chatting 4 days and it's been me doing most of the running. I sent the first message and also instigated whatsapp. But he's asked me tonight if I'd like to meet up and said he really wanted to so I have a date! I'm calling him CBN

Welshmaenad · 03/02/2017 23:43

Oh sweetheart, I am not a Linux geek. I'm a social worker Grin but my MrLD is a quite famous Linux geek so I might try to learn at some point. I'm still not hacking the kids Chromebooks though.

InfoSec21 · 03/02/2017 23:54

You wouldn't need to hack them, you could get any Linux distribution onto a bootable USB and install it over the top. I've got three laptops, one with Windows and two have Kali distributions for what I do with it :)

InfoSec21 · 03/02/2017 23:55

I'm a very basic user though compared to someone who is a well known famous user so don't listen to me!

Ciaovenora · 04/02/2017 00:04

Rule 12 pen testing.

InfoSec21 · 04/02/2017 00:47

Yeah pen testing is my interest with it.

RunnnyMummy · 04/02/2017 08:18

I vaguely know what Linux is but have no clue what else is being said.
Girls night out tonight but I have a date tomorrow. I'd better behave myself tonight!
One of my boring Bumble matches actually sent me another message at 7 this morning. So I haven't replied yet.
Also have another possible date in a couple of weeks.
All looking interesting at the moment.

rememberthetime · 04/02/2017 08:45

Aus man didn't get in touch. I suspect a case of regret or hangover. But should hear from him today.

BernieBear · 04/02/2017 10:56

Great to catch up with you all.
Brilliant news Info - that is some progress in a couple of weeks.
Love - remember rules 7 and 8. You are the prize and if it's not fun, don't do it. It sounds like he is not making you feel great.
remember - I hope he get's in touch, although I too had a drunken call the other night, and it does make you question it all a bit.
Chuckle - coffee date sounds great. Keep updating
Dieu "Fuck sake, how old is he? 85?" -that made me laugh

I'm living for your updates this weekend, not much action for me due to child care issues for both of us. Met Mr Sparkie for lunch (2nd date) and have chatted every evening since, with a few messages during the day. It's just that, physically, he is not what I go for. Usually if I don't fancy someone I do a complete about turn, but for some reason (possibly because personality wise we hit it off and also there is no feelingof anxiety, stress, worry etc about whether he will contact or not because I know he will. He is also treating me with complete respect) I'm carrying on with it. I just worry it will get to a point where I will find myself too far in and decide that he isn't for me and want to get out. I'm probably over thinking things. Also, like remember I received the pissed phone call which put me off a little. I suspect time will tell.

Good luck to you all this weekend, keep updating, I will be waiting ..... (drums nails on table) Grin

InfoSec21 · 04/02/2017 11:05

I barely drink, hardly ever at all so to get a pissed up phone call would definitely be a put off!

WG was out last night and I was still up so I spotted her on What's App a bit after 1 so I said hi. She replied straight away as usual and then stopped after a few messages as usual. Strange girl.

Sometimes wonder what this is all about and makes you think staying in your own is the best plan ha ha :)

Original poster
Lovemusic33 · 04/02/2017 11:21

Message from mr mod this morning (I ignored him until 9am), apparently he's still ill, wanted to know if I wanted him to come over today, I told him I was busy and not feeling that great so probably not a good idea. He obviously senses that something's wrong as he keeps asking if I'm ok and has appolagised for being ill and useless. I kind of knew with him it would be a bit tricky, he told me at the start that's he's not great at dating and is not great at showing feelings, he also told me that when he's ill he struggles to be sociable and struggles to send messages (due to recovering from a brain tumour), so I'm unsure if he's being a dick or if he really is that ill. Anyway, I have child free day to myself so I will make the most of it.

I joined bumble and tinder last night just to keep me busy Grin

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InfoSec21 · 04/02/2017 11:39

I think I need to look at my Tinder picture choice, I never get a match on there.

RunnnyMummy · 04/02/2017 11:58

Love I think you should just enjoy your day to yourself and forget about him for a while. I find swiping on tinder and bumble to be a bit addictive. Then I panic when I get a match. Have fun!

Info why haven't you fixed a time and place for your date with wg yet?
My MrPhd is rubbish at texting but on date 1 he did most of the talking and was very interesting to listen to. Still trying to pin him down to date 2 though.

remember I'm sure he'll be in touch soon. Once he's got over his embarrassment.

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