Liar liar pants on fire

[Adory]

I know I am being lied to by my OH. It can be lies that make no sense 'I told you that before' when I have no recollection (nor does my sister whom I tell absolutely everything - though he doesn't know that!) to lies about money, where he's going/been etc.

I know the stampede may come to say LEAVE HIM LEAVE HIM... but I won't do that, so please help me deal with it or suggest what to do rather than tell me what an idiot I am and how I could do better.

He has a history of lying according to a close family member who gets very irate when he knows he's lied again.

Help me, I feel like I'm drowning 😰

[SpongeBobJudgeyPants]

Ok, haven't read all the replies, but...IME (XH) used to lie about anything. Even when the truth would have served him better. I always suspected it was because he had very controlling parents...his mother used to go through his waste-paper bin checking letters etc. So I think he created his own weird autonomy/privacy from me in this way. IMO it is impossible to have an intimate relationship in this situation, because you just don't know who they are. For the record, he was abusive in several other ways, which is why he became XH. Understanding didn't help ultimately, it just meant I made excuses for him far longer than I should.

[Lovemusic33]

It's not your problem who else he does it too, you can't change him, once a liar always a liar, ditch him and get on with your life, there are plenty of nice honest men out there, why live with someone you can't trust?