Is he being distant or am I just overthinking?

[shenry25]

I met a guy at the start of December and we were talking every night on the phone and we then met up for a date the next weekend. He ended up staying at mine for a few days and even met my mum and brother in that time. He then came down the day before Christmas eve to visit. After this his mum invited me for Boxing Day dinner with the family which was lovely and we all got on great. From Boxing Day until Monday past, we were with each other everyday and things were great. We are officially in a relationship (on Facebook too), have said I love you (he said it first), met each other's families, have them on Facebook and I'm so happy and he said he is too. He started acting distant on Monday before I left. He was meant to be coming down to mine for a few days but then he said he had work so he couldn't. He's also had an extremely sore back and ear for the last week too so I can understand his mood not being great. He text me on Tuesday afternoon to say he has been drifting in and out of sleep because of the painkillers and he hopes I'm well and he loves me. That's the last I've heard from him. He hasn't been as active on Facebook as much either. I've sent two whatsapp messages and a snapchat and neither have even been read. I had to change my number and the two whatsapp messages were just to tell him and then I text him to ask how he was. I also tried to ring him last night because he was using my Netflix and I couldn't watch anything while he was. I don't know why he's being like this and I know I'm probably overthinking but I just wanted someone else's opinion.

Bant 😂😂

I'd hazard a guess he did the In a Relationship link with you on FB to make someone (an ex he is pining for?) jealous. Is he recently out of a relationship? This is starting to look like a bit of a rebound relationship on both sides.

Nah, he has been single two years. He wanted to put that up before we even met but I told him that was silly

Silk i came on to say the same.

OP rushing in and having all his family add you on Facebook and parading you around on his arm all over the holidays, could be a stunt on his part.

Hope it works out, but don't be a door mat. You deserve his respect

So you'd travel for 2 hours to retrieve your knickers spun from gold by virgins (must be as they're so precious) but it's a bit much to ask his mum to stick them in the post?

www.asos.com

They don't sell dignity, but they have stuff that will help with it

And torch his shit.

Hang on..... he wanted to put on facebook that you two were in a relationship before you even met?!

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He wanted to put that up before we even met

I... just...

What???

This guy is starting to sound weirder and weirder. A 29 year old, semi alcoholic (I think it was this thread), who still lives with his mum tells you he loves you after a week, you meet his family, wants to put that you're in a relationship before you've met , then ghosts you.
Yes...I can see the attraction.

Please please salvage some self respect. You are WAY overinvested here and making your self look ridiculous, needy and desperate.

Block him on everything, delete his number and MOVE ON. Please. How could you even want to be with someone who can treat you like this ?

You can do way much better than this weirdo OP. Come on, you're too good for him. Get some fire and fight in you for goodness sake

So hang on, I've just read your OP again more carefully in the light of what you've just said. When you say you met at the beginning of December, I'm guessing you mean online? And then you spoke on the phone for a week or so, during which he suggested you should change your relationship statuses on Facebook?

Then he came to stay with you for a few days, and then you didn't see him again until Christmas Eve?

Then you spent most of the Christmas/New Year period together, after which he went home and you haven't heard from him since.

So really you've spent very little time together, and he was keen to be in a relationship before he even met you.

It sounds like a lucky escape! Please don't go begging this man to take you back. He sounds unhinged to be honest.

Errmehghed

If this was your best friend telling you this, you would be saying run for the hills.

As harsh as it is you're not a priority in his life, stop making him one in yours.

Forget the clothes, hit the sales and most importantly forget him.

Good luck

I seen him from Friday to Tuesday, then Friday and xmas eve, then I was up at his on Boxing Day and we only left each other on monday

Sweetheart, does that not sound mad to you?
Do you not see that this is a dickish as the way your ex behaved? They have you dangling, hanging around waiting to hear from them. They can pick you up and put you down whenever they feel like it and you keep "giving them one more chance".

It's past sad, and is now just a little bit pathetic.

Don't you want more than that?

I'm really sorry, but I think spending time together over Christmas when you're off work and out of your usual routine is very different from incorporating someone fully into your life.

What are you doing this weekend? I think you really need to meet up with some friends, be distracted for a while, and try to get some perspective on this whole situation.

Gahhhh. I truly feel for you. It is shit. But it's time to let it go now.

If he wanted to speak to you. He would. Please remember that.

You've seen this man a total of 14 DAYS in the entire time you've known him!! Do you see how ludicrous that sounds to everyone that you're this obsessive over him and apparently in love.

Love takes time, trust, friendship, genuine understanding of each other to build. It's not something I would take lightly saying to anyone so it's beyond me why people (and you're only a few years younger than me) say it so soon into a relationship.

shenry when you let this man go and find someone truly deserving of you who wants the same things as you i.e an actual relationship!! Then the feeling you get will be amazing. He will want to go out places with you, he'll want to be by your side but at the same time you will want to give each other space and time and nurture the most beautiful thing - love.

You were his girlfriend for Christmas, it was all make believe.

He's just not that into you anymore, and not for 2017.

Have some self respect, see the red flags and WALK AWAY.

Is he from the Newcastle area OP?

Bobbi I'm sure from PP's he's from Liverpool way

Ah, sorry I thought he'd moved 'back' from liverpool. Apologies OP.

The last week you spent with him OP, he was mostly asleep and taking strong painkillers. What did you do all day?

She has Netflix