New bf hasn't wished me happy Xmas

[Lonelyatxmas]

We've been dating for about eight weeks. Had a bit of a blip when he found out I'd kissed someone else between our first and second date and he backed off after having initially come on strong.

I explained that it was a huge mistake and we got through it and are still seeing each other. I realised how much I like him and was massively relieved.

Had a lovely chat Thursday then I whatsapped him yesterday to wish him a happy Xmas but no reply. I'm a bit hurt. Should I forget about him?

AnnymouseUser 😂

LonelyAtXmas

I'd have been upset too.

No matter how difficult Christmas is, there's time/ability to send the person you're in a relationship with, a message.

Then to blow them out to go out with mates?! Seriously?! Naff off.

I've no idea if all this 'thinking' and 'moving forward' is stuff in his life or your relationship, but he sounds far too much like hard work to me!

OP I really hope that you've blocked his number and planned something fun with your friends.

2017 has a lot of days to have fun with friends, chat and meet lots of men too. There are more regular ones out there.

he's been an arse. doesn't really matter why, he's still an arse and you don't want to be with an arse do you?

No. don't want to be with an arse.

I think he got scared by the intensity so soon and didn't know how to handle it. And has showed his emotional immaturity.

I don't think he's a bad guy. Just not right for me. I'm looking for a real man not a mummy's boy

I think category had it nailed up in neon lights from the start, as has everyone else. You've invested so much emotional energy into this and continue to do so. You really don't need the answers to any of this man's behaviour.

Red flags are waving in a very gusty breeze and you might be better taking control by ending this. If you hang around seeing how things go, they'll go exactly as you've experienced thus far. But worse. This is likely to get much much worse and you will lose yourself in it all. If you leave the end unspoken then you aren't "out of it" yet.