New bf hasn't wished me happy Xmas

[Lonelyatxmas]

We've been dating for about eight weeks. Had a bit of a blip when he found out I'd kissed someone else between our first and second date and he backed off after having initially come on strong.

I explained that it was a huge mistake and we got through it and are still seeing each other. I realised how much I like him and was massively relieved.

Had a lovely chat Thursday then I whatsapped him yesterday to wish him a happy Xmas but no reply. I'm a bit hurt. Should I forget about him?

It takes 30 seconds to fire off a text. However busy someone is there's time to send/ reply to text. IMO it already sounds like hard work

Either text him or stop moaning. It's been 8 weeks. He's already your BF??? He's been in love with you a year??? How do you know? He hasn't been with you.. It's all a big drama.
He may have been with family. Does he have kids? It's been 8 weeks. You are far too invested and over analytical.

Did he take his charger with him so his phone can recieve messages? Is he in an area/building with poor signal strength?

I'm not going to text him. I agree that I'm probably over invested and need to step back.

OP I have read the whole thread & stand by what I posted & yes it doesn't sound fun you wouldn't be posting on here otherwise!

fallen thanks for your post. Yes, I agree that it should be fun at this stage . And it has been! Until today when he didn't reply to my happy xmas whatsapp. He usually does reply pretty much instantly so it's out of character.

That's why I'm feeling insecure.

Yes but you shouldn't be feeling insecure should you & this has obviously preoccupied you all day.
Hate to say it but I don't think that he's as invested in this as you are.Excuses/reasons aside it only takes a moment to send a message to those we care about at Christmas.
Sorry to sound so negative but many of us have been at the receiving end of radio silence & it's hurtful.

OP, for what it's worth, I don't think you're overreacting.

A text message does not take a long time to type, no matter how busy somebody is. And if it's somebody you love, you'd be inclined to take the time to send them that text. It takes 30 seconds. If you really care about somebody, they're one of the first things you think about in the morning. It would have crossed his mind at some point today that he should message you, and if he cared enough, he would.

I think he's game playing.

Out of interest, is your happy Xmas whatsapp message last night blue ticked? If so, it's definitely game playing. I refuse to believe between now and then he has not had 30 seconds just to reply and say merry Xmas to you too.

I think so too Token. Appreciate your post.

I'm not going to send another text. He's definitely read the message and hasn't bothered to reply for whatever reason.

Yy sit on your hands & if he does get in touch proceed with caution.

Has he gone away for Christmas? There are still parts of the country where it's hard to get a signal (giving him the benefit of the doubt.)

Not as far as I know. I think he's just not as not me as I thought.

*as into me

Has he got small children? Christmas Day is very full on if so.

No, no children
There is no excuse!

I'm at relatives in the middle of Devon. There is no mobile signal at all, I've not had any text messages all day. I've only just asked for the wifi password and sent a few WhatsApp messages now. Maybe he's in the same sort of place?

Unfortunately I don't thank that's the case here. He's in North London with his folks, excellent signal AFAIK!

Same for me in west wales.

Nah utterly crap behaviour.As I said keep away from your phone & when & if he does contact you be wary,have sadly read to many threads of this type on MN.

Texts aside, you've had to 'get through' a 'huge mistake' of the crime of kissing someone?

This isn't the court of Henry VIII; without exclusivity, you are free to do what you want, with whoever you want.

Is it worth you feeling like this, this early on? Really?

OP if he's read your message and not replied so he's either thought he had replied but was distracted, or trying to work out how he feels as he's unsure. Either way I'd leave it and keep busy. By late afternoon tomorrow I'd send him a brief "Everything ok?" message and again wait for him.

So he's been in love wth you for a year, is that right? And during that years did he date anyone else or kisss them ? If so, have you given him a hard time about it and demanded an apology ?

No of course you've not, because that would be bonkers, you were not in an exclusive relationship. Yet he expected you to be faithful to him after one date ???

And he's already got you thinking that you made " a terrible mistake " .

And you mention he's been blowing hot and cold with you before.

Now this lack to reply to text.

That's several BIG red flags to me .

Rubbish behaviour from him. Been in love with you for a year my arse.

Maybe he didn't want to get you a Christmas present, so has elected to stay silent for a few days instead. He'll probably return in a few days with a sudden hospital stay/poorly relative/no mobile signal story.

He can't be too busy to text, that's ridiculous.

He's either lost interest or playing games. Ignore.

He had the arse on after u kissed some1 else, after 1 date. Basically "in love with you" you've been together 8 weeks. I'd expect a card/present! Never mind a tx. He sounds like a r8 head fixk tbh