OH went out last night and came back at 9am this morning

[Sarahjane1994]

My OH went on a works do last night. He went out at 9pm yesterday and didn't come home till 9am this morning. I was whatsapping him from 6am asking where he was and he was reading the messages but not replying. He came home and has gone straight to bed. I had so much planned for today (we have a 1 year old and he has a 7 year old that I was taking care of all yesterday btw) and now he's sleeping off his hangover and won't speak to me. I opened his xmas present that I saved up for ages for and chucked it on the bed next to him and said 'merry christmas' but he didn't even look he just threw it on the floor.

His 7 year old has gone home now and my 1 year old is having a nap. I keep getting upset and I just know it's going to be the worst christmas ever.

I don't know how to react. It's not the first time he's done this. Ive gone mad at him before and it never works he still does it.
If I go out which is very rare he interrogates me about other men etc. I wouldn't dare stay out, he would literally be accusing me of all sorts now if I pulled a stunt like that.

What are your thoughts on this situation please?

Thanks and happy xmas eve x

If you stay with this man and he's violent then you run the risk of losing your little girl yourself. If you don't protect her against exposure to his violence against you then social work could get involved.
For example : domestic disturbance and police are called by a neighbour, police investigate and there's a child in the house witness to you being battered, you say he's not that bad and you want to save the relationship etc. In this case social work are within their rights to remove the child from a place of domestic violence and put them into care.
You need to get him removed from your house or leave to a place of safety. It's imperative that you protect yourself and that little girl. He's not a good dad. He's violent. He doesn't respect you. Get rid of him, finish your degree and start a life of your own.

Oops too late. Glad you're getting out. Call the police

I agree with the others, call the police. They are used to situations like this and know how important it is to be sensitive to keep you and your child safe.

So sorry this is happening- especially at this time of year.

d assist her if she was local to them which is obviously a kind and maybe genuine gesture but i think they are warning her incase she gives away private information x

Or vice versa.

Too late now, but this should be (and hopefully has been) dealt with by the police as an emergency, and would have warranted a 999 call.

Hope you are all ok xx

Really hoping you're safe OP. Please let us know how you are.

Hope everything is ok and you managed to get away safely.

I'm worried about the OP.

I hope you are safe Sarah.

Please PM a MNetter your details if you need someone to call the police for you.

Sarah are you both ok? Did you get away?

Could drugs be the other issue? Just thinking if he's been up reading messages?

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Anyone else getting worried about the OP. I am. Keep refreshing the page hoping she will update us.

I am a bit worried. I know there is a big chance this is just a wind up, but still.

Maybe Mumsnet could check if it is a known poster or a previously banned IP. If not, maybe it would be good to send it to the police? Yes, we might make a fool of ourselves, but just in the case OP really needs help

Yes I would like to know that they are safe.

I hope they're both safe. I've refreshed several times hoping for an update.

I'm sure there's no need for concern.

Hope all is well.

I'm also a little worried.

I would assume the op is safe and choosing not to up date for reasons of their own, rather than being unable to.

for you OP hope you and DD are tucked up safely in a hotel x

If OP is having a crisis then it's perfectly natural for mumsnet not to be her first priority!

Hope you're ok sarah

This is awful to read. I hope you and your DD are safe OP.