Hoe do I take what has just been ssid to me?

[Holly90]

Long story short myself and DP having a row, (he suffers with anger issues at times) he turns around and calls me a 'creature' doesn't care about me anymore, go and shag someone else for all he cared. May I add he has said hurtful things in the past, gets to a boiling point, simmers down and then apologies, he also suffers with mental health issues, now I'm not making excuses believe me, I fully believe whatever comes out of anybody's mouth is completely there responsibly. I don't talk hurtful to anybody, I don't have an evil bone in my body.
I'm distraught

OP just like with him, until you act, it's just talk.

This is the first time I've ever said this on mumsnet, OP you are an idiot.
Any person that can abuse a dog the way your, uggh partner is doing can go on to abuse children in the same way.

In one survey, 71 percent of domestic violence victims reported that their abuser also targeted pets.
In one study of families under investigation for suspected child abuse, researchers found that pet abuse had occurred in 88 percent of the families under supervision for physical abuse of their children.

You both need counselling and fast!

Oh and for god's sake give the dog to a more responsible human being. You are as much an abuser to that poor animal as he is, by letting it still happen.

I can't even get into the situation with regards to your poor dog :( as it just angers and upsets me !

But I hope the bastard has gone now!
And if not get his arse out of your house !

My dog means the absolute world to me and if ANYONE I don't care who, treated my boy like he has done to yours, I would absolutely hand their arse to them.

He's treating you both like utter shit and unfortunately for your dog, she can't kick him out!but you can !!

Make sure you get it sorted!

Oh and for god's sake give the dog to a more responsible human being. You are as much an abuser to that poor animal as he is, by letting it still happen.

This.

How are you today OP? I've just read the whole thread and I've been so impressed with your resolve and determination, but I know that actually putting it into practice can be really hard. Stay strong!

Reading posts like this make me wish I had had the courage to post on MN years ago. My abusive ex had me convinced that talking to people about our relationship would be a breach of his trust, and that it wouldn't be fair because people wouldn't have all the context. I felt like that extended to posting about him online, and the thought of it made me feel horribly guilty so I never did. As a result I stayed with him for far too long.

I was getting counselling for depression (which I now recognise wasn't really depression, it was just sheer misery at being so badly treated) and he got really funny about it, kept making 'jokes' about how the counsellor was probably going to just tell me everything was his fault. They didn't, of course, but the fact that he even thought of that says a lot!

Even after we were well and truly over, he still tried to tell me that I shouldn't discuss our history with anyone because no one would be able to properly judge the situation without the full context. But when you're telling your family that your ex called you a cunt and a fat bitch pretty much every day, I'm really not sure what kind of 'context' is supposed to make that ok!

Not 'letting' you talk to your family when you're upset is a HUGE red flag and I think it's very important that you speak to your mum ASAP. It doesn't matter whether he wants you to or not - you have absolutely every right to do so and the fact that he doesn't want you to makes it even more important that you do!