Dating thread 111- just waiting...

[Evilwater]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good.

Claw It's not normal to put on your profile but I think I'd have to meet up with him sorry one track mind today

Clawdeen not normal but I have read it a few times, both in profile or in msg

I think they just get a kick out of it
it like old raincoat flashers

bet you he can't get it up

boxing

boxing why were you stroppy? Was he an arse?

Clawdeen maybe he was reported and his profile was deleted? That is really ewww.

It's annoying when you read a profile and they seem really nice and then spot something really weird that they mention or request in the person that they're looking for.

Tell us what you did boxing!

just behaved like a prat really. It is obvious that I am more into him than vice versa. I can live with that. I wanted to go over, he wanted me to, but because of work and dc I couldn't , wanted to go tonight, but that didn't work for him, than its all kind of xmas do and rush till we (myself and dc) will go to GP (?) I was offering some dates but lost my patience real fast, REAL fast............ so now radio silence and I know I fucked it up

ps: GP is not how to refer to grandparents is it ?

Ah, I wondered what it was. Doctors? Grand prix?...

faffalotty

So...

I had a message from The Intense Italian today, exactly one week after the last message. I know he hasn't been on the site since then, but I'm wondering why.

Possible reasons:

1. Been on holiday.
2. In a relationship with limited access to t'internet 3)Been dating many many women and hasn't had the time
3. Lost his memory for the passwords for online dating sites.

Whaddya reckon? He gave me his phone number in his most recent message.

a bit of 2 and 3 ?
imo intense italian will find a way to text while on top of gf if needs must

Speaking of Italians I'm back from my lunch date with one of the same plus my 4 year old
It actually went really well! First impressions were not great, he's clearly shaved a bit off his age on his profile and was a lot older looking than in expected and as I usually date younger I was unsure I would be attracted to him at all. Ever.
But actually, as the lunch went on, he was so warm and friendly, extremely charismatic I did feel more drawn to him. His accent is very sexy and he smelt gorgeous too. Also very stylish! And another huge plus was that he was fabulous with my son, took him to look around the kitchen and make ice cream. We were treated very well it was a lovely date, he's very gentlemanly. So all in all, I'd like to see him again, I really had a lovely time and he's such a nice man I'm sure I would be silly not to

That's if he actually asks me of course!

Ask him! Don't hang about. Stuff convention. Be brave and make the next move.

Yes ask him!

yes, ask him. Italian men are much more relaxed about rules/conventions
but also he may beat you to that

I messed up, shall I apologise or just leave it

So glad I found this thread - just started OLD and keep getting winked at by 60 year old blokes (I'm early 40s) and it all feels a bit weird!

Ok so date 2 is Friday! Thanks ladies I'm looking forward to seeing him again for a proper date where we can actually finish a conversation without hearing mummy, mummy, mum, MUM!!
He has my full respect for dealing with that on a first date and coming back for more....

boxing yes, text and say you were looking forward to meeting up and got frustrated that your schedules weren't working out...it's fine to be honest with men, we actually prefer knowing what the problem is rather than trying to work it out ourselves!!

Boxing - what is good here is that you realise you were a bit harsh and if you apologise you might smooth things over. its ok to be upset and difficult sometimes. It happens to everyone at some point. Its those people who don't realise they were difficult that are the ones to worry about.

Last - so excited for you!!

Good work with second date remember
Grr, definite ghosting. Boo. I stayed over but we didn't moose burger. Oh well. As his main attraction was consistent attention over the 6 weeks of dating, I'm not that upset. I was thinking short fling not long term anyway. It's just slightly shorter than I planned!

Have new iron, we are trying to plan first date already (super fast worker me)

Boxing if you're honest he can appreciate that you are thoughtful and just fed-up with the situation and not him

Curiouser and curiouser...

The Intense Italian has been messaging all evening (via that Viber thingy). But he's deleted his profile on the dating site, as of this evening (as far as I can tell). He did say that he hadn't been active on it.

I Smell a Rat

What rat? That smells of OI to me! (him not you!)

Or am I just hopelessly naive?