Dating thread 111- just waiting...

[Evilwater]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good.

Good point Bant

do you really think someone with a gruesome past will be so daft to use his real name If only it was just that easy

Still creepy, I would leave it

Still waiting for Pringles and EVilWater to show their face here again, Ladies where are you?

Brittanyferries my ex left me after almost two decades, most with EA against me (I'm on another longterm thread and can post link in case helps you). I started OLD in Aug and had some good and bad experiences. Seeing a man since mid-Nov and relationship has potential. The hardest thing is dealing with the negativity in my head against me whilst trying to build a new relationship. I try to switch emotions off and logic on when making decisions iyswim.

Boxing Well, the photo's and location indicate a match, so it's either a really strange joke or a really silly thing to do in his particular circumstances!

Either way, I'm not sending any further messages!

Bant - I am loving the term manslaughterer... and the hints....

lilac - I hear you, it's tricky. I have a complex past. I'm hoping it doesn't put off the right person - but I'm guessing that it will make things more tricky. Still smarting from my ghosting a week or so ago, but ready to pile back in, I think (although not with the manslaughterer...)

BaklavaBalaclava

How is everyone! I'm excited for my third date with Mr13 tomorrow.

We've been messaging a lot even though it's been Christmas and both of us seem keen but I'm trying to remember it's been only 2 dates and a couple of weeks chatting. So far which isn't very long, he seems bloody lovely! I'm a bit actually. What's the catch, why is he single and when is he going to turn into an idiot like the last few

It's really hard to strike a balance between being realistic and not over investing in someone you barely know, and being so jaded and disillusioned with OLD that you become bitter. Optimism is great, but intended to lean to far into the foolish and never learns idiot!

Anyway, I'm looking forward to date 3 any other dates in the pipeline?

Well my date tonight cancelled. He has the flu, but I suspect he's slowly backing away after my panic attack and weirdness about him coming on too strong. Quite relieved actually I was putting myself about meeting him.

I imagine you are equal measures of relief and disappointment brittanyfairies. I know I was when something similar happened to me.

Hey I love the online dating threads : ) The good stories give us hope!

I have had 2 dates with a guy from Tinder... going well so far. Although I refuse to be disillusioned - I know from previous experience it can go tits up anytime.

Contact on a daily basis, lots of chemistry ... hmmm... I guess we will see.

He is away on holiday for a couple of weeks & im trying to play it cool, only replying when he messages me etc, I've had to delete my FB from my phone as I feel as if I've turned into a stalker overnight checking his profile etc ( we have added each other on FB - good start ).

AGHHHH this early dating stage is exciting but trying to act all cool when you really like them is just... ugh.

rosie the beginning part is mixture of feeling excited and hopeful, mixed with huge anxiety over do they like me too, and trying but failing to stay out of the over investors corner

I find I only get anxious if I really like them, it's hard to enjoy it then! I'm an over thinker and having had lots of crap experiences in OLD this year it's hard to stay optimistic. My head says, look it probably won't come to anything, just chill out and take it one date at a time. My heart doesn't fecking listen!

I'm so excited for my date 3 tonight with Mr13 and not over invested at ALL

So I binned off Mr Tall - I went out for the evening and was slow replying ( I was at a gig and didn't want to be constantly texting) when I got out and checked my phone I had 12 messages from him, the last two basically saying I would have to ' make it up to him'?

I don't think so mate!

So new iron. I shall call him Mr W. lots of chatting, date planned for after New Years. I really really like him. Trying not to get over invested and I feel like I'm kind of waiting for him to do something that rings alarm bells. Hasn't happened yet. We only added each other on Whatsapp last night after two and a bit weeks of chatting on POF.

I have a good feeling about this one so he's probably going to turn out to be an arsehole

arkkorox that's very red flaggy of mr tall you definately did the right thing! What did he say when you told him to jog on? Men like this usually show true colours at that time I feel.

Good luck with new iron, sounds good if you've been consistently talking for a few weeks!

last well I said I was ill and wouldn't be texting much to buy me some time to slow it down.

When I told him that he was too full on and came across as being very possessive he told me he was going to ' spend Christmas totally alone and very sad because of you '

Yeah cause guilt tripping me is definitely the way to win me over hahaa.

I'm so nervous about meeting Mr W. Is it bad practice to bring a friend with me for moral support? I feel like I'm 13 again and going to meet a boy by the cricket club

mr tall sounds like a twatty manchild

Is it bad practice to bring a friend on a date?

Yes. Yes it is

lastnicknamefree is this the date brought forward ? Very excited for you, what's the plan for your date 3?

Arkkorox good grief ! Mr Tall sounds needy, passive aggressive and playing the victim has to be the biggest turn off (surely he ought to know?)
The fact that you feel you cannot just tell him to sod off, in my opinion, goes to show how very manipulative that personality con be! You own him nothing. Block him !

Bant I am pretty sure Arkkorox as kidding about taking a friend, right ?

I dunno, boxing. One woman I chatted to on OLD said she'd actually want me to meet her cat on a first date, so she could see if I was trustworthy.

Erm well I was joking till Bant mentioned the cat thing...

I'm actually going to take my dog as we're getting a coffee and then going for a walk. Now I'm overthinking it. Thanks bant

Twatty manchild sums up Mr Tall perfectly, don't worry Boxing he is blocked!

Sorry Ark

There's a big difference between taking a dog on a walking date, and bringing a cat to a wine bar though..

I would definitely want to meet up if they were bringing their cat

Someone with a sunset for a profile pic. Says they can't put their own picture up as they've got a crazy stalker. Will email a pic if Wanted.

Is this a standard ploy to send a naked pic?

last, good luck for tonight - enjoy!!!

Ark, Mr Tall does sound like a complete twat, at least he's done you a favour and shown you his true colours

faff - could be, but could also be married.