Dating thread 111- just waiting...

[Evilwater]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good.

Morning!

I think that's v normal, or at least, I'd get bored if someone only texted me once a day!

I expect at least one text conversation and another random text during the day... (high maintenance)

I tend to text a lot too.

Been texting Mr Tall lots since we matched on POF.

Also been chatting to a guy who is a A support worker by day but a wrestler by night. It keeps making me laugh! But we had a good chat last night and he seems really genuine. Hasn't pushed for a number/pics etc

Glad to hear you are going to go for it Shodan!! Yeah, we text lots, even at the beginning and also the other irons were the same. I felt meeting was easier then, as we could continue some of those conversations.

What I've learnt from OLD and here is that each iron is different, what works for one may not work on the next one! Which makes it bloody difficult to figure what's right and what's wrong!!

Oh ok then It's not that I don't enjoy daily conversations- I suppose it's just that I've forgotten what dating is like.

I shall just relax and go with the flow a bit more then.

Is anyone having a date tonight?

Very true Genuine!!

Lol Shodan, last time I was dating, there weren't mobiles or computers. I'm not sure which is better or worse tbh!!

I've got a date tonight. I need to get
In the zone for it!

well, my new iron has moved on somewhat. I will call him Mr Good Cook. We have had 3-4 days of full on messaging - really sharing everything. Not met him yet - and so worried that the connection we have via messages won't translate in the flesh. But nothing ventured and all that.

Mr Good Cook is attentive, very keen, complimentary, excellent job, ready for a relationship and similar age. Similar likes and dislikes and we don't want to stop talking...

Oh dear - this is going to be the transitional relationship, isn't it?

We had planned to meet after christmas, but i don't think I can wait that long...

remember that's kind of how me and Mr Tall have been with the messaging. It's quite full on isn't it

Ark - have you met him yet?

Yes, it is very full on, but it is making me feel very happy. After some of the ups and downs I have been through that is a nice way to feel.

But don't know if it is real or not.

remember, I honestly wouldnt worry about whether its transitional or not. I'm taking the view that things last as long as they last - who knows at the start whether that's a few dates, a few months or a few years. Enjoy meeting and getting to know each other

remember no not yet. We can't meet until after New Years cause of children/work shifts .

Biting the bullet and getting involved in PoF tonight. Will report back results.

Good luck ontheair

Please report back!

Today must be cheesy day on pof. I got 2 messages that were king of cheese, having normally only got either hi or something relatively sane...

hello everyone, can i join in? completely new to online dating and just signed up! it's all very new!! i'm a LP with no support, so can't meet people out and about so thought i would give it a whirl...

although it's really nice to chat to some people i feel a bit weird about them getting attached too soon, building up relationships based on a few words.

I know you have to meet them but i am paranoid I will be a let down especially after building up something via a few messages. Obv i chose a nice pic of me (as most probably do) but only put one up as i am very camera shy - also my self confidence is not that high and i could do with losing a stone or so, I haven't mentioned my weight but have just chatted with people... would hate to let them down in the flesh!

Ah sprinkle please don't be paranoid. I know how you feel though. It's a big step just joining old

Ooh! So, before I flounced from the site I was using, I had given my email address to someone and we met for a cuppa today. It was really lovely, there was a spark and he made me laugh a lot.

I'm a bit hesitant because I met someone through OLD about this time last year and he sadly died this summer. Not sure if the time is right for me. But then again, if I was moved to join a dating site and this thread, perhaps that tells me all I need to know...

Hey Sprinkle you sound a bit like me

Stay clear about what you want from it, what you can give and what are the "deal breakers" - and you'll be fine.

Remember that chatting on a dating site commits you to nothing - treat people with manners and kindness, but beyond that, they are not your responsibility.

I had another night of messaging which got somewhat "intense" if you get my drift...

This man seems perfect in every way. yet i haven't met him. The only thing i could imagine is that I might not like his voice.

I can get head over heels in love with someone without knowing them properly. I have form for that. I need to slow down.

I hope everyone else is enjoying their dates this weekend. I guess that at this time of the year things really slow down. Anyone having Christmas or new year dates planned?

no one ever looks like their photos in RL. Men also lie about age, hight, weight and hair. Yep....hair ! Is they are bolding and have an issue with it.

I have also been pleasantly surprise sometime with 2/3 guys who looked so much better in RL and their photo didn't do them any favour. Incidentally my best match ever

I had a date last night but didn't feel a spark. I'm worried I'm too particular. If he wants to go out again I would as he was nice.

I've had two messages this morning. One from a iron I've not met yet saying he's high and lonely and wants to come round and another who sent me a message last night at 1 am and 10 am then another Half an hour later saying I've tried sending you messages and I'm totally ignored good luck.

I find that a bit needy. I think it's ok for someone to not reply straight away. I hadn't seen the messages this morning as I was on the phone anyway.

remember you need to talk on the phone earlier rather than later...will save a lot of OI too early.
boxing and women aren't economical with the truth?? 😃 I've met women who said they were avaerage size...found out that only applied to the top half!! 😃

body size is always in the eye of the beholder. I would describe myself as curvy but others might say average. I am a curvy lower half and average upper half (like your date!). But how does one describe that accurately? I try to be as clear as possible about my measurements, but it is hard not to come across as lacking in confidence if you keep going on about your body all the time.

I am just hoping that by the time bodies are revealed my date likes me enough not to care.

genuineguy I didn't point accusatory fingers, chill :-)
I was just trying to reassure the previous posters just starting and with a bit of low confidence (like we all do) that it is not all gold what glitter out there ;)

boxing very true...I wasn't being inflammatory..I don't have a type so don't look for anything one thing in particular! It's better to be upfront- there's always someone out there who likes you for you...unfortunately there's about 3 billion to choose from!! 😃😃