Dating thread 111- just waiting...

[Evilwater]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good.

Oh bollocks I forgot to namechange back. And now I can't remember my password.

Gah.

Annnnndd I'm back.

I'm sorry to hear about the Italian last, how confusing.

Me and first date are still messaging a couple of times a day and we chatted on the phone yesterday and have tentatively agreed to meet again on the Friday between Xmas and New Year.

I am now having the type of crisis of confidence that I used to suffer from last time I OLD. I hate this feeling, I can't seem to rid myself of the feeling of impending doom and think that it isn't going to work, even though, on paper, it is progressing well. Is it just me that suffers from this??? Is it because we get used to the constant disappointment that seems to come with OLD???
He has said (without me even mentioning it) that he hasn't been back on Tinder since I agreed to meet him the first time but I am applying rule 4 to this.

I must keep reading the rules to keep me sane, I think.
Good luck to all for the weekend

I met my 2nd husband through an ad in the paper (no on-line dating then) - it lasted 16 years. When we split, I tried OLD and have been seeing my partner for 18 months. It can work - just need to weed out the weirdos.

Go for it Shodan!! Me and 31 have the same gap (just different ages) and 2 months in we're very happy

ValMc1 amazing, you are totally a pioneer !
The problem I have is not so much the weirdos ro be honest. I have come across really nice men especially at the beginning of my search for long term (which I stopped in favour of - you know - fast food ) but if there is no attraction how can you even start.
Did you have some kind of love at first sight, friendship first, slow burner... ? I am intrigued do tell pls

New Iron. From eHarmony but he managed to send me his number so added him to whatsapp

Totally out of my league

Ark, I'm sure he isn't!!

Arkkorox
Totally out of my league
how can you tell ? Honestly, it is a serious question. How can we tell ?

I often think the reason why nothing gets going could be I managed to inspire men to meet me but must be a let down when they see me in the flesh !
On the other hand, no many I have met are nowhere near as cool as any of my exes

It's okay, as soon as I mentioned the toddler he blocked me

quick job well executed :-) Next ......

is it only be and you tonight date-less?

me, not be, duh

I'm home tonight.......with my teenager!!

I messaged my ons. Why?!? I must look so desperate.

he always replies but makes no effort to see me. He doesn't want to see me so why do I keep picking th scab! He pops up every now and again and disappears.

Right, I'm deleting his number now

don't be so hard on yourself, I get msg from men from 18 months ago
which I ignore most of the time, sometime I reply, I don't think they are des[erate, just bored, or horny :-) I'm sure its the same for them

I'm home dateless and bored after 4 nights out in a row...
Think I might rejoin eHarmony in the New Year....

Thanks boxing I've deleted his number now. If he replies it makes it worse because I think "oh he's so nice"

What's eharmony like genuine is that where they match you?

Hello May i join in please?

Why can't I find someone who doesn't just want sex? Am I out of touch? Is this the dating world now, you have them sending pictures of the most ugly part of them and they expect the same back? I want a time machine ....

Ooo yes please join oops I love this thread. I find it therapeutic and helps me work out what I'm thinking.

I don't know about finding someone that doesn't want sex. I've not been successful yet except where I've found men who I wasn't attracted to.

I guess if you do just want sex old is a good way of contacting lots of possible partners.

4 night's out in a row Genuine? I'd need a night in after that!

Oops, unfortunately a lot of the time it does seem like that.

fluff office party last night so need a night in to be honest!!
At least when I'm out I don't think about my crap love life!!😄

Lol, there is that!!!

I'm in tonight as well-playing quiz games with my elder son and his girlfriend. Rock 'n' roll, me...

I'll definitely go for it MrsFluff because...well, why not, eh?

Just one question though...is it normal for them to message every day, before you've even met them? There's nothing untoward in his messages, just chat, but it's starting to feel a little bit full on, tbh. I mean, what on earth will we talk about on our first date, when we've already covered Xmas parties/the festive season in general/film preferences etc etc??