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OH F**K MY DH HAS JUST LEFT ME- Hope there's someone to talk to

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 22:07

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BandofMothers · 17/02/2007 21:57

Know what you mean. You see their little faces on the pillow. DD1 tucks her covers all the way up to her chin, just like I do. I feel a huge surge of love and then a huge surge of guilt, and vow to do better tomorrow. If I had a pound for everytime I've thought that I could go and buy her something really expensive and cool to make myself feel better

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ohsmellyjelly · 17/02/2007 21:58

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ohsmellyjelly · 17/02/2007 22:01

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BandofMothers · 17/02/2007 22:03

No. When DD1 comes to me and says, give me a hug mummy. And dd2 gives me a big gummy smile and wriggles madly cos she's pleased to see me.
Brilliant stuff!!

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ohsmellyjelly · 17/02/2007 22:05

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ohsmellyjelly · 17/02/2007 22:08

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BandofMothers · 17/02/2007 22:09

Being a mum is great. Esp at this time of night when they're asleep.

BandofMothers · 17/02/2007 22:09

OK.
Good Luck
Sleep well, if that's possible

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ohsmellyjelly · 17/02/2007 22:10

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ohsmellyjelly · 17/02/2007 22:11

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ManchesterMum · 18/02/2007 20:58

Hi OSJ - Am sure that you're in the midst of the big conversation but just wanted to let you know that I'll be checking in every so often on the offchance that you end up posting this evening. Hope you're OK?

BandofMothers · 18/02/2007 23:30

Hope it's going well.
Will check in tomorrow.

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ohsmellyjelly · 19/02/2007 14:15

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BandofMothers · 19/02/2007 14:25

Sounds promising. I assume dh wants to try and work it out then?
Good that he seems to believe you now.

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ohsmellyjelly · 19/02/2007 19:44

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BandofMothers · 19/02/2007 19:56

Strange how talking can be exhausting!!
Tis impossible to sort your head out and get well with 2 dc's to look after. Tis why I've been poorly for weeks. Or seems that way.
It sounds promising. You're right though, save any drastic decisions for when you're well again. Esp ones you might not be able to take back.
You sound much better already.

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ohsmellyjelly · 19/02/2007 20:05

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BandofMothers · 19/02/2007 20:11

Has been a funny few months and not in a haha way. At mo I have a barky type cough, really scratchy and dry. Thus both dd's have had it. DD1 seems to have had something or other for weeks.DD2 is cutting her first tooth and has a cold. (she's a biter too-ouch)
Have been generally tired, short tempered and horrible. Feel sorry for DD's.
DD2 is not herself today. She's been up for 13 hrs with less than an hours nap, and is still crying.

ManchesterMum · 19/02/2007 21:25

It's great to hear you sounding so much more positive OSJ, though I realise that it's only the beginning of your new journey with DH.

For me, it's thinking rather than talking that's so tiring - probably exaplains a lot - and I think you've probably done enough of both over the last few days to last a lifetime.

Don't know if it helps (including for you, BOM) but I was extremely run down for 4+ months at the end 2005/start 2006 which included a chest infection that I just couldn't shake off. Eventually decided to try acupuncture at the recommendation of a friend, though it was a bit of a last resort and I didn't honestly know if it would work. It was bloody marvellous!!! I was so shocked. Felt nearly human again at the end of the first session (DH couldn't believe the change in me when I came home), though I reckon it took three sessions to get rid of it altogether and feel back to my former self. It was a real indulgence for me because acupuncture isn't the cheapest treatment but it was the best few quid I could have spent.

Keep well

BandofMothers · 19/02/2007 21:30

Am having a shiatsu/reiki massage tomorrow. My sister's friend is training and needs bodies to practice on so is cheaper.
Can't wait.
Also had a death in the family. My mum's ex dp, and best friend ever since splitting up ,fell down the stairs and died. He was 42, and we're all just gutted. I'm welling up just typing it. I can't believe he's gone and how much it's affected me.

ManchesterMum · 19/02/2007 21:36

How awful BOM. You deserve some tlc, if only to help give you enough strength to deal with it all. (((((hug)))))

BandofMothers · 19/02/2007 22:00

Thanks MM.
This was in Mid Nov and, I saw him at the funeral home, and went to his funeral, but it still seems unbelievable that I'll never see him or talk to him again.
It's just been horrible. His 19 year old daughter found him.
They'd been celebrating her birthday on Fri night. The coroner's think he fell on the Sat morn. When noone heard from him, and he didn't answer his door, his dd borrowed my mum's key, let herself in and when she opened the door to the stairs he fell at her feet. Blood every where. They thought he'd broken his neck, but when they did an inquest they discovered he had such a severe head trauma that he had a huge fracture and massive brain heamorrage (sp?)
I can't imagine how she is coping so well, but she's drinking a lot. My mum is a bit lost as they still saw each other all the time.
Sorry to go on about it on your thread OSJ.

ManchesterMum · 19/02/2007 22:04

Sometimes life sucks .

ManchesterMum · 19/02/2007 22:05

...but then you see dc sleeping like angels and it helps, just a little bit.

BandofMothers · 19/02/2007 22:14

Yeah. Their sweet little faces. . . Makes me feel guilty for having no patience lately though.