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OH F**K MY DH HAS JUST LEFT ME- Hope there's someone to talk to

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 22:07

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BandofMothers · 15/02/2007 22:58

Not wanting to make you feel worse, but, why did you keep it, and why in your bag?

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 22:59

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BandofMothers · 15/02/2007 23:02

Doubt he will leave it too long as he'll be stewing over it, and pretty soon he'll want to get it all off his chest.
Feeling for you.

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 23:03

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 23:07

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 23:10

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BandofMothers · 15/02/2007 23:11

No, you're not. You're just unhappy in the relationship, and when that happens it's VERY easy to think you have feelings for someone else if they are kind to you, or flirt with you, or just notice you in some way.
The good thing is, and a point you should make to dh when he comes back, is that writing it down made you realise you didn't have feelings for him, it got rid of the fantasy. And most importantly that this whole fiasco seems to have made you realise that you perhaps don't want your marriage to end???

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 23:14

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 23:16

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BandofMothers · 15/02/2007 23:17

Perhaps some kind of counseling might help.
You obviously have some issues, but agree that this was an awful way for it to happen.
I hope you can convince him that you're innocent.

BandofMothers · 15/02/2007 23:19

Know this might be playing with fire, but if he knows the man, could he perhaps vouch that nothing has happened?

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 23:19

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 23:21

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BandofMothers · 15/02/2007 23:24

If someone wants an affair, they generally make time for it!!
What a mess. I'm racking my brains trying to think what might convince him. It really depends how stubborn he is, or if he'll listen to you properly, without instantly dismissing what you say as a lie.
You must be in agony. {{{hugs}}}

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 23:24

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 23:28

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BandofMothers · 15/02/2007 23:29

OMG. Just looked at the time. I ought to be in bed ages ago. Have 2 poorly ones, one of who still eats at night, sometimes.
How old are your dc's? You've prob said but I have porridge brain!!

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 23:30

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 23:31

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BandofMothers · 15/02/2007 23:32

That was prob a mistake, but I think there are a couple of things you might have here to convince him.

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ohsmellyjelly · 15/02/2007 23:32

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