My husband has hit our son... If I take him to hospital, will they take him away?

[GraceLeLe]

I want him checked. However, will he be taken away? I'm staying at a friend's house, to keep away from him.

He's okay

What did the hospital say?

OP - please call Women's Aid and take their advice and support. I hope your little one is ok.

Glad he is ok.
I hope you felt able to be honest about how the head injury came about when you were seen in A+E?

Now stay away from the abuser.
Do you have a safe place to stay? And a plan going forward?

Glad he is ok.

Please stay away from him do not put your DS in any more danger.

I'm glad your ds is OK. Where are you now?

What did they say at the hospital

You don't have to have experienced DV in order to have at least some insight into it. And before you launch into posting on such a sensitive and potentially dangerous issue, you could reasonably be expected to educate yourself a little. There are a million resources out there on DV. Including the ones linked to on this site

^ Excuse me is there something wrong with you? no need for that outburst!!

OP I am glad that you son is ok, thanks for the update.

OP I hope you and your son are safe.

There are loads of resources which may be helpful to you and those supporting you linked to in the MN Domestic Violence and Relationship webguides at the top of the page.

I hope you're okay

Oh dear this doesn't sound very reassuring............

Any hospital-level injury to a child and (hopefully) an honest explaination of child abuse will result in SS referral. If this is true I hope for the child's sake they are now heavily involved. If this is actually true that the OP had to ask the Internet whether to take drowsy child post head-injury to seek urgent care, I would hope OP is being supported to keep him safe by statutory services as she clearly ain't capable of seeing how to do this herself.

You think he's ok or the hospital says he is?!

Grace, I do hope you did actually go to the hospital.

Please consider why you are saying that your husband has been good. This is not an isolated event, is it? You don't need to tell anyone here, but please take all the help available to move yourself and your son somewhere safe.

OP did you take him to the hospital?

You need to put your son first and you need to demonstrate that you've put him first.

You put him last if you try and excuse anyone for hurting your child. You can make all the excuses you like but he is last if you didn't get him medically checked over. Last.

Did you get him checked by a doctor?

If it were as simple as any normal parent would take positive action when children are endangered, no child would suffer from DV. That plainly doesn't happen so must be more complex than labelling a victim of DV a bad or abnormal mother.

What did the hospital say?

Yes, you've given no details whatsoever since saying 'he's okay' which is ringing alarm bells. You were happy to involve MN in the beginning, so why so scarce with the follow up details?

You didn't take him, did you?

Can mumsnet not trace the OP's details and pass this on to the relevant authorities considering a child has actually been assaulted here? Sick of the pussyfooting around. OP your child wouldn't be taken away if you took him to hospital to be checked. It's far more likely to happen if you don't take him and someone finds out you didn't seek medical help. I don't believe you've taken him, it's all very vague, so you have no way of knowing if your child is ok. Sort it out and protect your innocent child from abuse.

You've not taken him have you op? And by doing this you are exactly the kind of parent who has their child removed - self forfilling prophecy

If op did, I suspect she will have made up an alternative scenario for how it happened. Expect a follow up visit from HV at very least.

Can mumsnet not trace the OP's details and pass this on to the relevant authorities considering a child has actually been assaulted here? Sick of the pussyfooting around

^^ I don't think they can, we will never know whether OP was being genuine or not, I'm not accusing her of not being genuine, I doubt she will be back with another update.

No, of course MN cannot forward anything to anybody - this is a public chat forum and cannot and never will replace RL support.

We know nothing about the OP - and I hope you and your DS are ok - but none of us here should get over involved.

doubt op will come back

I know people are concerned but of course as PD says MN can't take any action. I don't think the OP will come back, but I can't really understand why she posted in the first place, though maybe in a panic and really did want advice. Anyway who knows..................I just hope the OP did go to hospital and will protect her child but we'll never know. Sadly many mothers do in fact fail to protect their children or believe the abuser that he will change. I'm not saying this is the case here but it does happen.