My husband has hit our son... If I take him to hospital, will they take him away?

[GraceLeLe]

I want him checked. However, will he be taken away? I'm staying at a friend's house, to keep away from him.

i wonder perhaps the op is worried she will lose her child?
can't tell though.

Please take him.

He needs at least one parent who is prepared to keep him safe.

Lordy. Poor child. Cannot conceive of not taking dc with head injury to hospital. Hope you're on your way now.

I hope you're at the hospital. He could've killed him, and your are defending him?? Unbelievable.

It's not up to you to decide whether or not prison is for him, quite frankly.

Your priority is your SON. not whether or not your arse of a husband gets put away. Worry about your DS!

The hospital will, quite rightly, report it if they think there is a risk your DS will come into contact with your H. They won't take him away as long as you ensure he is safely away from him. Your H will be investigated and hopefully arrested.

Assault on a child, whether or not he "needed a break", isn't something to be taken so lightly.

The thing is, he never gets violent. He has been good. Just a bit shouty... Prison isn't for him, he just needs a break

Yes he did. He hit your son so hard he was drowsy.

You are minimising this.

Why are you worrying more about your husband going to prison than getting treatment for your son?

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Get him to hospital. Social services will probably be involved, but as long as you are seen to be protecting him from his father and take reasonable steps to prevent further access then he will not be taken from you. Please take him, OP, I know it's scary but he needs looking over asap.

Your DS has been assaulted by your bloody partner and is drowsy because he has a head injury fgs and you're dithering?
I really don't understand when you're hesitating and posting on here rather than getting that poor child checked out!

Or is there more to this? Most people would have immediately gone to the hospital.

Hopefully her next comment is "I'm at the hospital".

As you are the parent who's left your home and now will be taking him to hospital, there is absolutely no reason SS would remove him from your care

Again this is incorrect, I know of plenty of reasons, and the fact shes still posting on MN "looking for advice" 30 mins after her initial post... minimising his actions also speaks volumes to me.

Also the prison isn't good enough for him comment, this shots to be hes been in prison before, its a rather odd phrasing of words.

No, they wo n't take your son away if there is no previous and you commit to keeping him safe. Your dh needs to go, even if it involves the police. If you don't take action now next time will be more serious and you will become likely to lose the lad.

Stop posting about taking him and fucking take him. Poor little love. You can get the abuser out of the house but concentrate on seeking medical attention first! A head injury is not to be take lightly , drowsy afterwards especially.

auto correct Prison isn't for him*

jamie, yes, I noticed that.

I hope to god she's there right now. 'A bit shouty' can also be defined as abuse, as I have recently discovered.

This thread makes for very uncomfortable reading indeed.
I cannot conceive of any reason on gods earth why anyone would be defending the person who hit a child so hard about the head he was drowsy as a result!
I'd have dragged to fucker to the police myself!

On MN instead of rushing your poor baby to hospital ... I literally will never understand these type of posts

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I think it's a really sad thing that there are so many lovely people on MN who are not able to have children.
Grace I hope you've given your head a wobble and taken your son to hospital. I think it's time you started putting your son first for a change.

What do you want posters to say op poor man must have been stressed it was a one off etc etc we cant say anything like that because we dont know your son might have a head injury this is what your priority should be not whether your husband can cope in prison or not quite frankly your priority should be your 3 year old not a grown man

Prison isn't for him.....
If If this happened.
Take him. Head injuries often don't emerge for a few hours, if you've wilfully delayed medical attention and harm comes to your child then yes, you could then be in trouble.

I haven't read all responses, but if you don't act now, somebody could discover this without you bringing it to their attention, and then you would have reason to worry about SS.
Either you are honest and seek care for your son, or you could be seen as complicit in the abuse. Take him to hospital and be honest.

If my ex hit our son, I'd probably have killed him. I guess we don't know the extent to which the OP feels threatened by this man - I imagine, if he's ok with hitting a toddler, she feels pretty scared.

Please, please post to let us know you have taken your son in. The consequences could be far more traumatic than your STBXH going to prison if you don't.