My husband has hit our son... If I take him to hospital, will they take him away?

[GraceLeLe]

I want him checked. However, will he be taken away? I'm staying at a friend's house, to keep away from him.

Your poor boy. Hope it's not too serious and the hospital visit ensures that the authorities get involved to prevent this from happening again.

I fear that this thread is one of those that will get pulled "for the OP's privacy" and all we can do is pray that some third party (neighbour or relative) reports to social services, because sadly, this is one of these situations where OP is so under the thumb of an abusive man that she's not going to get the help her son needs.

OP, I'd like to be able to help you - I know it's hard for women in abusive relationships to see clearly (I watched my sister in one for well over a decade) - but you really do need to get help for your son. But I fear this is going to be one of these instances where you minimize, cover up, hide the thread, get it deleted, let things carry on - until the day when your partner hits your son so hard he kills him.

It does sound like the father has been in prison before and perhaps the OP thinks he's just a bit misunderstood hence the terminology she's used instead of a toe-rag who hits a young child. I very much doubt this child will get to A&E but here's hoping I'm wrong

Would MN have to disclose the IP address to the NSPCC or SS if reported?

Who posts on the internet when there son has suffered a head injury after being hit by an adult?? Not seeking medical treatment is awful and neglectful.

Poor child, let's hope for his sake someone steps in and puts his needs first rather than someone else's.

het. Exactly. If he 'gets away with it' (the piece of shit) this time, there will be a next time - and it could/will be fatal. Wake up, OP, please!

Your ds is your priority. You can't risk it with head injuries. Hope he's ok poor thing.

i can't believe so many people are being sucked in by this.

Reported too. Maybe we should all stop posting until HQ have -deleted-- looked at it.

She's said she's going to the hospital ffs!

Grace

It's okay to be scared. You are doing the right thing getting him looked at. You know you need to or you wouldn't have posted this thread.

But it's okay that it's frightening and that you're worried doing it. You don't need to be skipping off happily you just need to do it.

Social services won't take away a child who is being protected cared for and having their needs met. Show you do that and you have nothing to fear.

Please stop troll hunting. If OP is real
She needs support.

Social services won't take away a child who is being protected cared for and having their needs met. Show you do that and you have nothing to fear.

Again this is incorrect, you could meet your child's needs 110% in every possible way, however if you choose to stay with the abuser, the child can and will be placed in care!

Bore off with your troll hunting, if it's not genuine and has been reported it will be removed.
Even if not genuine it may help another poster in a similar situation by giving them advice or the confidence to address their home issues too!

If your son has an extradural heamatoma from being hit by his dad he will seem fine now. Sometimes by the time it's spotted it can be too late, early examination and treatment is essential. I hope you have made it to the hospital.

Ms I'm not sure if you're trying to make a point, but it's clear that the OP needed to hear that she wouldn't lose her son for her to take him for much needed medical attention - pointing out that she might is likely to stop her taking him, which doesn't help anyone, really.

Nobody can definitively say whether she'll lose her son. As you've said, it depends on a lot including her ability to keep him safe and whether she stays with the abuser. For now, though, if this is real, her son needs help.

The police will only remove your son if they believe he is suffering "immediate significant harm". If you've removed yourself from the abuser then it would seem unlikely to meet that criteria ( you are being a protective parent). If however you do not seek medical treatment for a head injury ( when he has demonstrated symptoms of a concussion) then you are not being a protective parent and essentially failing your son. You will be seen as aiding and abetting the offence. Please get your son to hospital.

Again, yes to jamie. You have nothing to fear if you choose to protect your son against this awful, awful man. If you continue in the relationship, then yes, they will (rightly) want to remove your child. You need professional medical and social services advice, pronto.

Yes I agree, but I'm also here to post the truth, whether it scares the shit out of her or not, shes not to scared to post on MN or run to a friend, where is the friend in all this?

I've seen far to many abuse and even deaths of children to buttercup any of this, so of course I am making a point, don't promise something you have no absolutely no background knowledge of. Se wasn't scared enough to post on MN, rather than taking her child to seek medical help.

Anyway this thread has pissed me of no end, got to walk away from this one.

Poor bloody child, deserves better.

And you 'know' this how, lola?

OP - get your child to hospital, and stay the fuck away from your P. Far far away.

I think msjamiefraser is absolutely right. There's really no point in telling the op what she wants to hear when we don't know any background.
Assuming this is real, there will be consequences when she takes her son to hospital. And rightly so!
None of us can say what the consequences will be.

Hopefully op is at the hospital and talking to the police now

Get your child to hospital now.

Definitely take to hospital