My husband has hit our son... If I take him to hospital, will they take him away?

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I want him checked. However, will he be taken away? I'm staying at a friend's house, to keep away from him.

My heart sunk when I seen a child had been hit then I saw 3 years old,get him to hospital and don't worry about the consequences just get him checked over and safe.

MsJamie - but staying with an abuser is not putting a child first, that's the problem for SS.

I'm speechless. Your son has been assaulted and you are worrying about yourself??!! This is the most selfish, saddest thing I have ever read in here. Ever. What on earth are you doing posting on here? Why are you even asking this question? If you don't know what to do then SS SHOULD take him off you. Unbelievable 😠

I hoped by P6 you would have taken the child to hospital. He's 3 years old, been hit around the head sufficiently hard to make him drowsy (which is a very bad sign) and is "ok" now - I'm a retired social worker and you simply MUST get him checked out at hospital and tell them exactly what happened. This will be of prime importance in the future when social workers are considering whether you are to be trusted to protect your son, by separating from his father (is he the father or SF) on a permanent basis. IF you don't take him to hospital and get the child checked and logged you will be demonstrating that your first priority is protecting the abuser. You should also report the matter to the police for the same reason.

SO don't delay any further. Your child might have a head injury. FGS GO - to A & E NOW.

Perhaps "the friend" is doing the posting on her behalf?

I just think hope this thread is not true...

Of course it's not real. Nobody normal would brush off her DH giving their child a head injury with "he just needs a break".

Would they??

I find it bizarre that a comment included if you meet your child's need 110% but stay with an abuser... well that's not meeting their need to be in a safe environment. You can feed them and clothe them, keep them warm, but if they are constantly at risk of being hit then they aren't safe and NEED to be. Hence SS stepping in.

As long as there isn't any prior issues, you act ASAP to get treatment and totally honest with them I cannot imagine them taking away your DC. You need to keep him away from your husband. I don't think I've seen you say husband is DC father. If that's the case I'd press charges and seek advice (woman's aid or similar) about where to live and accessing benefits/housing/whatever. If it is his dad you NEED to make sure the safeguarding co-ordinator at the hospital contacts SS ASAP, it needs reporting. If you leave husband to keep DS you don't want husband trying to seek access (unless strictly supervised, and not by you, don't let them put you into that situation).

I am glad to see that OP is no longer posting on here, hopefully that means she has taken him to hospital.

A social worker bluesky on P 3 spelled out what needed to happen. I'm beginning to think this is a hoax. That was a very odd comment "prison is not for him"...............

No, they will not remove your son if you keep him away from the abuser. However if your son discloses it to somebody who phone SS, then you will be just as culpable as the abuser for allowing it to happen (in their eyes).

The hospital will almost definitely refer you to SS. I'd be concerned if they didn't. However, if you take the appropriate steps to safeguard your son then they will support you.

Of course it's not real. Nobody normal would brush off her DH giving their child a head injury with "he just needs a break".
Would they??

Agreed!! only time will tell when OP comes back, that's if she comes back.

This thread makes me feel sick.
We won't know if OP has actually taken her son to hospital or not. She obviously was more concerned over her partners welfare than her sons. I wish mumsnet could report IP address to the police where is a significant child protection concern.

He's 3. I can only hope you've taken him to hospital to be checked out.

And tell the truth. Failure to tell the truth will cause even more problems for you. There is no need to protect a grown man who thinks it's ok to hit a 3 year old in the head.

I hope it isn't real so a tiny child has not been hurt by his daddy.

Drowsy after a head injury is very worrying. Urgent attention is essential here. I hope he has now been seen by a doctor. His health and his life are more important than anything else so get him seen, be honest, do your utmost to protect him and take it from there. One thing you will need to do is change your mindset and see that your husband does not just need a break. You will not be able to to protect your son properly thinking like that.

If this was even true, I can't believe anyone doesn't realise that a good mother doesn't ask strangers online. They just take their child.

Um, what? What's with the spell-casting crap

Stop with the troll hunting people.
If you doubt the veracity, report the thread. Let MN work out if the post is genuine.

IF this is real, the OP and her child need help. Not armchair DV non experts scaring the shit out of her and vilifying her.