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Original poster

My husband has hit our son... If I take him to hospital, will they take him away?

210 replies

GraceLeLe · 26/11/2016 11:36

I want him checked. However, will he be taken away? I'm staying at a friend's house, to keep away from him.

OP posts:
PragmaticWench · 26/11/2016 11:48

Don't want to risk your DH getting into trouble, or don't want to risk your DS not being checked properly for any injury or concussion?

Original poster
GraceLeLe · 26/11/2016 11:48

I mean risk it with the head.

Will go now...

Thanks

OP posts:
treaclesoda · 26/11/2016 11:48

You're far more likely to have your son taken away if it comes to light that you didn't seek medical treatment when he was injured than if you are honest and seek help.

You absolutely have to keep him away from your son though, he only has you to protect him.

Trifleorbust · 26/11/2016 11:48

You have to take him to hospital. I can see how this is a very difficult situation but he has seriously harmed your son and taking him back to the house with your husband in it would place him seriously at risk. The hospital will make a social services referral. You need to be absolutely clear that you will do whatever it takes to protect your child.

Good luck Flowers

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Iamdobby63 · 26/11/2016 11:48

Your son won't be taken away from you as long as you protect him from the abuser.

If you are worried you must take him to hospital, they will report it and there will be a follow up from SS who will assess the situation. There is lots of help out there for you. Perhaps having SS involved might help with you either getting him out or finding alternative for you and your son.

ChuckGravestones · 26/11/2016 11:49

He was hit in the head, was a bit drowsy after, but is now okay. I don't want to risk it

You don't want to risk your son being seen by a professional, and your husband being taken out of the house thereby giving you the ability to stay in the house and to keep your husband away from your son in the future?

Go to the hospital and get him seen to.

treaclesoda · 26/11/2016 11:49

By which I mean you will not have your son removed as a result of seeking help.

Original poster
GraceLeLe · 26/11/2016 11:49

You promise they won't take him off me

OP posts:
Parker231 · 26/11/2016 11:49

Stop messing about on Mumsnet and get your DS checked out at the hospital. The police will deal with your abusing DH!

PragmaticWench · 26/11/2016 11:49

Good luck OP, hope your DS is okay.

MrsJayy · 26/11/2016 11:49

You dont want to risk what? your son might be injured your husband hit him take the child to hospital and yes they might involve ss and the police but your sons interests come first fgs take him to be seen take your friend with you tell the hospital what happened your son needs to be safe from his father.

insancerre · 26/11/2016 11:49

No, they won't take him away
Please take him to get checked out
A head injury that causes drowsiness needs looking at

user1479305498 · 26/11/2016 11:49

Really depends if this was a smack or something more. I once smacked my much loved 6 year old son on the cheek and then I bust into tears!! I wouldnt have expected social services to be involved.

NoahVale · 26/11/2016 11:50

we cant make promises, but if you value your child get him seen?

toptoe · 26/11/2016 11:50

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You don't want to risk that your ds has concussion or something more serious going on.

MisterTumnuslegs · 26/11/2016 11:50

If you cover this up and don't get him looked at, and it comes to light, you stand a very very good chance of losing him. For his sake and yours go to hospital.

Iamdobby63 · 26/11/2016 11:50

So long as you keep him away from the abuser they won't remove him.

FromIbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 26/11/2016 11:51

You have to put your son first here. He is 3 years old, he needs to be safe and protected from harm.

He has had a blow to the head and he has felt drowsy ....GET HIM SEEN TO NOW PLEASE!

treaclesoda · 26/11/2016 11:51

It doesn't matter what mumsnetters say about anything. All that matters is that you get him checked out. You can't mess around with a head injury.

LIZS · 26/11/2016 11:51

The longer you delay having him checked , the worse it will seem. Please just go. Have you reported dv before?

Trifleorbust · 26/11/2016 11:51

No-one can promise anything will/won't happen, OP. We don't know the background. But you are placing him at further risk by not getting him checked out after his father hit him in the head. That is the bottom line. He needs to go to hospital.

MisterTumnuslegs · 26/11/2016 11:51

User14793xxx do one, will you?

Friendinneed2016 · 26/11/2016 11:52

Promise as long as you can provide somewhere safe for him (I.e. Not anywhere near your husband). You will have social services involved and they will monitor you closely initially. Don't be afraid, theubwant what's best for your son (which is tonne chevked over and with you).

MrsJayy · 26/11/2016 11:52

Nobody here can promise you anything lovey but tell the truth to the hospitalthis wasn't your fault.