My husband has hit our son... If I take him to hospital, will they take him away?

[GraceLeLe]

I want him checked. However, will he be taken away? I'm staying at a friend's house, to keep away from him.

user , fgs this is obviously more than that , isnt it?

I am a social worker who has worked in child protection. You obviously need to get your DS checked out and you need to tell the medical staff exactly what happens. Don't lie as this will make things worse for you. This will prompt their CP procedures and the police and social work will become involved to find out what happens and bring any charges. As long as you are acting as the protective parent and can make plans to keep your child safe there should be no need to remove him from your care. Make sure you have a robust plan and a place to stay with your child. Good luck.

You have to do what is right for your child.

Take it step by step

Ignoring the injury is not right for your child.

If you haven't hurt him, then you are not a threat to him. If you ignore or cover up injuries someone else causes him, you are a threat to his welfare. I would think if you don't take him, social services will almost definitely become involved and you will be acting inappropriately and not in his best interests so the chances are they may take steps to protect him from the abuser and you for not helping him when he needs it. Sorry to be blunt.

Not getting medical attention for your son would make you complicit in allowing the abuse. Prioritise his needs, go to hospital, then accept the help that will be triggered when you explain the circumstances.

You cant not take him because your first instinct is to hide what has been done.

This is your child, he's utterly defenceless. He needs you to protect him.

It also sounds like you need some outside help to remove your bloke from your lives. Take him to hospital now and get him checked. Be honest with them and ask,for help.

If you don't you may live to regret it in more ways than one. Please take him.

The thing is, he never gets violent. He has been good. Just a bit shouty... Prison isn't for him, he just needs a break

not by playing russian roulette with your child op

I saw upthread that you'd said you accepted you had to go, OP - hope you're on the way to hospital now. Head injury with drowsiness has to be checked out, you can't leave it. Deal with the knock-on consequences later.

shouty is not a good attitude as a parent.

Grace, you're in a panic, and that's ok, but right now, all that matters is your little boy getting the medical attention he needs. Right now that needs to be your priority, sort everything else out afterwards. We'll all be here for support.

And what about your son. What does he need?!

I'm reporting this thread now, I cannot conceive the idea that any part would lead with a toddler injured to protect some fucking loser.

same here whatthefreak

You are now minimising what has happened. Your grown DH has hit a tiny child. He has assaulted his own child. Just let the process unfold and let the police decide whether the circumstances dictate that he should be charged or otherwise.

The thing is, he never gets violent.
Yes he does. He just did.

If you take your son to the hospital, and you promise that you wont let DH near him again, they won't take him away from you.

If you don't take him to the hospital and social services find out later, they will wonder why you put your son last.

sounds like weekend fun and games from the op, imo

Can people stop saying they wont take him away, but none of you know the OP or her circumstances or if she has CSC involvement!!! Its insane for any of you to say other then the truth! Is that a bunch of strangers on the internet cannot promise you a dam thing.

You need to take your son to hospital, tell the whole truth and go from there.

I say that as an "ex" social worker.

The thing is, he never gets violent. He has been good. Just a bit shouty... Prison isn't for him, he just needs a break

Not your call to make though. He has been violent. You shouldn't live in fear of him shouting or being physical, nor should your Ds. He can't protect himself, so you have to. Sorry but you are minimising his behaviour. If you can't /won't accept this SS may have little choice. I suspect there may be more to it than this one incident.

Noahvale what was the point of that?

I am taking him I am just worried

OP, I fully understand & get how you feel.

You are trying to see things from both sides right now, it hasn't happened before so it's easy to make excuses.

Coming on here and asking for advice is probably the wrong decision, too many people on here who judge without knowing anything, humans for you!

Of course, no one knows how hard he hit your child, exactly where & other key info we'd need to make an informed decision.

Obviously by you saying that your son became drowsy after, it could have been from being hit depending how hard however it could have been from crying.....

I'd say take him to hospital......what a lot of people do not know is that no matter what a child is taken to a&e for, whether it's suspicious or not, social services are informed each and every time.

As you are the parent who's left your home and now will be taking him to hospital, there is absolutely no reason SS would remove him from your care.

OP, he hit your DS over the head hard enough to make him drowsy. That is assault. I am not one of the posters on MN (no offence to anyone) who wigs out when someone smacks a kid on the bum, but this is abuse. He cannot be allowed to get away with it and the only person who can protect your 3 year old, who cannot speak for himself, is you. This is your job as a parent, and it is the first and most important responsibility you have. Please seek help.

OP, you're minimising. Your husband may need a break. I need a break - doesn't mean it's acceptable for me to hit my children.

Your son will not be removed from you as long as you are protecting him, and that means seeking medical assistance and keeping him away from the abuser. SS will rightly be informed, that is a good thing as they can offer you a lot of support that you WILL need going forward from here.

Your child has to be your absolute priority. Stop worrying about what could happen to his a father, and start worrying about what his father could have done to him.

Are you on the way to the hospital?

I don't expect an answer as I'm sure you are.

Why do you care what happens to the bully who hit your child?

The thing is, he never gets violent. He has been good. Just a bit shouty... Prison isn't for him, he just needs a break

He has just hit a 3 year old child on the head, stop minimising and get your son to hospital.