OP
I found with my first half the stuff I thought I needed I barely used. You need to start as you mean to go on, doing this by yourself. If you shop around, and are savvy, and make the most of nearly new sales, primark, amazon, asda, the coupons in the boots parenting club packs, the bounty packs, Mothercare even have a layaway scheme where you can pay weekly for stuff, facebook groups etc, you can replace this stuff cheaply. Moneysavingexpert is another great site for ideas. Let him have his stuff, because starting off like this with the mother of his child will not serve him well.
Ring the police, report the threats. It is only going to get worse. You need to document what has been said and threatened, because when he cant control you through material/financial means, he will through your child. You need advice and to take action now. See a solicitor or ring womens aid, and let your midwife know, she may well be able to offer support.
Few things to think about
-Is he coming to the birth? If you don't want him there let the hospital know to not let him on the ward, you don't want a scene.
- How involved do you want him?
- Is he, or has he ever been violent?
Can you go stay with a friend or family member for a few days to allow the situation to calm down?
Your health and the health of the baby is your priority at the minute. Report every nasty text or threat, if he turns up, don't answer the door, but phone the police. Don't communicate with him at all now, until after the baby has been born. If even then.