Online dating...... where have all the good men gone? Thread 110.

[Evilwater]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

loobyloo1234 Well, I'm currently ignoring. Currently stuck on rule eight.

Haha pringle - yes, get us for wanting a boyfriend!

Clawdeen I still can't get over the very unattractive man with "ethnically non-monogamous" in his profile... WTH.

And yes- must NOT comfort eat.

I haven't encountered anyone on OLD that views dating as a means to a possible relationship.

Clawdeen I'm half-convinced one day I'm going to flip and just randomly ask out a man IRL and accidentally live happily ever after.

It genuinely blows my mind the audiacity of the ugly bastards dicking us around, just no more if he's not drop dead gorgeous with a 10" cock and a Porsche then forget it. I'm not going out in this weather for any less

They are totally deluded pringle. Or am I naive. Perhaps OLD works for them and there is a stream of people wanting to shag these men?

I've had messages from 2 men tonight trying to persuade me that ethical non monogamy is more honest, truthful, restorative for our souls and that I shouldn't knock it until I try it. . . This is despite putting monogamous at the start of my profile. maybe they've seen that as a challenge.

Had a message from 1 guy claiming to be married and wondering if my moral compass is low enough to join him in fun times sneaking into hotel rooms.

Oh pringle you have made me spit my tea out laughing at the idea of your real life flip. I was asked out in RL earlier in the year and ended up in something that in hindsight was truly crap but it was so much better than the OLD stress that I put up with it for far too long.
And yes to the weather- they are going to have to work to get a date. And they are going to have to be amazing to get any action- I have at least 3 layers on at all times!

Thanks, Pisssssedofff, that genuinely made me chuckle IRL.

Clawdeen We're clearly the weird ones. Clearly.

Clawdeen If it ever happens, you'll be first to know!

On the subject of OK Cupid, I haven't seen one decent looking bloke on there, is it worth doing some sort of search? I just look at the ones messaging me and think er no

Pisssssedofff I haven't used OKC, but in bad news, I've noticed some of the POF men appearing on Bumble! Seems they've cottoned on.

We need a new site to tap...

Any suggestions, anyone? There must be some decent men somewhere!

I'm presuming I'm not allowed to say the same about women, pringle

I found bumble a waste of time and have deleted tinder AGAIN lol

Bant Equal opportunity moaning on this thread, sir!

Anyone tried happn?

Never heard of it Pringle

oops sorry about the odd double alias ( ??? )

pringlecat my stats are not great. I had quite a few first dates, one lasted 45 seconds, one the guy went to toilet and never came back leaving me to foot the bill, one would have moved in the same day (this are just the worst)
I also had some good one off, if you see what I mean.....
A couple I went out 3/4 times but I couldn't take them further ( platonic )

Than finally I met someone I really liked but ........ he bailed out

hence I am not feeling the all thing anymore
sigh if it took me 12 months to find someone I fancied........ what chance have I got now ?!?!

Its a chore

BoxingHelena 45 seconds? Wow, I think you may have just won a record. That's bloody awful! There really are some jerks out there.

I've tried Happn. But if you have issues with stalking, it's def not the app for you

I.E Cross Pringle crosses paths with Stalker ... and then everytime you cross paths, it comes up again, and again. It also tells you within yards I think how far you are from someone

I found it way too intense

Thanks, loobyloo1234. I'll give that one a swerve then.

Goodness looby that does sound intense! I'd develop a nervous twitch!

The two worst first dates that stick out I my memory were:

She was acting weird, very unsettled and twitchy. Kept ordering drinks and trying to make origami with the napkins, and build sculptures with the cutlery. After a few minutes she said she'd been fired that day for not dealing with her anger management issues.

I slid the cutlery away from her place when she was in the loo, paid for the drinks and left

Another one said 'well you look nothing like your pictures'
She thought I was another man, we'd been texting for a few weeks and she thought I was blonde and clean shaven. Awkward date from then on.

Other highlights. She safety-texted her friend to say 'nice guy, not sure if I fancy him yet, but he's funny. Terrible dress sense' and accidentally sent it to me by mistake. While I was in the loo.

One, on our first date said 'you look just like my husband'

We went out for 18 months, but it was a recurring theme.

Any other war stories?

I know I think it's good if you're in a big city I guess ... as it means you'll cross paths with hundreds/thousands of men. But if you're a not in a big city, it could get awks crossing paths with the same one person over and over haha

Oh Bant she must have been mortified when she realised she'd sent that text to you!! Was she still there when you came out?