"Accidentally" slept with my boss (face palm)

[HaveILostMyMind]

I don't know what to do. I work in a smallish team and we all get on really well. I was at university with my immediate boss about 10 years ago, we knew each other, but not all that well and I hadn't seen him until I started this job last year. I have just come out of a 5 year relationship and he has been single for the last year or so since his engagement broke up. We were working late to meet a dealine last night and were joking around, I have no idea what came over us but we were both being a little flirty and we ended up kissing. I went back to his apartment and we ended up in bed together. I never do this! Now I'm really worried about seeing him at work on Monday. Should I just act like it never happened or try and speak with him about it? I feel like a total idiot, and can't believe I did this.

Yea...I sort of left out the MN crisis in my bid to appear as a normal rational human being. I thought at one point he was a mn'er himself after he declared he wasn't so much my boss as an old university friend. He apparently remembers me bringing him dinner to the library one evening when he'd got his deadline wrong and was pulling an all nighter. So I just need to not panic

Aww that's lovely OP enjoy!

I love this
Sounds promising! So glad you had a proper chat with him OP!

Ooh this is lovely! And a good sign that he is offering to transfer teams himself so your relationship can develop. Exciting OP!

lovely news.

The first night I met DP, we stayed up talking all night till three in the morning....

That was thirty four years ago...

This is lovely - but do check the work rules. Our code of conduct specifically forbids relationships between people at different levels in the same reporting line, because there are potential issues around favouritism and so on when it comes to reviewsee, pay, bonuses, promotion and so on. Even if you do manage to play that side of it objectively, others may not see it that way, which will cause tension. Would here be opportunities for either of you to take a sideways move to another reporting line? Or even get a job in a different company?

Very pleased for you.

Have you discussed with him if you're going to keep it quiet amongst work colleagues until one of you has transferred teams?

Awwww how nice. If he's talking about requesting a team move for himself in the New Year it means he's very keen on you and is trying to make the situation at work easier for you. Sounds good :)

ooooh. he's a keeper - think of it as serendipity rather than an accident

How exciting! Hope it all works out

Hurrah!

That's lovely.

It's good to know there are still some men left in the world who can sleep with a woman and not immediately ghost her / shove her in a taxi / tell her it didn't mean anything and he's not looking for a relationship.

Aw love this

He likes you, likes you. Awww. Sometimes it might not be the right time but works out well in the end... One date at a time for the moment

Don't think we're going to come out at work. The teasing would be merciless I think. We're going to have dinner again tonight, and I'll try and control myself

You need to keep us posted on this one HaveILostMyMind.

Yay!!!! Good luck!

Good luck!!

So lovely!!! Congratulations on your new man OP!

How lovely. Very best wishes for it all going well, both relationshipwise and workwise.

Oooh oooh ooh - so exciting

Three nights in a row?! Blimey, that's serious. I agree about keeping quiet at work but I bet someone will guess .

My ds met his dp at work and they are utterly perfect together. Luckily she moved job very quickly. Relationships in the workplace aren't great IME so moving teams around is a good plan.

Enjoy.