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"Accidentally" slept with my boss (face palm)

325 replies

HaveILostMyMind · 05/11/2016 17:05

I don't know what to do. I work in a smallish team and we all get on really well. I was at university with my immediate boss about 10 years ago, we knew each other, but not all that well and I hadn't seen him until I started this job last year. I have just come out of a 5 year relationship and he has been single for the last year or so since his engagement broke up. We were working late to meet a dealine last night and were joking around, I have no idea what came over us but we were both being a little flirty and we ended up kissing. I went back to his apartment and we ended up in bed together. I never do this! Now I'm really worried about seeing him at work on Monday. Should I just act like it never happened or try and speak with him about it? I feel like a total idiot, and can't believe I did this.

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Sprinklestar · 05/11/2016 18:47

You'll be married by this time next year! Go for it, OP!

justdontevenfuckingstart · 05/11/2016 18:48

He text you, has told you about his day. Just reply like a normal person. No, i've been pootling about doing xyz, haven't really thought about what to do for dinner yet. How did the away game go?

Mishaps · 05/11/2016 18:52

"Accidentally"? Right - so we women really don't know what we are doing or what we want - for goodness sake get a grip.

rawsienna · 05/11/2016 18:52

You'll be married by this time next year! Go for it, OP!

Or not.

he has been single for the last year or so since his engagement broke up

Reading between the lines, it sounds as if he has form for getting too close to work employees. Hmm
Could be you a year down the line, having to 'break off the engagement'

MalcolmTuckersEyebrows · 05/11/2016 18:58

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Tryingmybest4them · 05/11/2016 18:59

I'm rooting for you op! We all deserve a bit of fun Grin

Mistletoekids · 05/11/2016 19:00

Go for dinner! Let us know! Good luck

SeenYourArse · 05/11/2016 19:02

Go for dinner,have an hones and open chat about how you both feel and go from there I think he sounds lovely give it a chance!

SuperFlyHigh · 05/11/2016 19:03

I can't believe the judgemental posts here or like rawsienna says re getting too close to work colleagues! How do you know he does that rawsienna?! A bit of a downer to predict OP will end up disengaged you've got no idea how his engagement ended or why!

Go for it OP - if the sex was bad or you don't like him as a person then obviously don't go for it but if you do like him then go out for dinner or on a date and have a good time! good luck. not placemarking oh no!

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 05/11/2016 19:03

Aww, he really does like you, please go, so what if he's the Boss !
You must have felt something to start kissing etc.
There are no rules in love, just go, and have a lovely time ! 😀💐

seminakedinsomebodyelsesroom · 05/11/2016 19:05

Awe he likes you. We need an update? Have you eaten him Wink

OohhThatsMe · 05/11/2016 19:05

In this context he's not your boss; he's your old friend from university.

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HaveILostMyMind · 05/11/2016 19:07

mishaps I'm only speaking as an individual, I'm not saying women who have ONS don't know what they're doing, I was just surprised at the situation I got myself into. Sorry if I offended you.

rawsienna his ex fiancé wasn't an employee.

He's going to cook something and I'm going to not panic about having my first ONS.

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HaveILostMyMind · 05/11/2016 19:08

The Toby Ziegler quote made me LOL.

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DorindaJ · 05/11/2016 19:12

HaveLost, he sounds like a normal (dare I say) decent guy. Proceed slowly, it might be really lovely. My fingers are crossed for you. I love a happy ending.

Mummyoflittledragon · 05/11/2016 19:12

He's going to cook! That's serious wooing. For now, perhaps go for it and see how you feel.

daisydalrymple · 05/11/2016 19:13

Don't panic about the potential second night stand either Grin hope you have a lovely evening

tellyjots · 05/11/2016 19:15

Have fun. If he didn't like you he wouldn't have apologised for not replying to your message sooner or offered to cook. Don't think about it too much, just go with the flow Smile

ShowMeTheElf · 05/11/2016 19:15

Is there another team you could transfer into if this progresses? Old friend, lots on common, mutual flirtation turns into attraction turns into more. Sounds lovely just don't bugger your career in the process......

MsJamieFraser · 05/11/2016 19:17

You are a consenting adult! You did not accidentally, quotations wont minimise this, you choose to have sex with him!

As for speaking to him about you having sex with him, you can keep it professional, in work professional, out of work... what ever you like.

ecuse · 05/11/2016 19:18

If you go round for dinner and shag him again then you won't need to worry, as it will no longer be a ONS. Have fun Grin.

Chilver · 05/11/2016 19:19

Go have dinner, be mature and chat to him about last night. Definitely talk to him about it before work on Monday, would be super awkward otherwise!

KnittingPearl · 05/11/2016 19:21

Have a lovely evening, and I hope it goes well.

BurnTheBlackSuit · 05/11/2016 19:21

Just to make sure- cooking for you?

I met my husband at work ;)

RockyBird · 05/11/2016 19:25

One in 3 couples meet at work.

That's a lot of boss-shagging, presuming not everyone sticks to bumping uglies with someone on the same grade as them Grin

Have fun OP