NoCapes thread 3 - flying solo

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Thread 3

Fuck New Year put the hoody on a bonfire tonight
That's why I made sure I got every single piece of his clothing out of here when he left, because I did used to love sleeping in his t-shirts and I'd have probably done just what your ex is hoping for

That's what I'm hoping for at the bonfire, it is local to school so hopefully I'll find someone to awkwardly stand with

Haha I would, but it's a nice jumper and very warm... Maybe I'll donate it to a homeless shelter!

I tried to but I missed a few I think it's all gone now though! apart from the bloody hoody

Oh I'm sure someone will be there! Fireworks displays are like kid magnets

stick it on the door handle outside !

Just dropping in to see how y'all are?

Just dropping in to see how y'all are?

How's things Capes? I'm hoping day to day with the children is getting a bit easier now

guess what im watching-no capes! cant wait for the sequel

hope youre well

I'm fine thanks guys day to day is much easier, I think I've finally got baby into a proper routine now so the days are predictable, much easier!
How are we all? sky?

Gabs good choice!

Glad you're doing ok capes. Dh was asking me to check if you'd posted.

Just stumbled across this fred! So sorry about tlwhat must have happened towards the end of the previous fred. And Happy Birthday Mini-Capes!

Will go look for part 2 now, for catching up.

Good o on the baby Capey-that will make life easier for sure.

hey Capes! Started to think you'd vanished on us

I'm doing good, this will be the third weekend in a row that XP hasn't seen DD so I'm not playing around now. He can take me to court but I doubt he will.

Dad's coming over today so we might go out or we might just stay in and have a coffee I'm not sure yet! I think my sister will be with him and she loves DD so that will be nice

Do you have plans for the weekend?

its his loss sky i agrfee let him tak u to court he cant just turn up on w him

has your ex been to see kids nocapes?

Everyone okay? X

Hey Capes. How is your life moving on ? Has X finally sorted out a place to live ? oe is he still forcing himself into your house?

Hit us with it ? has he moved back in ?

Mix56

No of course not Mix

He still hasn't sorted anywhere to live so visits with the kids are getting shorter as its getting colder 🙄
He still 'loves me and misses me' 🙄🙄
I still get drunk phone calls every weekend that I ignore and he doesn't mention when he's sober
I'm still lonely and miss him and have to regularly talk myself out of changing my mind

But yeah everything else is calm, not much to report, just getting on with life

Well done Capes. (Sorry ,apparently MrsBlue didn't like me nudging !!!) I am so glad you are being strong & resisting the lonliness, but it will slowly improve slowly as you make new friends !

Surely he will decide to find somewhere to live where he can take the DCs or is he still hoping to move back in ?

I think he's still hoping to come back to be honest

I have been trying to get out and make new friends and I'm doing ok tbh, I've been volunteering at school events and had a few nights out with a few mums, aswell as some stuff with all our kids, and I did my eyebrow course today where I forced myself to be chatty and pretend I was bubbly and confident (it was only pretend though!) so I feel ok on that front
It's the evenings that are a killer isn't it, especially in winter when it's dark at 4pm, I wish I had someone to snuggle up with 😕

Mix56 not the nudging but the assumption he'd moved back in!

Apologies nocapes I haven't commented before but followed your story, I also kicked my exh out back in march. You're doing fab and it's so motivating to read how strong others are.

It'll happen Capes; and if he were living with you now, would you really be snuggling up with him ? On a Saturday night ?
And who was he snuggling up with on that last night when he didn't come home ?
And yes, the long evenings are hard.....

glad youre getting on ok -its bound to be hard but remember its not him u necessarily miss its someone and one day u will get that someone

also jut say it straight please find somewhere more permanent to live so u can have regular visits with your children

Wasn't really intending to be critical, I felt that Capes had been working so hard to fight him off. It was a possibility.
So bloody well done Capes.That's great that you have done the course, & have been upping the effort, it will pay off !
Does he still come to yours to see Dis? Tell him he's had largely enough time now & needs to find an alternative, Your house will no longer available.
It will help you to know it is permanent when he has his own place. if he chooses his mother's (cheaper/easier) it shows that he isn't really interested in parenting.
as PP said, cuddling up in the evening was only an option 2 times a week.
I could send a big cuddly toy.